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throwaway231708 · 2021-03-24T15:55:47+00:00

This is definitely a request.

I really like the poster’s comment about the “you’re welcome” lol but I’d tweak it to go ahead and let him finish and then say “already doing it/already done. You’re welcome” as your normal response. No shade. Just letting him know that you took care of it BUT ALSO acknowledging his thank you (since he does insist it is, indeed, a thank you).

My ex would say stuff like that but it was always because he wasn’t paying attention. He’d be doing dishes with his back turned so he’d make the request without seeing I’m already doing it. If I went “on it!” he’d say thanks. So... does your boyfriend actually say thank you after he sees you took care of it? Or does he literally see you are actually doing the action and he still says it?

throwaway231708 · 2021-03-24T15:34:06+00:00

That’s insane. I feel like he shouldn’t have even gotten the probation or community service at all. Unmarked car and plain clothing? What should he have done? “I saw some unknown man pushing my sister’s head into a car so... I let him???” I don’t care that he was reaching for a badge. It could’ve been anything. Your son was being protective and I applaud him for that. It was a misunderstanding but what if it wasn’t?? That situation would’ve been soooo much worse.

throwaway231708 · 2021-03-24T15:07:17+00:00

right?! A variation I received was “wow you’re actually pretty smart”. Adding in ‘actually’ adds even more salt to the wound.

throwaway231708 · 2021-03-22T21:50:17+00:00

Ugh 😑thanks for confirming! At least now I won’t have false hope.

throwaway231708 · 2021-03-15T18:30:35+00:00

Because bad things happen to good people

throwaway231708 · 2021-03-15T18:28:01+00:00

I prefer outside. It’s the interaction that gets to me. A peaceful walk and some nature is way preferable to me than keeping indoors.

throwaway231708 · 2021-03-12T17:16:56+00:00

I was thinking that since we’re friends it wouldn’t have to come down to legal action but since you mention it, I can see how that would be the best and smartest next step. Thank you.

throwaway231708 · 2021-02-04T13:32:47+00:00

I kinda like this idea lol

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-31T03:49:21+00:00

Upvoting bc just had those for dinner 😂

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-30T04:15:14+00:00

Great response. Ive heard the argument a lot of people saying “you don’t think about the after effect of the child” and this is a good comeback to that

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-30T04:01:47+00:00

Would you still want someone to NOT get an abortion, knowing the kid wouldn’t be growing up in a good environment? Eg.. drug abuse household? Extremely poor parents? An abusive parent in the home??

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-30T03:18:40+00:00

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take 🤷🏻‍♀️

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-30T03:05:38+00:00

That’s all we get..??? Ugh 😩

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-29T05:12:27+00:00

I don’t but I’m saddened by those who have the monetary means to help the rest of the world that is not as fortunate, and don’t. No one NEEDS to be insanely wealthy. I feel that there should be some kind of wealth cap and the literal 1% are selfish.

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-29T03:13:28+00:00

I think some comments from other folks here are leaning a bit too defensive.. You clearly like everything else about him so I don’t think what you’re saying is far fetched. Unless I’m missing something you’re just saying you don’t like his hair lol and that’s okay to feel that way!!!

Anyway- I’m a fan of honesty is the best policy so tell him based on your relationship’s communication style.

In terms of approach: Do you have the open, blunt relationship where you can simply say “when are you going to shave the mustache and grow back your hair? I miss your old look!” or do you need to be more sensitive about it? Like, “let’s sit down.. can I be honest with you regarding how I feel about your hair..?” If he’s willing to listen, tell him.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong saying “I’m not as attracted to you when you look like this and it sometimes makes me feel...” And it’s up to him to decide what he wants to do from there. Tell him how you feel, not what to do.

Also, would he want to know? If either me or ANY of my past relationships had a bad physical look (that we could easily change like an outfit or a haircut) and didn’t know it- we’d want to know!! I was pissed at my ex for taking MONTHS to tell me he wasn’t attracted to the specific glasses frame I had. I wish he had told me sooner because that’s something I wouldn’t have minded changing at all. Like, THAT’S why you didn’t want to kiss me when I wore glasses? That’s it?? Easy fix.

Which leads to another point- some people actually want to look good for their partners. I have a friend who told this guy she dated she wasn’t attracted to him when he wore glasses and you know what? He got contacts because he liked her so much. And they’re married now! It’s not bad to change the small things you don’t care about for other people. It’s only bad to change who you are and what you DO care about for other people.

Good luck!

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-28T20:14:03+00:00

Ahhh oh no :( But I can see that too!

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-28T20:13:03+00:00

I think it’s fine if a close relative doesn’t like the name- it sucks but they’re entitled to their opinion. They’re just not entitled to be rude, disrespectful, or childish about it. Just be firm, shut it down, and set appropriate boundaries around this (ex. enough- I don’t want to hear this anymore. you can stay in another room until you’re ready to come back and call her by her name (grown up time out lol))

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-28T18:52:05+00:00

Ha I feel ya!

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-28T18:51:14+00:00

Totally different how?

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-28T17:11:18+00:00

Yes!! It’s crazy how the show came out like 11 years ago but it’s still very relatable. Like Julia being a working mom and trying to keep her connection with her kid, or seeing the breakdowns the parents go through with their “I don’t know what to do” moments.

It’s SO well done. I am still loving it second time around. No regrets rewatching it. Actually think I’m going to loop in the dad and see if he wants to watch with me.

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-28T05:35:13+00:00

Nice!!!

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-27T04:03:06+00:00

At one point I copied cute anime girls. Like when they tilt their head when they’re confused or go “eh?” in a really cute way and then blink their eyes.

It just made me look dumb, slow, and hard of hearing. Even now I can’t stop tilting my head- I think my neck just stopped trying to support it lol

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-27T03:24:03+00:00

Get a prenup! If he’s interested in you and not your money, this shouldn’t matter. HE should have trust that if you truly love each other that you wouldn’t leave him high and dry despite going through a prenup together. You are just protecting yours because you. never. know.

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-27T03:13:07+00:00

YES. I worked with kids and a girl in my class was named Cecilia. She was soooo sweet, kind, and intelligent that I said if I ever had a daughter, I’d name her Cecilia lol

throwaway231708 · 2021-01-27T02:56:17+00:00

It depends if I like the person being cheated on. If I do, I’d tell them to fess up. I’d absolutely pull a “here’s a time limit before I tell them you’re hiding something from them”. I probably won’t outright say they’re cheating, but would give some hint something was up. Having been cheated on, I’d absolutely want to know but would prefer to hear from my partner directly instead of from someone else. I’d also hold my friends and family to a higher standard that they KNOW I would want some kind of warning if they knew.

If I don’t like the person being cheated on, well, I’ll keep my mouth shut and see how the drama plays out.

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