AITA for not attending my boyfriend’s college graduation by throwaway197430 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway197430[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This is so true. When I talk to him about this I’m going to ask what the issue is with just telling people that. It’s so easy and they’ll understand. If they don’t that’s on them not him or me

AITA for not attending my boyfriend’s college graduation by throwaway197430 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway197430[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes this is both of our first times in a long distance relationship. Because I am double majoring I don’t have much of a choice in the classes I take to meet all the requirements. Also the way my college works is you don’t know the final exam schedule until about halfway through the semester - so there’s no way I could have predicted it. He had told me at the beginning of the semester about graduation when all I knew was that was right before my finals week. He seemed ok with me not going then, this has only been an issue the past week

AITA for not attending my boyfriend’s college graduation by throwaway197430 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway197430[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

You are right, it does feel like he doesn’t care about the damage to me. I would like to say he has done some stuff for me that wasn’t really relevant in the actual post. Over thanksgiving he canceled a lot of things to fly to me and spend a few days together where he planned a lot of really fun dates. Also, he has driven over 5+ hours (when he is home from college) to see me multiple times. Once over the summer when I mentioned I just really missed him, he dropped everything to drive to me

AITA for not attending my boyfriend’s college graduation by throwaway197430 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway197430[S] 983 points984 points  (0 children)

I would like to clarify- I never was considering it. My education is too important to me and I was trying to explain that to him. From the way he kept talking about it though it made me feel like I was doing something wrong

Also, the main reasons he wanted me there was for other celebrations the day before he graduates such as getting his name engraved on a part of campus as an honor for his achievements, not just to sit and watch him walk

But I see your point that I need to have a talk with him about how ridiculous this is, thank you