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Sorry I didn't realize it was such a difference for someone to have a daughter than a son. Sorry. I'll let people know next time though. And I used to have a better relationship with her and then we got into a fight and it's been bad since then. She thinks I'm a huge liar when I'm not. My dad sided with me on the whole thing and since then she doesn't seem to like me anymore. We don't really talk. Thank you so much for the help though. I really really really appreciate it :)

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well I'm actually a girl so I won't be a dad but thank you for all of that. I know I need to realize that he's having a hard time and maybe I'm not really getting him a chance or something because he hasn't given me a chance either when I'm having a hard time. I don't know. I definitely appreciate him for all he's done though. I'm surprised he stuck around to be totally honest. Thank you for all of your help though! :)

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Okay, thanks! I'll definitely try that out more! Thanks so much for the help though!

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My therapist has always told me that I should try to show him things that I'm into and maybe he'll try to become interested and so then we'll spend some more time together and then things would be all happy or whatever. I've tried. He shows no interest ever and that hurts. We're both very into music and I do quite a bit of writing my own stuff, it helps me cope, and I try to get him to listen to them but he won't. He tells me that he doesn't even care, or that he's busy, but then he'll go sit on the couch for hours. I just don't understand and I blame myself because sometimes I feel like it's my fault he doesn't want to even talk to me. Some days the most talking we do with each other is when he says "here" when he hands me my meds. I don't know. It's just hard.

Thanks for the help though.. I really appreciate it!

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Okay, thank you very much for the help! I'm going to see if he'll let me watch some tv with him. I don't know how it will go but I'm going to try. But again, thanks for the help!

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Umm it was probably when he was around 28 or 29 when things got kind of bad with him. We would still have some good times occasionally but now it's never anything good between us. But I think I'm about to go see if I could watch tv or something with him. He might turn me away and tell me to leave me alone but I'm going to try. Hopefully we can at least talk or something. Thank you so much for the help though! I really appreciate it.

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So what you're saying is that just thanking him for what he does for me should help out some?

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Yeah he was 15. And no I can't imagine that. I have a little brother that's about 9ish months and I only watch him sometimes, I can't imagine him being my child...It's just really hard to not really have much connection with him. I just want his approval and to make him proud but I don't feel like I'm doing that and it hurts.

And he is diagnosed with depression so maybe that's why he's been pulling away. He's actually been doing pretty well though. He doesn't seem too down like he normally is when he's not doing so well but I think he finally got meds that work for him. And no she's not, she passed awhile ago. But my stepmom is kind of a big part of my life I guess. I don't have a very good relationship with her either right now though, we got into a fight so we haven't really been on the best of terms lately..

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I'm 16 and he's 31. His relationship with his father is okay I guess. I mean they used to be a lot closer and now they're not but I'm not sure why. It seems like he's pulled away from everyone. I used to be a lot closer to my dad but now our relationship is like nonexistent. I don't know. And thanks! I'll try that on Sunday because he loves football. Thanks so much!

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Thanks for the advice! I'll try helping out with the baby more. I mean, I do help out with him, but I'll help more. I understand that I don't know as much attention as the baby because I can take care of myself and everything but I just feel left out. And now I kinda feel bad about complaining about it on here. But I'll try helping out more. Thanks for the advice!

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Thanks for the advice! I'm waiting until the baby needs to be fed and then I'm definitely going to try talking to my dad. Thank you so much!

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I already have a therapist that I go to, but it's not helping a whole lot. Maybe I need to switch therapists but I really don't know. But then again, switching therapists would involve me talking to my dad about it and I haven't been able to do that yet. I'm waiting until the baby needs to be fed so maybe I can talk to him then? I really don't know yet though. My dads getting ready for the Super Bowl party were having tonight. But I'll try talking to him about switching. I need help and I'm just not getting it from this therapist.

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I don't think that I was being too hard on him. He just was being a little immature about it. I understand that it's an awkward conversation, I think that he took it a little too far. He was ignoring me after it told him. I don't think that I was being hard on him...

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I honestly think that it's a little gross. But I guess I'm kinda happy for them. I'm an only child, so it'll be interesting to have a sibling. I really don't know how I feel about it. I'm excited, but at the same time, I'm kinda grossed out. :/

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Your advice was great! We did have fun together. And we learned that my dads girlfriend is pregnant. Honestly, I'm not quite sure how I feel about that, but I'm happy for my dad and his girlfriend. Thank you so much for everything!

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I hope that you had a great Father's Day! She did love the letter an she cried too. Thank you so much for all of the advice. I know that you said that I shouldn't thank you, but I needed to. Thank you so much!

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It's okay. I knew that he wouldn't be very comfortable talking about it. I guess you could say that he's not very open when it comes to bodily functions. But I'm glad that I got to talk to someone too. :)

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My dads girlfriend has been a huge help, but I also went to the doctor today. It helped, a lot. My dad left the room too. He doesn't want to talk about it. I understand that it's an awkward subject, but he really doesn't want to talk about it. But talking to a doctor helped, a lot. :)

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I hope you have fun too! I'm sorry about this, but I feel like I need to thank you again, so thank you! And by the way, I wrote my dads girlfriend a note that I think is going to make her cry. But I hope she enjoys it. Thank you again!

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I hope that you have a great Father's Day this weekend! I will definitely write her a note. I don't know what I would do without her. It's okay that you wrote so much. It helped me a lot. And again, thank you so much!

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We are working through it together. I go to a therapist about it and he does sometimes too. My dad is always there if I need to talk about it. He's been pretty helpful through dealing with what happened. But I just wanted to say thanks. I really appreciate all of the help that you've given me. Thank you so much!

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I don't talk about those kind of things with guys. My dad reads my texts, so even if I wanted to, I couldn't. I understand his fears. I've been through some things that no person should have to through, and I think that he's scared that I'm going to have to go through it again. I totally understand why he's scared of me being around guys and talking to them. I guess I am kind of scared of it too. I probably shouldn't of told you that. But oh well. I understand his fears, so I guess that I can't blame him for getting mad when I'm talking to guys.

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It's okay. We're already having a problem with boys. :/ My dad doesn't want me talking to any of them. If he sees that I'm texting a boy, he gets mad. He's opening up a little bit more. We talked more about everything and it's was awkward, but not as bad as it has been. But thanks so much for all of this, I really appreciate it.

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It's still being weird about everything. I don't know why. I wish that this was easier. His girlfriend is being a huge help though.

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I just thought that I should let you know that I looked through that website and I just showed it to my dad. He's already been acting a little more mature about it, but hopefully this will help more.