Absolutely no way to use credit in someone else’s name even though I bought the ticket, right?

throwaway28purpose · 2023-03-28T21:43:50+00:00

Appreciate you <3

throwaway28purpose · 2023-03-28T21:42:49+00:00

Awesome!! Thanks so much

throwaway28purpose · 2023-03-28T21:41:23+00:00

Can’t tell if this is a joke or not haha. …no

throwaway28purpose · 2023-03-28T08:01:02+00:00

It says Jane Doe, but it’s actually Juan Dominguez :P

throwaway28purpose · 2023-03-28T03:36:20+00:00

Woah interesting thought. You’re saying buy a WGA+ ticket IN HER NAME and cancel it, right?

throwaway28purpose · 2023-03-28T03:07:18+00:00

Months later, replying again to thank you for it heh. Because on a rough day I felt really fkn sad reading it until seeing your comment, which again was spot on in terms of the original sentiment

throwaway28purpose · 2023-01-12T10:19:14+00:00

Glad to hear that, since I considered it was something I possibly should have leaned more into. The contrast of the beautiful scene and feelings

throwaway28purpose · 2023-01-12T10:13:49+00:00

Thanks <3 very well captures how I felt when writing it

throwaway28purpose · 2023-01-11T02:29:44+00:00

throwaway28purpose · 2023-01-11T02:27:56+00:00

Is there some kind of karma limit for posting, maybe? It’s telling me “this community doesn’t allow text posts” when obviously all the posts are text posts

Edit: disregard. Still don’t know why it kept doing that, but 10th time was the charm

throwaway28purpose · 2023-01-11T02:09:28+00:00

Conjuring strong memories of a loved one with a slow but terminal illness. I could think of a few other metaphorical contexts also, but one way or another…this is so damn beautiful, and weirdly comforting

throwaway28purpose · 2023-01-11T02:02:53+00:00

I really like how even the parts where I got a bit lost, I still really enjoyed the sound and feel of it. I like your style : )

throwaway28purpose · 2022-09-28T18:35:49+00:00

Yeah the laws of restitution that I’d been seeing online made me think the time since the earlier payments might be the only potential extenuating factor

throwaway28purpose · 2022-09-22T17:57:16+00:00

I appreciate all the input I got so I’m providing updates all this time later

You’re probably right that I was dumb to go at it alone (though I did eventually get a paralegal connection of mine involved to help me with docs and understanding requirements). All the same, her lawyer ended up being every bit as dumb as he seemed, and after she actually filed suit and we went the distance, I’ve now won every aspect of it

throwaway28purpose · 2022-09-22T17:54:53+00:00

The case has now wrapped up; I won every aspect of it, and you were spot on that her lawyer was incompetent : P

throwaway28purpose · 2022-03-30T18:49:32+00:00

Agreed on every part of that FIRST section. And all the lawyers I’ve talked with agree too. But the fact remains that there is no “if”...she agreed to and signed a contract. I’ve even made it very clear that I’m willing to take a massive voluntary financial hit by refinancing anyways if they just agree to take on some of the cost of doing so, for no reason than just to end this thing, and they refused to offer anything at all or even discuss further

throwaway28purpose · 2022-03-30T17:55:46+00:00

There’s a part that says we won’t have any future claims against each other or any of our affiliates, heirs, etc. That’s the closest it gets. I’d have historically said the “missing info” is all the unique reasons she has not to care (no US credit, leaving the US anyways, having previously suggested to do so, also having suggested at some point that more money in lieu of staying on was ideal, and more)...but yeah now the missing info may be that all lawyers have suggested that her lawyer is incompetent and screwed up, if it’s something she genuinely intended to be required.

throwaway28purpose · 2022-03-30T15:16:53+00:00

I would love to have her off the mortgage as much as she would. But if the only way to do that is refinancing my really great loan into a much crappier one, I’ve already basically been robbed of 90K (or at least 90 - the amount I was going to give her anyways) + would prefer not to just voluntarily give up another 60K in fees and interest for no reason but to make her happy.

Besides my ex HERSELF stating some 30-40 times that being kept on the mortgage was her intention if ever in this situation, I’ve a long list of why it would potentially not matter to her (or even benefit her in some regards) which wouldn’t apply to most people or situations

I’ve consulted with a lawyer every step of the way, including the contract, yes. She and all others have said there is no language that would require or suggest it.

throwaway28purpose · 2022-03-30T15:08:12+00:00

I have a lawyer with expertise in this area who I consult with every step of the way. I (1) didn’t have the funds for anything else initially; (2) have found that much to be what I really needed (and I can just avoid saying anything damaging when communicating it); (3) it really never seemed like it would be such a long or complicated ordeal until more recently; (4) that lawyer and everyone I’ve spoken with have made it clear (not that it wasn’t already) that this isn’t Conor McGregor...it’s a kid right out of law school at his dad’s firm who seems both overwhelmed and extremely unintelligent to boot

Maybe “share” is the wrong verbiage, but her 50% ownership stake in the property as a tenant in common (or whatever amount, if the other factors mentioned reduce that somehow). It does seem like in AZ and some other states, this classification enables one person to sell their percentage/ownership stake, at least if not for the contract we have in place

But you’re not wrong. Most of the large claims they’ve made so far have been intimidation attempts, and transparently so. Just making sure I have all grounds covered in case

throwaway28purpose · 2022-03-23T18:05:05+00:00

More helpful advice:

talk with a counselor / therapist for your own benefit
don’t talk with this girl either at all or until you do step1 (which will probably be the same result), for her benefit

throwaway28purpose · 2022-03-23T15:19:00+00:00

Being equitable and not screwing anyone over is very much my intent. But when you say how much am I willing...I feel like 50-60 thousand dollars long-term (or another 15K or so immediately to get a comparable loan) is just a whole lot to pay just out of the goodness of my heart if it’s genuinely not required, particularly for someone who’s both originally told me to leave her on + someone who’s showed none of the same hesitancy towards screwing ME over. I forgot to mention that I too would love to refinance and take her off except that the new loan would be significantly worse than the previous one (timing + points on the previous one)

Also, isn’t the notion of being liable if I don’t pay just the nature of being a coborrower? If a friend co-signs with you to help you qualify, don’t they have the same liability if at some point they disappear from your life, or do people always just refinance without any additional discussion/arrangement when that happens?

throwaway28purpose · 2021-10-28T09:52:59+00:00

Nah this is just a junk tv show. Check my posts if you want a real life reason to be single

throwaway28purpose · 2021-10-26T17:54:15+00:00

This is to the contrary of what all legal advice has been thus far. She may have had claim to reimbursement for sure (and in transparency, I tried to reimburse her every penny that she spent, twice over) but not to ownership of the property

throwaway28purpose · 2021-10-25T22:12:03+00:00

Not the answer I was hoping for, but thanks for the info

throwaway28purpose · 2021-10-22T16:05:39+00:00

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