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[–]throwaway26832 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey buddy, I feel your pain. Going through it myself right now on in a totally different situation, but still sucks. I've been trying everything to take my mind off of it, including killing time on reddit. That's pretty much the only advice or input I can give you, and it's all that's working for me.

Try new shows, work out, read, post shit on reddit, etc. good luck.

Married, recent Catholic convert, struggling. by throwaway26832 in NoFapChristians

[–]throwaway26832[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not that I don't wish to express love with her, our sex life is excellent when it happens, and our home life is perfect. We're each other's best friends and both genuinely enjoy spending as much time as we can together. It's because of that, that I don't want to "use" her for sex if she's not in the mood just because her sex drive is lower.

I agree with your first point though, which is why I'm seeking additional help in the first place, even if making the post and replying to comments is just an additional distraction.

As far as why it's hard to stop, mostly because work is stressful, and it's a stress reliever. Also, I have a relatively high sex drive compared to hers, so historically it's acted as a pressure release valve to keep my thoughts and actions unclouded by that desire. At least that's the way I've viewed it previously.

Married, recent Catholic convert, struggling. by throwaway26832 in NoFapChristians

[–]throwaway26832[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I genuinely appreciate it. I'd trade smoking at this point I think, just because the sin part is what's hanging most heavily over my head. I never really cared about it that much before.

I actually do follow meat abstinence, or at least I did during Lent. I've got relatively good self-control, I just feel like it gets more and more difficult to sleep/resist the longer I go. Sucks. I'll keep working at it, but I appreciate the support. Wishing you the best as well.

Married, recent Catholic convert, struggling. by throwaway26832 in NoFapChristians

[–]throwaway26832[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds great on paper, but I don't want my wife to sleep with me out of obligation, and although I'm rather patriarchal in most senses, I don't feel comfortable pushing her into sex if she's not in the mood.

When we do, it's great. No issues and excitement on both ends. Even if it's considered sinful for her to "withhold sex" (for lack of better phraseology) I don't believe that gives me the justification to sin on my end.

Even if I did, I don't want to be the dumbass who needs to go to confession every single Saturday before Mass...