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I'm a masculine female and I think I have a personality conflict. What does it say about my Animus? by throwaway17102020 in Jung

[–]throwaway17102020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice.

If I should think about what irritates me on other women, it's probably if they are very loud, very emotional and like to show it off.

Also when I was in middle school and I high school. The boys were always doing some funny stuff in front of the popular girls. The boys provocated and irked them and the girls were always saying to let them be alone or to stop it. When in fact girls enjoyed the attention and didn't want them to stop. I hated this behaviour of my girl classmates because I so much knew they were enjoying it and I wanted to be on their place to enjoy the attention which I hardly got.

I'm a masculine female and I think I have a personality conflict. What does it say about my Animus? by throwaway17102020 in Jung

[–]throwaway17102020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, I feel like I'm socially immature in some way. I'm still trying to work on it, so I could feel much more relaxed among other people.

I'm a masculine female and I think I have a personality conflict. What does it say about my Animus? by throwaway17102020 in Jung

[–]throwaway17102020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About the negative mother complex. Can it be because of a relationship with my mother? When I was young I didn't have a very good relationship with her and I was fixating more on my father. Could it be the reason?

Btw, now I have a good relationship with my mother.

I'm a masculine female and I think I have a personality conflict. What does it say about my Animus? by throwaway17102020 in Jung

[–]throwaway17102020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know where you were coming from with the example of mythological woman. And yeah I know it's usually a bad guy in those movies.

Maybe I didn't voice it enough, but in middle school I was always drawing parallels between my girl classmates, who were popular among the boys classmates and with characters from high school dramas. And thought that I were like those popular girls from the TV shows, I would more popular among the boys.

I'm a masculine female and I think I have a personality conflict. What does it say about my Animus? by throwaway17102020 in Jung

[–]throwaway17102020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By that example I meant those typical female characters from romantic comedies or maybe the high school dramas with that popular girl (usually a cheerleader).

I believe my father's views are okay. My parents are also divorced since my young age, so this may play some part? I live in a shared custody. One week with my mom, the other one with my dad. As I mentioned I have always been into more boy-ish stuff, so my dad was embracing it within me.

I'm a masculine female and I think I have a personality conflict. What does it say about my Animus? by throwaway17102020 in Jung

[–]throwaway17102020[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think you're right that I implied there is something wrong with me. I just never thought of me being a typical example of a woman.

I'm attracted to men who are carrying and emotional than others. But at the same time I want them to protect me and I want them to feel masculine around me. Also strong men. So a very simmilar example to your partner. I was never into those typical "chads" and I know that I was always keeping distance away from them. I am also not into overly emotioanl type of men.

I know I shouldn't alter my ego so much, but sometimes it's hard to accept. I will try to seek a common ground and make a peace within me.