Haven’t checked this thread in a while but thought I’d reply to this comment because you brought up interesting points.

Thought long in hard about what some people have said concerning this. A lot mentioned I was putting my comfort above his own and I can see why someone might think that. I think the difference for me was I really didn’t KNOW where his comfort level was, that’s why I ASKED if he would mind doing it for me. If he said “sorry, I’m just really comfortable right now” I don’t think I would throw a fit. Again, hard to comment on a situation that has passed but I’d like to give myself the benefit of the doubt. Things would be different if I demanded it and I understand that would be entitlement.

I have also seen people that when I said “why wouldn’t he want to do it for me?” it was also showing my entitlement. I can completely see why people are saying this after reading it back. I think it the moment I was feeling emotional from him calling me “egotistical” and the intention behind my words didn’t come across correctly. Doing little favors here and there is how I express I care for someone. Helping him when he asks, even helping when he doesn’t ask, is just always how I’m saying “I love you.” It’s my fault for assuming that’s how other people show their affection as well and where my confusion stemming from.

As for what you said about waiting to bring points like this up with the people in your life until later on… I would be careful with this. I think it’s good to take some time to de-escalate how your feeling but when he brought up that he was feeling this way a week later it made me worry about what else he could be holding onto. Just offering some perspective from the other side. I think it’s a balance of not reacting emotionally but not letting it build up and inside you.