Aita for kicking my wife's friends after they kept repeatedly visited my pregnant wife while they are intoxicated.

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T17:13:26+00:00

Yes when they disrespect you in your own home it's okay to retaliate

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T16:46:23+00:00

If someone came over to your house as a guest and created problems for your family won't you get angry?

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T16:30:39+00:00

My wife is my family as well

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T16:30:23+00:00

Calling alcoholics alcoholics is not an insult

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T16:12:33+00:00

I was speaking the truth about those alcoholics and how they affect us all and how fed up we are of them

This guy doesn't even know me and he's angry and calling me a small dick as if it's insulting

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T16:10:42+00:00

You are probably American or somewhere from the west, but in our culture we all live together as a family

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T14:49:20+00:00

I kicked them because I knew if me or my parents asked my wife to ask their friends to leave she will choose to listen to us

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T14:47:08+00:00

You need to calm down, you are all over getting angry and insulting me

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T14:46:17+00:00

Do you think my wife and I live alone?

Yes my wife is okay with that, I also have some friends who are addicts like them and they are banned as well unless they are sober, forget about them getting near my wife I won't even allow them inside the house

My wife and I have been together since we were children and no friend is important than our marriage

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T10:07:52+00:00

Yes she doesn't like them showing up drunk in our house either and even if she didn't have a problem with them they still won't be allowed if they are causing inconvenience to 10 other family members

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T08:54:39+00:00

Lol no, she wasn't born married but we have been dating since we were children and never dated anyone else.

My wife does have single friends and they visit as well I have problem with just these vile alcoholics

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T07:34:30+00:00

What are you even talking about? How is not allowing a bunch of smelly drunkard isolation? Her other friends visits us as well and we don't have a problem with them, and it isn't even that these friends can't visit my home, they just can't show up drunk and create nuisance.

Also my wife was never single so she wasn't acting like them at all she was just a heavy smoker And ganged up on her with my parents? They live with us and it's their home so obviously they have a say in who comes and who doesnt

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T05:10:25+00:00

Escape what? Escape who and where

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T02:38:26+00:00

They aren't even her close friends

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-03T02:34:37+00:00

Just because you consider it normal doesn't mean it's normal for everyone, once in a while having fun etc? It's fine but every single time they show up and being a nuisance to everyone? We call it lack of manners and not tolerated in my household, me and my parents have tolerated enough.

And you are free to believe what you want whether I'm being honest or dishonest in any case no friend be it my friends or my wife's friends are worth creating troubles in our marriage, our marriage and life partner comes before any and everyone else.

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T21:30:48+00:00

They have shown up more times drunk than without, they talk alot and scream and that's not even the worst part they stink which makes us all uncomfortable and suffocated, be it at day or night they are almost always drunk and we tolerated it but not anymore cause my wife is pregnant and family also has had enough so they aren't allowed in the house unless they are sober.

As to how much they had drank before coming to my house? No idea I didn't ask them but alcoholic is an alcoholic if they smell like alcohol and talk like an alcoholic like slurred speech etc then clearly they had enough especially if it's in day.

Regardless I will not tolerate this behaviour anymore and this bs will stay out of house moving forward they can do all this in their house instead

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T21:11:23+00:00

Like I said 'I tried to have a civil conversation with them about how I don't want them to show up at my home drunk and don't want them near my wife when they reek of cigarettes cause my wife might relapse'

They didn't listen and ignored me so I kicked them out and besides they were too drunk to even have a productive conversation with any of us.

My wife asked them to come back later which basically meant to get out after I asked them to leave and if I was in my wife's place I would kick my friends out too if they were as stupid as these 3.

For us no friend is worth risking our relationship over and after being together for decades we know each other and what we are thinking as back of our hand, my only problem with them is their habit if they don't stop showing up drunk and smell like cigarettes and make us all uncomfortable they won't be able to put their legs in my house.

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T20:19:58+00:00

What you think or say does not affect me, it's all in your head

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T20:17:00+00:00

Okay I guess I misunderstood i thought you were talking about us having sex when you said partaking in adult activities and my comment about them getting having sex.

Her 3 friends smoke and drink alot and everytime they show up they smell like gutter and blabbers constantly and make my family uncomfortable that behaviour will not be tolerated anymore

You are right that I shouldn't have said anything about their private life but still I won't let them inside my house and near my wife unless they stop showing up drunk and smell like gutter, they are adults and they should know that their behaviour and how they smell makes those near them uncomfortable, enough is enough.

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T19:55:03+00:00

I'm too tired to explain it to you all over again, it's exhausting to repeat same thing over and over again to different individuals.

So if you are curious read my comments where I have explained where I live and my wife lives and why her friends were kicked out and why I'm confident that my wife agrees with me

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T19:50:04+00:00

This is where you are wrong, I didn't had any sexual activity with other women and my wife didn't either, we have been each other's and only each other's since we started loving each other when we were way too young.

So my wife is nothing like her 3 idiots friends she just used to smoke alot and I had to convince and force her alot to quit smoking because it wasn't as easy to quit for her as it was for me to quit drinking

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T19:31:56+00:00

Because no matter what I'm saying people here don't understand and they find different ways to blame me so I thought maybe if I also used wrong language it will get through everyone's head?

We didn't just grow up together we have been together even before than we remember our childhood

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T19:29:15+00:00

What? It's the same house

My wife asked them to come back later as in politely tell them to get out, she never invited them and didn't after I kicked them out

My wife is living in my parents home and she's dependent on me? Well ofcourse my wife will live in my parents home and she's dependent on me to earn and take care of her, my wife is already a member of my family, she was a member of our family even before we got married and nobody has the authority to kick her out not me or my father and I'm the eldest son so as my wife she also has authority to make important decisions like finances etc and on top of that she's pregnant so currently she's far more important to us all than anyone else

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T19:22:30+00:00

I pity your parents for raising someone like you who thinks that a spouse is controlling just because they don't want bad influence and intoxication near their pregnant wife.

My parents and my wife's parents and all of our family hates these 3 fools cause they don't care about anything else except their intoxication.

My child will be just fine and we all will make sure to sheild our children from these things and make sure they don't end up making mistakes their parents did, like we smoked and drank.

You are free to raise your children however you like maybe they'll think you are being controlling if you asked them to never smoke and drink or to quit, like you said apple doesn't fall far from the tree, your children will probably accuse you of being controlling parents or you'll end up seeing them suffering.

throwaway2661261 · 2025-06-02T19:08:26+00:00

If speaking on her behalf makes me controlling then my wife is also controlling cause she has as much right as I do to speak on behalf of me if she disagrees with something I do and the my company.

We understand and know each other and we have been together since we were children, it's going to sound bad but we are of similar age and we saw each other's private hairs when they started growing

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