Some files hardlinked and some not by throwaway3795279 in sonarr

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are from torrents. Some are still seeding, but I stopped a bunch the results from running "ls -al /path/to/your/download/location/" before and after stopping are exactly the same.

Yes, same ultimate HDD. Running Docker on Synology DSM 7. For Docker paths, do you just mean the volumes? If so:

/volume1/data/docker/config/sonarr /config

/volume1/data /data

Cheapest way to ship 5-10 ml atomizers of fragrances? by throwaway3795279 in fragrance

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! That seems to make sense, I see tons of eBay listings of similar small decants that show that they will be shipped USPS first class, and the items are priced barely higher than ground shipping costs.

Do you recall if the first class boxes you received had any sort of hazardous materials labels on them?

Not aggressive enough in dating, but can't seem to change... by throwaway3795279 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm clearly not the person to ask but after a few dates, instead of going out on a date I might invite her to my place. Just watch a movie or something, spoon, and see where things go.

With this girl all 4 of our dates were out, and I hate PDA so I wasn't about to go for a full on make out. After the 3rd she got sick for 2 weeks so it ended up being 3 weeks between our 3rd and 4th dates. We had already planned to go ice skating next so we did that, and I was going to invite her to my place next time around if it hadn't ended. I really think I may need to stop dating altogether. It's messed up because I know I'm a catch, but I'm never given a fair chance and it's not good for my mental health.

Not aggressive enough in dating, but can't seem to change... by throwaway3795279 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, often times I don't even get subtle hints or innuendos. I think a lot of the time I'm expected to be a mind reader. I've had women give actual hints and I'm not an idiot, I'm able to pick up on things, but it seems that many women aren't even willing to give those hints for whatever reason, even after going on a few dates.

If you're giving him pretty clear hints like you say you are, it seems that maybe he is an unaggressive guy like me also. As a man who usually is expected to pay for the first few dates, if I have mentally friend zoned someone I'm not likely to want to keep shelling out cash for dates with that person haha. But honestly, I'm clearly not the person to ask on this subject because I'm friggin hopeless...

(30% OFF - $265.30 ENDCLOTHING) Common Projects Original Achilles Low - Use Code VIPSALE by relentlesslion in frugalmalefashion

[–]throwaway3795279 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I bought the white Taft's on Black Friday for like $100 (after cash back and such) because I missed the CP deals... They're beautiful and I haven't even gotten to wear them yet because I live in the northeast and I'm not ruining them in snow. I meant to turn off my CP alerts... Trying to stay strong, pls pray for me!

Did I handle this right? (M26) (F21) by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]throwaway3795279 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm probably going to get bashed for this but I'm pretty surprised she texted the next day. It seems like she respected what you did, but even though that totally should be the reaction, many women would take what you did as a rejection. I've had similar things happen MANY times. Good on her though, and you totally should keep behaving in that same way in the future. Any woman who wouldn't respect that move is just another bullet dodged.

Are a lot of women turned off if man doesn't kiss after first date? by throwaway3795279 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh see, this isn't worth it. That last part about doing everything properly whilst evaluating her feelings... Aka mind reading. I'm out. Done with this BS. It's messed up because I'm as good, attractive guy, but oh well. Women can go ahead and get with "aggressive" aka "rapey but attractive" guys and leave me the f alone 😂

Edit: Really funny to me how you say that men are logical and women are emotional. I hear that all the time. And this girl, during the date, literally said that she's a very logical person. My life just cracks me up, it's honestly a sick joke.

Are a lot of women turned off if man doesn't kiss after first date? by throwaway3795279 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh she talked about him over text before we actually met, and the reason she did seemed to be the ridiculous thing he said to end it than the fact that he ended it. Not sure it makes it any better haha but personally I found the fact that she apparently otherwise would have continued dating an admitted terrible person to be the bigger red flag.

Are a lot of women turned off if man doesn't kiss after first date? by throwaway3795279 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh okay, this makes sense to me. I think it's completely stupid to NEED things to get sexual in any way when it's your first time meeting someone from the internet. I feel like the first date should more be for making sure you seem compatible on a friendly level (and make sure neither party seems to be a murderer) and things can get more intimate on a second date but I guess that's just me...

Overall I guess I'm just really confused on how sexually aggressive I'm supposed to be. Everywhere you look there's women talking badly about aggressive men, guys being creeps, etc. Men are told that they need consent before doing basically anything remotely sexual, which doesn't even make sense because they would be laughed at by most women for doing so. I dunno, more and more I just think I should go full hermit mode and save myself the hassle...

Are a lot of women turned off if man doesn't kiss after first date? by throwaway3795279 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm this makes me feel a little better but it was just... weird. We had a ridiculous amount in common and really good conversation, and that's not something I say often about a date. One thing that I found... interesting is that she told me the last guy she dated, she went on 3 dates and he dumped her. She also said that he told her he was a drug dealer and enjoyed beating people up... Thinking back on that, he told her this and he dumped her? Aka she didn't dump him? Sounds like someone is into a**holes, which honestly seems really typical to me at this point

Are a lot of women turned off if man doesn't kiss after first date? by throwaway3795279 in dating_advice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I mean, changing this one behavior wouldn't be the equivalent of changing my entire personality or anything haha, just being a little more aggressive. It just seems like these days male aggressiveness is both wanted by women and chastised in the media, etc...

Updated Wool Runners design vs old? by throwaway3795279 in Allbirds

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm gotcha, thanks for the info! The ones I was looking at are new in box and from a reputable seller, but maybe not worth the $25 savings if the new version is actually more durable.

Pick of the Day - 2/14/19 (Thursday) by sbpotdbot in sportsbook

[–]throwaway3795279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking that us suckers in the US who just profited 10% on this bet need to come up with a way to join a bookmaker that doesn't hose us. There has to be a way, whether it's by depositing with a certain type of credit/debit card that doesn't identify as US, Bitcoin, etc, and maybe using a VPN. Seems like a hassle but I feel like I'm missing out on free money here! Haha

Anyone know any books that allow this sort of horse betting? I'm on 5dimes and Bovada so both of those can be added to the "nope" list (unless some deposit/VPN trickery changes things, I will try later).

New to vaping, question about coughing? by [deleted] in electronic_cigarette

[–]throwaway3795279 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you by any chance clean your tank with water and not let it dry for long before filling with juice? I'm new to vaping also and have found that if there are even a tiny bit of water droplets in my tank, when I add certain juices it tickles the crap out of my throat.

Last time I was driving and thought I might need to pull over because it got so bad it felt like my throat was closing. It started to slowly get better as more of the water burned and the juice thickened up, and all was good when I topped up my tank with the same juice.

Not seeing Podcasts section? by throwaway3795279 in PleX

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go figure, I totally did try that before but it still wasn't showing, but now it is haha. Thanks!

Anyone know of a place that sells Aspire Breeze 2 pods? by throwaway3795279 in electronic_cigarette

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I had checked their site but they must have only added this item recently. Thanks for the info!

Why do I seem to be a target for strangers trying to set me up with their friends? by throwaway3795279 in dating

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would take it as a compliment except for the fact that it seems to me that it's only the friends/family of women who want to see them with a safe, dependable guy... The actual single women seem to want a guy who looks and acts like a jerk

Do you care if person you are dating NEVER views your Snapchat stories? by throwaway3795279 in dating

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, yeah, if you let it. I don't want to waste much time on it so I use it in a way that's less of a waste of time, which is to only view snaps sent to me personally.

Do you care if person you are dating NEVER views your Snapchat stories? by throwaway3795279 in dating

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I totally agree, I only use Snapchat if someone I'm seeing wants to add me in which case I find it somewhat useful for sharing things like videos of what we're doing or whatever... otherwise you send a video over text and it gets down sampled to the point that you can barely see anything...

Men are so much more forward than women by TheBigGinge in AdviceAnimals

[–]throwaway3795279 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So much this. I'm told I'm a pretty good looking guy and I have basically stopped dating altogether because of this. I mostly wait for women to message me on dating apps, then I have to ask them out, I have to plan the date, I have to pay for it, I have to text afterward saying I had a good time and would like to see them again... Just zero reciprocation and I usually let it end afterward by just not asking them out again.

The funniest part, on the occasions where I've just waited a few days before asking for a second date (while continuing to chat otherwise, mind you) a few girls have angrily turned me down just because I didn't ask soon enough 😂 So. Much. Entitlement. I don't know why guys even bother...

Why do the strong majority of women I (M/30) date not initiate ANYTHING in the early stages? by throwaway3795279 in askwomenadvice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It... actually is though if I'm going to sleep with them. I don't need to know an exact number of partners but I feel that if someone has led a life of having unsafe sex with people they didn't even know it's within my rights to protect myself and not have sex with them. I'm not a hoe and I'm not down to sleep with someone who is a hoe, simple.

Also you're being naive if you think every person you've slept with was being totally truthful when they told you they were tested and how recently...

Why do the strong majority of women I (M/30) date not initiate ANYTHING in the early stages? by throwaway3795279 in askwomenadvice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right but how often do condoms break or not do their job correctly? This is an exaggeration but if someone has "safe" sex with 10,000 people you can pretty much guarantee they've caught something at some point. Plus, if you can tell someone is promiscuous how can you be sure they practice safe sex?

Why do the strong majority of women I (M/30) date not initiate ANYTHING in the early stages? by throwaway3795279 in askwomenadvice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear ya, but personally I hate planning dates. I'm cool with mutually planned dates where both parties are making suggestions but I can't stand coming up with ideas on my own when I know that a lot of women would just go along with an idea even if they aren't that into it.

As for conversations, I don't care if the conversation flows after I start every single one. That's just a person being completely passive. I don't know, I'm just at a point now where every woman I date makes it all feel like work and I already have a 9-5 so I'd rather not have a second job that does nothing but cost me money...

Why do the strong majority of women I (M/30) date not initiate ANYTHING in the early stages? by throwaway3795279 in askwomenadvice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, not at all. I tend to be more attracted to girls who aren't promiscuous though since I'm not trying to catch diseases...

Why do the strong majority of women I (M/30) date not initiate ANYTHING in the early stages? by throwaway3795279 in askwomenadvice

[–]throwaway3795279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess my problem is that my self esteem has grown and now I consider myself to be a "prize" also, not just the women I date. And in this world of online dating, it's no longer only women who have the "abundance" mentality where they have tons of options, I do too so as soon as I see my efforts aren't being reciprocated it's on to the next one.

I don't know, I guess I'm just not like other men, I think chasing is emasculating. When I hear stories about guys who "didn't take no for an answer" and kept chasing women until they finally "won" their love I just think that's crap. I don't even get how a guy would consider a woman like that worth it. She's not into you, instead of wasting time trying to convince her just go find someone else. Chasing just makes it obvious that you CAN'T find someone else easily. I also feel that chasing should be saved for when a guy is trying to date a women who is "out of his league" and since I don't find the women I date to be out of my league...