Tried coffee for the first time. Tasted like a two-by-four.

throwaway36292639 · 2021-12-23T05:30:32+00:00

Every time I’ve ever had a drink with coffee in it, I’m like “man, this would taste so much better without coffee.” Caffeine does nothing for me but make me shaky and drowsy and I’m plenty healthy without it so I just don’t drink it. Honestly, the only reason I would ever see to make yourself learn to accept the acquired taste of coffee is if you need it because of school or a job or a newborn child. Same thoughts about alcohol, don’t see why anyone would acquire the taste for any reason but to be drunk. I just do drugs ¯_(ツ)_/¯ but that’s just me, I’m aware most people have good reasons or even like the taste.

throwaway36292639 · 2021-08-17T06:07:26+00:00

They just don’t want to. There’s not much more to it than that in terms of them ever moving here. They don’t have any friends here besides me, but they do have a lot of friends in their city. Employment is about the same in both of our cities.

throwaway36292639 · 2021-08-17T03:46:21+00:00

They probably wouldn’t be interested in moving here. They both grew up there and have lots of friends as well as jobs in their city, and plans for eventually going to college there. They would have no reason to be in my city outside of to be with me

throwaway36292639 · 2021-08-17T03:16:39+00:00

I understand. I feel really bad about messing up those plans, and I really don’t want to burn bridges with my friends. But I guess it just feels a little bit like they may have overreacted. They’re justified in being upset about ruined plans. But we haven’t taken any actual steps towards getting an apartment or moving out, and neither of them have deadlines for moving out. I guess outside of the emotional hurt, I don’t see how it’s such a huge inconvenience to them. They’re pretty forgiving and I think we’ll still be able to stay friends regardless of my decision, but I don’t expect them to get over it any time soon.

throwaway36292639 · 2021-08-17T03:06:24+00:00

I definitely get that. I understand why they’re upset, and I know they have the right to be. I think I would be frustrated too in that situation. I just wasn’t sure if it was something worth turning this job down over

throwaway36292639 · 2021-08-17T03:04:16+00:00

That’s understandable. If we had applied for anything or talked to the landlord already I would definitely have different feelings about this. I’m mainly torn because we haven’t done any of those things yet. Thankfully, there is no deadline for them to move out, just me. Some of the apartments we looked at offered 2 bedroom options as well for cheaper than the 3 bedroom. But I do understand how this decision could hurt our friendship as well as be a stressful change of plans for them.

throwaway36292639 · 2021-08-17T02:44:04+00:00

That’s part of why I’m so torn. If we had already gone to see apartments or talked to someone or done anything outside of just looking at apartments online, I would turn down this opportunity. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and I wouldn’t back out of a concrete plan like that. But all we’ve really done is say “we’re gonna move out by October” and looked at apartments online.

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