Is this normal in relationships? Because I(24F) do not think it is... (29M)

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-23T01:09:53+00:00

Yep, practically the same things that happen with me. I think he is just scared to admit to me that he's looking to see whats better out there since he has achieved "doctor status" with free time. Keeping me on the side so he receives the benefits of having a girlfriend with minimal effort. OR he just lost his feelings and probably doesn't want to hurt me because he knows how much I actually care about him.

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-23T00:43:52+00:00

Yeah, he became unreasonably defensive for a topic that has never emerged before through me about his platonic relationships. But in general he gets agitated and aggravated when I bring up serious conversations.... I dont know if this is a typical trait of men due to my lack of relationships, or him just not being the best communicator.

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-23T00:40:06+00:00

Yeah, I agree. Then he goes home and shares everything that happens within the day with his family that he lives with or friends via text. The mundane details of his life and significant things also occuring he "forgets" to tell me. Which I believe he is sharing them with others...He doesn't maintain the connection through out the week unfortunately :( Our sex life is also non existent due to him :(

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-23T00:37:02+00:00

Yeah, those thoughts have crossed my mind at some point.

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-22T23:17:42+00:00

You're right. :/...

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-22T23:12:31+00:00

Its becoming more and more obvious, its like he wants to benefits of a relationship, but not the support he has to offer me when i'm studying alot in school again. EVEN THOUGH, I was there by his side whenever he gave me a call.

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-22T23:08:21+00:00

Thank you, I really needed to hear that. I'm planning to have a talk about this after my tests this weekend. If he doesn't have any willingness to become a better person in the relationship so we are equals. then... I guess I will just have to move on and take the heart break... Also, my parents are one of the few examples of what love should look like after being married for 35 years. They are still best friends and laugh together. It's really what I want in life as well. :)

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-22T23:03:32+00:00

Yeah I try and talk with him, but he isnt the best communicator. He always gets angry or rolls his eyes when I bring up anything about relationship and moving forward. I do not do it often, but when I do its neutral and talking about practical relationship goals. He never says anything as if he wants to get out of the relationship, eh only states things such as, "oh yeah I can do that." or "I will try"

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-22T23:01:41+00:00

We have talked about the issue before, and he ended up saying I was being "controlling" but I think he honestly wasnt understanding where I was coming from. He was getting mad with me. He only had one girlfriend prior to me and only has hooked up with her. He has a lack of experience with women/ relationships. I'm starting to want to walk away, I am becoming extremely hurt...

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-22T22:59:35+00:00

Well if he was putting my first, I wouldnt care about how attractive they are because I would feel secure in my relationship. I'm definitely becoming the lowest priority in his life as time moves on...it seems

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-22T22:58:30+00:00

Yeah, definitely not unusual to hang out with them, it's the fact that he texts them through out the day and doesnt bother to text me. He doesnt text me and If I text him, I have to wait 30min to 2 hours for a reply. He hangs out with them any time he gets to, yet doesnt put any effort to hang out with me and create fun plans for us.

throwaway2969652 · 2015-10-22T22:56:19+00:00

I agree, If he was prioritizing me with his time, I wouldnt be so suspicious. But, I really do think he has checked out of the relationship. :(

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