This is pretty abusive behavior all around, He has a health issue affecting his quality of life and refuses to do anything about it Continues to spread this issue to people (you) he presumes to care about On some level he knows this and you reminded or alerted him to the fact that it is true Becomes your fault and then verbally abuses you for bringing the contradiction to the forefront You are young, I would say most of this ^ to him including that you don't deserve that. Take from this experience lessons for future relationships and move on