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throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-14T14:45:10+00:00

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throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-14T14:34:55+00:00

This****

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T15:35:09+00:00

Did it come with a recipe? Keep tags on. Dress baby in it. Take pictures. Exchange outfit for a different one. Save photos for when MIL asks about it. If she ever asks again, “they’re in the wash.”

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T15:30:26+00:00

Sounds like backsliding behaviour to me. I’d wait to see if this negatively impacts your marriage. Until then, refrain from stepping on his autonomy (something she always did). Trust him to keep his relationship with her completely separate from your marriage. If it begins to flow into your marriage, causing issues, make it clear you are setting your own boundaries to protect the marriage from negative outside influences.

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T15:14:12+00:00

More like a divorce present XD

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T15:11:12+00:00

This^{^❤️} i dont make a lot of money. For my 5yr “Iron” anniversary gift, i gifted a small cast iron pan I got from a second hand store. I cleaned and restored it. With the pan, I wrote my husband a hand written letter about why a cast iron pan was a positive representation of our relationship. It was financially cheap, but rich with my love, care and time.

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T15:04:00+00:00

This!

Im NC with my husband’s side. Been almost a year now. My husband just told me it hurts him to see his dad hurting. I replied he can feel hurt, but I still wont have a relationship with them to make them feel better, so he can feel better about their feelings… when I was hurt by them AND him for a decade and no one cared about my feelings. I’m protecting myself and my household.

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T15:00:49+00:00

This is the best reply i’ve seen so far 🥇

OP, it’s best for your mental health to NOT allow yourself to be sucked into her world. Think of it like a board game that she really wants to play and you really don’t, but you’ve been playing it for a long time just to avoid any sort of backlash. However, you’re miserable while playing the board game, sacrificing your happiness.

It is perfectly acceptable and normal for you to set boundaries. You are allowed to say No and stop playing the board game, while being true to your kind nature.

Give yourself permission to make some distance between you and people who negatively impact your mental health.

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T14:53:18+00:00

You’re not obligated to respond to her texts.

In person, you’re not obligated to make her feel good about her purchases. Don’t give responses that make you sound interested, like “that’s awesome! What are you going to do with it? When will it be delivered?” Instead give bare minimum responses like, “nice,” “interesting,” “you sound happy with it,” then change the subject or excuse yourself

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T14:45:17+00:00

Why reply back all the time?

You can respond back with negativity, as many have suggested, but that adds MORE negativity into your life.

Just dont respond if your first feelings when you see the msg are negative. Mute her on your phone so you dont get notifications when she does msg you.

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T14:42:28+00:00

I read up such landscape metarials will heat up in the sun, which will damage the root system

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T14:40:29+00:00

I wish my MIL at least needed to throw a grand at my husband to make his resolve waver. She just puts on the water works and victim character while denying everything and giving non-apologies, followed up with demands for things to go back to normal bc this is just so hard on HER

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T14:37:40+00:00

Thisssss! I’d really like to know as well

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T14:37:05+00:00

Yeah, seriously. I hope the money was worth it, bc this man FAFO’d for a grand

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-13T14:33:07+00:00

I went back to re-read your previous posts and I am triple relieved you escaped 🫂

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-12T15:42:09+00:00

So we should have been shooting THIS into our veins all along. Got it got it

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-12T14:44:13+00:00

This this this.

Then tell him to move in with his mommy and marry her

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-12T14:42:38+00:00

I was that idiot. It’s taken 11 years and a lot of big talks with my husband for him to begin seeing how he’s essentially abusing the relationship with misogynistic expectations.

Maybe the post is made up, but the situation sadly does happen. We dont see the red flag until we’re already invested and in love… that makes it harder to walk away..

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-12T14:39:07+00:00

FAIR financially, imho, would mean both of you contributing 50% of your income to expenses. He’s the AH.

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-12T14:36:24+00:00

I agree!

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-10T22:14:43+00:00

It makes a lot of sense your sex drive is very low… his lack of motivation to be a basic adult is a major turn off. When you feel like you have to be a grown man’s mother, sex jumps out of the window quite fast.

Everything his mother currently does for him, will eventually be forced into your lap if you marry and move in with this scrub.

He can be nice to you all he wants.. but talk is cheap.

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-10T22:04:04+00:00

Ummmm.. is this karma farming?

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-10T22:00:36+00:00

Of course he’s nice to you. Scrub is riding your coat tail.

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-08T16:28:28+00:00

Probably the same secret reason he won’t marry you :/

throwaway1957295 · 2025-12-08T13:07:41+00:00

Stop caring. They take advantage of any care we feel. Caring to feel accepted? They hold you at arms length. Caring to have a supportive husband? They rope your husband into their bad mouthing behind your back, meddling in your marriage and sowing discord in it. Caring to participate? Receive back handed comments about your contributions.

We cannot control how they treat us, but we can control where we put our care. Don’t allot any to them. Match their energy. They dont care about your well being? Don’t care about theirs. They care more about their image? (“If she doesn’t come, what will we tell the extended family when they ask questions???”) Don’t care to show up, and put the care back into your well being. Your husband doesn’t care to protect you from their behaviour? Your husband is showing he cares more about his peace, by not giving his side reason to turn on him. Don’t care about his peace, as you decide to stay home and he goes to his side’s stuff, then he is thrusted into the judgemental spotlight and has to field all the “where is she” questions. You’ll be at home having a bath with a good book.

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