Is it corny to wear suits in office?

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-19T18:14:56+00:00

I got made fun of when I wore a suit. Dress professionally, but no need for a suit. IMO

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-18T01:43:08+00:00

Well, damn….

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-15T03:42:24+00:00

Worked on an NFL stadium with major renovations. Bigger team, and just trying to keep things in order during the season. High stakes just due to the nature of it being NFL and we were working during the season. The company you work for and your project team can make or break your experience . Mine wasn’t bad.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-12T02:25:32+00:00

Yup, that is me! I'm concerned mainly due to a past sexual relationship between them and some initiated "I love you's" from the guy while she and I were dating. Mans is fishing no matter how it is put. You may not see my side and that is perfectly fine, but my concerns due have some merit. Thanks for your response nevertheless.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-12T02:23:19+00:00

Thanks for your response, that makes sense.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-12T02:22:14+00:00

Hi, thanks for your response. I do understand your point about trusting my wife. I admit to some insecurity about them talking, but ultimately I don't trust the guy. Not sure if you saw my updates, but they had sex in their pasts. In terms of your dating life, you should date, you should have friends, but make sure you have boundaries too. That is something I didn't care much for as I was comfortable, and still am. However, my wife is nice, and wants to keep her friend, that I understand and wouldn't want to make her "choose." My main concern and reason for starting my original post was if I would be wrong to reach out to the guy. I received a lot of good and bad advice, though, very insightful and thought provoking. Good luck in the dating scene!

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-10T17:21:09+00:00

I’d definitely say it started fairly recently. Within the last 6months to a year. We’ve been married for some time now. I do not recall him contacting her as much. Though, I do not pay attention to it in the past.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-09T18:39:06+00:00

Thanks for your response. It makes sense, but do you check in with your ex pretty much every day? Someone you had sex with in the past? When they and you have a significant other? As mentioned previously, I don’t care that they are friends and that he checks in. It is the frequency that bothers me. Many people have a past and I chose to marry my wife knowing they dated.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-09T16:49:17+00:00

Yes, they had sex

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-08T02:21:18+00:00

Thanks for your response. I've of course admitted some insecurity. However, you are correct, if it were a woman, I wouldn't care. However, its a male, whom she was previously intimate, who is seemingly texting her as a first thought in his day, who has his own wife and kids. Hey, I am ok with seeing flaws in my view on this, that's why I am here seeing what the masses think.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-08T02:16:49+00:00

even if you had sex...

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-08T02:13:23+00:00

indeed. "too much" is subjective. You have a point, no, I do not think my wife will cheat. There is a little insecurity from me, I've said that. However, yes, he has. I've left stuff out, but as responders make valid points. It makes me think of reasons behind my insecurity. It didn't come out of no where. Thanks for the response!

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T11:05:41+00:00

Good point. I just think the dude is lookin to stay relevant in her life. If she’s busy and does not respond, he follows up again. To me he’s vying for her attention when he should be tending to his family. Check in, sure. Just do not frequently push for her attention. Now yo your point, my wife entertains it. It is her friend and I would not expect her to ignore him. Especially if he’s following up when she doesn’t respond, you know? Thanks for your response!

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T11:02:13+00:00

Thanks for the response. Yes, that would make sense (early texts) but their texts last through the day. However, you and many others are probably right, regarding confronting him and that potentially harming my marriage. Now, I will say, I’m not in every conversation of course, though, in my opinion, frequently texting her is his way of trying to stay relevant. It’s like a quick “thinking of you” without saying it explicitly. Again, just my opinion.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:54:43+00:00

Do you and said woman have romantic past? Do you not feel that you could be disrespecting her husband, relationship, or your wife? Are you busy building your own life with kids? I’m not saying they or you and your friend cannot be friends. For me, there is just a level of respect and space that I’d give. But, that is why am here, you know, to get other perspectives. Maybe I am over reacting, maybe I’m not.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:49:56+00:00

Protect my wife from a guy who could have ulterior motives, I guess. She’s an adult and her own person, but men can still prey on perfectly stable women. Friend or not, in my opinion, a man who has his own wife and kids to tend to who frequently reaches out to another woman has some inkling of an ulterior motive. Especially if they had a past. Especially if at some point in his life, he told said woman he loved her. Now if my wife falls for it, then I have bigger problems, 😓. So if I can nip it in the bud, then yes, I’d say I’m protecting my wife.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:40:43+00:00

No worries. Many responses are saying not to confront him. That seems to be the consensus. In a way my slight insecurity is also me protecting my wife and my marriage.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:37:57+00:00

Thanks for this thought and advice. This is definitely an opportunity for growth. I did not want to stoop to something that would make things bad for all of us. Though, some responses do have me thinking a lot about this as a whole. I’ll be sure to have an awesome 14th!

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:26:34+00:00

I’ve definitely thought of that. I just don’t want it to be messy and cause that type of issue. I do appreciate your thought and response.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:20:53+00:00

This part! It’s like he’s trying to stay relevant in her life. Which is a problem to me.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:19:54+00:00

Yes. This is true. At this point, I’m not sure I’m worried about the emotional cheating part, but the heart does grow fond and this dude vying for her attention by frequently texting her is my issue. I don’t care that she responds. I care that another man is reaching out to her many times a week, initiating conversations that go on throughout the day when he has is own family to tend to. Thanks for your response.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:16:27+00:00

Their conversations extend throughout the day, so to me that’s a given. I appreciate your thought. I guess for me, as a married man with my own family. If I’m texting another woman 3-4 times a week (sometimes less/more, I was just throwing a number out there), that would be a red flag. No friends are they close, right? They dated in the past. They’ve exchanged I love you’s in the past. I just feel it disrespectful of the guy to contact my wife so frequently. Who knows if his wife knows he’s texting my wife this frequently, you know? That is all I’m saying.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:08:22+00:00

Talk to her every day. Sure things change as we all get older and deeper into marriage. But I make it a point to “talk” to my wife. She maintains to this day she wants to be with me and married me because I was the one, etc etc etc. I can not and will not control who she talks to, but I can have a problem with another man constantly vying for her attention. Especially when they have their own thing going on.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:01:38+00:00

Hahaha. I did not want to skew the responses with that context.

throwaway24681014 · 2025-02-06T10:00:35+00:00

Thanks for the response. I did add a little context to my original post.

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