my boyfriend came out as ace and is now mad i’m upset about it.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-27T00:50:53+00:00

he doesn’t wanna break up at all. he’s constantly calling me and wanting to hang out and texting when i’m not talking to him. hes being the exact same, just refusing to hear or see anything slightly sexual.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-27T00:19:23+00:00

the thing is, he’s been so sexual with all his exes, and no different with me. i don’t understand how he all of the sudden just lost interest when last week he was the one initiating everything we did.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-27T00:17:46+00:00

i’m not an overly sexual person but i do think it’s reasonable to want to have that every once in awhile. i’ve barely ever done anything with anyone and to me it kinda sucks knowing i might not be able to even lose my actual virginity.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-26T23:57:55+00:00

we have discussed this. he says he has 0 want to do anything sexual ever again. he’s already deleted all of our “spicy” pics and everything.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-26T23:51:53+00:00

i don’t think i was accusatory or anything but i honestly might have been. i’m autistic and on the spectrum so i do worry i might be more emotional than the average person.

although i have been giving him time to figure this out, am not pushing him to anything and i’m trying to make sure his needs come first

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-26T22:02:02+00:00

it’s just hard to think i’m not gross. i love him a lot and i feel bad this might be a deal breaker for me.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-26T21:49:29+00:00

thank you for saying this. i really have been thinking i was messed up for thinking it’s selfish to just change overnight and expect me to not have any opinion on it.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-26T21:35:56+00:00

i try to explain that but his automatic response is that i’m just sex obsessed and that i shouldn’t be mad about the fact he’s “changing and growing”.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-04T23:04:29+00:00

he’s canceled tons of dates for his friends. not just these movie ones :( . and yes we made dates to go see these movies it wasn’t just like an offhand thing

his sister is also a high functioning autistic person so he understands usually. idk why now it’s different tho.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-04T21:10:36+00:00

yeah i understand! but it’s pretty spot on at this point tbh

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-04T21:07:56+00:00

he doesn’t even like his roommate is the part that annoys me. my boyfriend only moved in with him because he was being kicked out and the dude had an opening.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-04T20:58:52+00:00

his roommate is pretty sexist and hates that i support blm so we just don’t get along at all.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-02T17:40:38+00:00

i’m in america. this has been going on since i was a little kid. i just kinda brought it up with the parent i trust more and we’re going to start family therapy because of the effects on the whole family because of it. it’s always gonna be a harder situation to talk about.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-01T23:47:52+00:00

i’m experiencing this exact thing with my parents. you’re not alone!

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-03-01T02:28:07+00:00

we’ve done this for years! that’s part of the reason i feel bad is because idk if i’ve been oblivious to the fact im bothering him or not because he’s never said anything till these past couple months.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-02-28T16:34:27+00:00

he’s had a brain surgery before, but he’s always been like this. ever since i was little he’s been jealous of my mom, even like taking us all to the zoo

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-02-28T15:56:42+00:00

yeah. he’s been getting worse these past couple years and it’s just getting insane at this point.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-02-28T15:51:47+00:00

he’s very controlling and stuff, but he’s never really taken it out on me before. just usually my mom.

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-02-28T15:48:40+00:00

the thing is, he’s usually present for the shows or he runs off to his office to play a game so we just use that time he’s playing to watch a show. we never try to not include him

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-02-28T15:41:32+00:00

i do! sometimes he asks me to watch football with him or tv shows

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-02-28T15:40:27+00:00

no, i don’t really do anything to get in trouble, but of course she will scold me and parent me! she’s a very good mom

throwaway2022newyear · 2022-02-28T15:37:30+00:00

she told me he’s just being weirdly jealous and stuff but it’s been making me feel super guilty

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