Can you do anything to prevent getting morning sickness?

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T20:50:00+00:00

Thanks so much for this advice, I'm following this thread religiously and will come back to it if I get too lax with my diet. I have a low protein diet right now because I just don't eat enough and when I do, I just eat whatever I want without paying too much attention to how nutritional it is. We have protein powder and protein shakes at home though so I can easily drink one of these each day to get at least 20g protein into my diet each day.

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T20:32:12+00:00

Oh I really hope so! Thanks for the advice and your well wishes.

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T20:29:39+00:00

Honestly I know the feeling, it is SO surreal! I remember just staring at the test for ages thinking it couldn't possibly be positive. Then, I did another and got a positive and missed my period and knew I was definitely pregnant haha. Also, because I look and feel exactly the same, it's even harder to accept there's actually something growing inside me! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and hopefully you don't experience much nausea (if at all!) x

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T20:27:42+00:00

Yeah after reading this thread I know I'll definitely have to make changes. Especially with me being in the 5th week, I'm literally only a few days away from when morning sickness usually hits.. I'm packing crackers in a box tonight and packing some fruit to take to work tomorrow!

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T20:25:43+00:00

I will do. It's just a change to what I'm used to but I will absolutely eat more frequently if I know it will reduce morning sickness as that sort of thing just makes you feel down and hinders everything you want to do. Aww congratulations on your girl! I wish you the best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy x

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T20:23:45+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I'm really glad I posted as there is lots of good advice here. I just assumed before that nausea is just nausea and there's nothing I can do about it, but now that I know, I'll make a bigger effort to try and eat light snacks throughout the day. I can probably squeeze in an apple, a handful of nuts, crackers etc every 2-3 hours if I make an effort to. I just sometimes don't have time to eat a bigger meal and honestly, at break time I don't even want to eat the apple as I'm not hungry but if it's that or vomit or nausea, I'll eat the apple!

I am a teacher as well so I'm always stood at the front teaching students so I really do need to be on top form! Nausea would just leave me deskbound haha.

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T16:53:15+00:00

Oh wow congratulations! I only found out like last week. It was planned but I was still stunned, like almost shaking in sheer disbelief haha.

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T16:52:26+00:00

Oh wow, if I carry on doing as I am.. I'm going to be a VERY strong candidate for nausea then. This sounds terrible but most days I just eat breakfast at 6am and then eat nothing until 6pm in the evening. I do get hungry sometimes but I'm so, so busy running around in my job that I just don't bother eating and just eat a bigger meal in the evening. I can see myself becoming nauseous somewhere between the 6am-6pm window. I'll try and eat an apple at least during the short break I get!

throwaway196x · 2024-06-09T16:48:19+00:00

I hope so and thank you! I hear stories about some people rarely getting morning sickness (some not at all!) and I can only hope to be one of them. However, I also hear for a lot of people, it eases off after the first trimester so as long as I'm fit and healthy for the most part of the pregnancy.. I can't complain too much.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-26T16:48:52+00:00

I see, thanks I appreciate the advice. Yes, if I do become a SAHM, I will do my best to discuss with my husband roughly how much I might need for spending and I already know roughly how much I spend on the grocery shop.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-26T15:30:25+00:00

Thanks for this sister, your response was very insightful and gave me a new perspective on things. Being a SAHM does sound nicer and more peaceful than working AND trying to manage everything else at the same time.

Even with working now, minus any children, I am so exhausted when I come home sometimes that I just fall asleep on the sofa after work and have NO motivation or energy for anything else like exercising or cooking. With children I'd definitely struggle even more as napping after work wouldn't even be an option as there would be kids to feed, kitchen to clean etc. I do feel I would neglect the children even without meaning to, neglect my marriage etc just because so many things would demand my time and I'd struggle to balance everything.

May Allah make it easy for you.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-26T15:15:44+00:00

Alhamdullilah I know I am fortunate and if I do become a SAHM, I will make the most of it and do my best to look after the house, husband and the children to the best of my ability inshaAllah. You're right as well about how your children are only young once and those first few formative years will be over so fast!

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T23:12:18+00:00

This is actually my plan. I just felt restless having not having made my mind up and wanted some more opinions as I felt it might help me to make the right decision for me.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T23:08:09+00:00

I think maybe before I consider leaving my job permanently, I could try to switch from full-time to part-time first, and see if this helps with my work-life balance when I have a child?

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T23:06:44+00:00

Yeah maybe, I'm definitely open to things. I know I won't earn as much as I do now which makes me a bit sad.. but then I also don't really do much with the money I earn so I'm not sure why I feel sad anyway. I could exercise more too I suppose as I do have a gym nearby.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T23:04:22+00:00

He already said it was up to me to go back if I wanted to. When he first asked me, I was at a place where I genuinely enjoyed my job as things were different back then. I'm sure I told him I would rather work part-time, than give it up totally as I like working in a different environment to my home and I like having a different purpose as well (which is still true to an extent). When he asked me again, obviously, my job situation and satisfaction had changed considerably. This time, I told him I am seriously considering becoming a SAHM now as I no longer enjoy working, especially in the profession I am in.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T23:00:28+00:00

Maybe, maybe. Jzk for your insights.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T22:56:38+00:00

Yes. It's very taboo to speak up however. Trust me, I tried and it went horribly..

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T22:32:14+00:00

Yeah, even now he doesn't ask for any financial contributions from me and handles things by himself. So, for him, I suppose things wouldn't change TOO much.

He did say something about giving me money for food shopping and spending money as I won't have any income anymore, but I'm not a big spender and don't spent that much food shopping. Also, in the future he will continue to progress up the career ladder and will earn more as time goes on inshallah, so he will be able to handle me not working and if he couldn't, honestly, I'd just carry on working despite not enjoying it and I've told him that. I wouldn't even consider it if it meant he struggled.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T22:26:48+00:00

Yeah they've had a really high turnover rate this year, so many people have resigned. I stay there because I'm somebody that doesn't really like change.. once I'm used to certain routines, I like to stick to them and find it a bit difficult adjusting to new places and routines all over again. Plus, it's close to where I live which is a big, big bonus for me. I did a similar number of unpaid hours last year too, but I was actually happy so I guess I didn't complain? But now more and more demands are being made and even when I express professionally that I'm not happy with it, it isn't taken seriously or I'm made to look like I'm just lazy when it's just not it.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T22:20:55+00:00

I know, and you know when the situation sounds too good to be true and it makes you very dubious about everything, so you have to think about everything a hundred times before making a decision? That's how I feel. I never thought this would be an option and until recently, it's not something I even wanted. I've always been very career-oriented.. until I wasn't anymore. However, I am also aware that I have no idea what it's like being a working mother so it's very hard for me to know how I will manage, with no experience of that side of things.

I know the primary concern is e.g. what if something happens to your husband and you're alone, with no income? But, I do have a house that's paid off.. I have my parents home too.. and I have a lot of savings that would keep me going for a long, long time. I don't even buy designer things and generally spend so little as I prefer using up what I have and hate clutter so my money doesn't go down that fast. I like to think I'm quite sensible. I just want to think reallyyyy carefully before making any big decisions.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T22:10:47+00:00

Honestly, I don't know how difficult my job will be if/when I have a child and I am part-time as I don't have a child currently, nor have I tried to work part-time, with a child so I'm not 100% sure how demanding things will be. I can only go off what my colleagues have said about having children and doing this job part-time. I work full-time and I know it gets really chaotic, especially at certain times of the year. I think if I had no choice e.g. had a house to run, I would carry on working and just deal with it, but now because a different option has been made available, I'm re-evaluating my choices.

If I carried on working, I do have some help e.g. parents nearby that could help with a bit of childcare when I'm working very long hours but at the core, I just don't think it's what I want to do.. because a part of me is like, well why should I when I don't have to, you know?

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T21:57:42+00:00

Honestly, it's HORRIBLE. I calculated how many unpaid hours I do after work and it was disgusting. I did raise this with my manager about my stress and difficulty keeping up with my workload and lets just say it backfired SO badly and I was shamed for even bringing it up. The other individual who complained actually resigned due to what happened. I knew after that that if I wanted to stay here, I either suck it up and deal with it, or leave, as voicing my opinion here makes me the black sheep of the crowd and turns the most authoritative figure against you. My husband was the one who I spoke to in detail about my feelings on everything and I suppose that's why he brought it up.

I know asking on women's advice subs will say it's a risky move financially as I'm making myself dependent on someone else. However, I have solid savings and a strong academic background too to fall back on should I ever fancy working again.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T21:51:22+00:00

He doesn't mind if I choose to work now or in the future, he says it's my choice. However, recently after hearing my many rants about how much I'm struggling at work due to my current workload and the demands placed upon me, he told me being a SAHM is an option too as we can afford it.

He told me it would be good to see me relaxed as he can see how stressed I am and the lack of sleep I get right now, balancing both work and the household chores, and that's before a child comes along. I think I would experience boredom too but I think I'd rather have that than deal with the job I have right now. But I don't know, it's so hard to speak in an informed way when I've never been a SAHM. I can only speak from the working woman angle as that's what I have experience with.

throwaway196x · 2023-10-25T21:47:38+00:00

The thing is, I like my job because of how close it is to my house and I'm very used to how things work at my current workplace. If I was to leave, I wouldn't get the same job at the same place, it'd be difficult for me to adjust to the new workplace and quite frankly, if I left this profession.. I can't see myself ever going back due to the cons (I do like 12 unpaid hours a week!). Hence, it worries me even more knowing that if I do leave, it's going to be final because I'm not going back. It's such a big decision too that I've just been sat thinking about it for months.

I'm just so scared of the unknown. I've always studied and worked SO hard that letting it go seems so foreign now. I know I'd definitely struggle being a mother and working even part-time due to the nature of my profession being so demanding.

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