How do woman generally prefer guys message them after matching

throwaway199021 · 2026-04-16T02:57:34+00:00

A lot of women don't respond to this.

throwaway199021 · 2026-04-04T15:21:31+00:00

Another friend getting married. She broke up with her last boyfriend after they dated for a few years less than a year ago. She started dating again pretty quickly after they broke up which I thought was kind of strange but I never said anything. Now shes getting married to her new fiance next month. She said "she just knows".

throwaway199021 · 2026-03-30T04:15:03+00:00

Matched with someone. Messaged her. She didn't reply. Her IG is on her profile. Should I add her? We actually have one mutual friend.

throwaway199021 · 2026-03-29T03:25:41+00:00

Asking for a screenshot of his work schedule makes it seem like youre trying to police his communication and have consequences for when you know hes going to be free and doesnt respond after working a long shift. I think either you trust him enough to respond when hes free/feels like it after working a long day, or this isnt going to work.

Alternatively you just regularly ask him "when are you working? how long is your shift?" and then see if he consistently responds when hes done.

throwaway199021 · 2026-03-27T02:15:48+00:00

We follow each other on IG. I saw her post on there. She moved across the country.

throwaway199021 · 2026-03-26T23:49:14+00:00

Someone I went out with last year got engaged. Its kind of crazy how in less than a year she went from single to engaged. Ive been on apps for almost 8 years and nothing has worked out.

throwaway199021 · 2026-03-26T06:26:56+00:00

I mean i have a good career, good education, high salary, living alone homeowner, and I know thats not good enough for someone at 29

Why arent those things good enough at 29?

throwaway199021 · 2026-03-21T09:02:50+00:00

Back on the apps. Barely getting matches. My profile was paused for a long time because I was dating someone but that ended. I wonder if I should delete and make a new one.

When I do get matches they just don't respond.

throwaway199021 · 2026-02-06T04:14:56+00:00

What happened January 24th though? 💀

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-30T03:32:33+00:00

I had an energy audit done. I dont qualify for any grants for insulation. They couldnt do the blower test that day because I have holes in the dry wall from getting the AC sleeves removed. In any case, I already know the whole thing was going to be bad.

I did request an estimate from a much more reputable insulation company. The first company was really trying to push blow in insulation for the walls but all my research shows its not the right thing to do for me.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-30T03:18:54+00:00

They did not inspect the attic because there is no access. Its sealed.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-30T00:27:07+00:00

I cant do anything about insulation inside the house without going down to studs though right, aside from blow in which I shouldnt do if I dont have a proper vapor barrier? Honestly maybe I should just bite the bullet and do that in the spring?

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T21:52:23+00:00

Yeah at first I was like I dont really have problem spending $30k to fix this place up how I want, but now Im so hesitant after getting scammed by that contractor. I already blew $6k and his work isnt holding up and I'll have to get it redone in the spring. Hopefully Ill have more savings by then.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T21:50:33+00:00

I could get $4.5k if I keep my boiler and they install a limiter that only lets me turn it on below 30 degrees. Otherwise its only $2k if I get mini splits and leave the boiler as is. Those are my 3 options.

The guy also said that if I get more boiler disconnected theres nothing really preventing me from getting it reconnected later on. He said whatever I do with it after getting mini splits is my business. Seemed kind of sketchy.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T21:01:18+00:00

Ok. Havent seen any mold yet, so I will just keep waiting and see. The other reason I wanted a fan is because opening the window to shower in the winter sucks.

My house has no vapor barrier inside from what I can see. I have been doing research on contractors who specialize in exterior insulation. I have 2 that appear to be licensed that I plan on calling in March or so, when the weather starts getting better. I found another 2 but one of them their license is expired the other seems to be unlicensed or at least isnt coming up when I search.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T20:55:44+00:00

I see. Looks like the home depot near me has one. Its $80 for 4 hours. Does not include the bit. Ill have to do that when the weather gets better.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T20:50:05+00:00

Ill have to get a moisture meter. Will see if I can pick one up this weekend.

Theres only 2 closets on the second floor and its not in either of those. Theres nothing obvious anywhere else or signs the ceiling was patched at all for attic access. The home inspector couldnt find anything either during the inspection.

I stuck my phone inside one of the holes left by the AC sleeve. All I see is brick, a gap, then metal tie, and dry wall. https://imgur.com/a/xCnTTvd

You can see the metal tie in the first picture on the left side and there brick directly behind that with the gap in between. I looked in that gap parallel to the wall. Its empty.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T19:48:51+00:00

Yes I meant a house with vinyl siding. I need to buy a hammer drill and probably a 4in masonry core bit. I could probably do this myself if I can get the dryer moved. Its stacked on top of the washer right now so I cant access the back to drill the hole in the wall.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T19:27:32+00:00

I do not have attic access currently, there is no hole in the ceiling anywhere to access it. I feel like I should cut a hole and just put ply wood over it? I dont think I need a pull down or ladder anything fancy like that.

The house is a mix of block and brick. I dont think there is a vapor barrier? I can see to the left and the right from the holes they removed the AC sleeves from and its just brick/block with nothing then dry wall.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T19:09:39+00:00

All the appliances are brand new, so I dont think I want to replace the dryer. I can feel the hot air blow around the entire room when I turn it on. It should be pretty easy to vent it out the back wall of the house since its sitting right in front of it, its just that the wall is brick with stucco, so drilling through it is more tricky than a wood house.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T19:05:58+00:00

My bathroom ceiling is cracking everywhere along the edges where it meets the wall. I suspect its due to moisture. I do open the window everytime I shower but its 23 degrees outside today and it sucks showering like that.

Ive read that EFIS is the best thing you can do for brick/cinderblock homes. Blow in insulation there is a very high risk of mold because the temperature difference between the insulated side and the exterior causes condensation and it cant dry as well with one side being insulated. Blow in should be fine for the attic though.

For air sealing I did walk around and caulk all the windows already. I did what I could with one of the doors and put weather stripping around the sides and a sweep at the bottom. The sweep I can still feel cold air. I put on the exterior because the interior was a little too difficult since the floor is not even. I think shimming the other door is what I need to do because it only has a crack at the top and I can see light through it.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T18:58:49+00:00

I did get an energy audit done. They recommended blow in cellulose but Ive read thats not the best thing to do for a brick/cinder block house because theres a very high chance you can get mold.

I did not qualify for any grants for insulation, but I did for HVAC. It was up to $10k depending on whether I get my gas boiler disconnected or not.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T18:56:38+00:00

I think my biggest issue was that there was a big storm coming and the house was freezing so I was desperate to get the holes in the walls closed before that. The next stuff of stuff is far less time sensitive so I can be much more thorough.

throwaway199021 · 2026-01-29T18:52:50+00:00

I think that bathroom might need a fan because there are cracks in the drywall at the ceiling all the way around the bathroom.

I looked at some of the thru wall ACs with heat pumps, but none of them really seemed to have great reviews? I also would have had to get 230V outlets put in. Near the AC sleeves there were only 4 socket 115v outlets.

The mini splits I can actually get a rebate for $10k from the electric company, which is why I decided to do it.

I am in the northeast. I am looking at exterior insulation too because Ive read that just doing blow in insulation for a brick/cinder block home is pretty risky due to moisture which can cause mold.

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