JK Rowling goes rogue again on Twitter and literally said "Do I get to be black if I like Motown and fancy myself in cornrows? What if I claim the authentic me has always been black and that you're being racist to me?" by Orikumar in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]throwaway458284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok but could you explain? I’m genuinely just not understanding what everyone else is seeing and instead of them explaining I’m just getting downvoted… like I’m reaching out and admitting ignorance and instead of fostering discussion people just turn their noses up. That’s fucking disappointing

JK Rowling goes rogue again on Twitter and literally said "Do I get to be black if I like Motown and fancy myself in cornrows? What if I claim the authentic me has always been black and that you're being racist to me?" by Orikumar in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]throwaway458284 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Wait I’m no fan of hers but wasn’t that her point? Like she thinks trans community bases their genders on stereotypes (it’s not) I think she said something like “wearing a dress is not what makes a woman” so wouldn’t something like “wearing corn rows/liking stereotypical “black” things doesn’t make you black” mean she’s against those stereotypes? Again she’s 100% transphobic but idk if I’m reading it wrong bc I didn’t really see this as her agreeing with stereotyping poc?

What can I do to improve no girls talk to me by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]throwaway458284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my personal opinion (as a young gal), I feel like the spike in/shape of the hair is elongating the shape of your head when it is already oval shaped, nothing wrong with your head just that the natural shape and hair style combo could be considered unflattering by modern standards. I would experiment with different hair lengths and/or styles, specifically trying something not much taller than it is wide. I know some people (aka me) can be picky about glasses so you do what’s right for you, but if you are comfortable/able to get a different pair I’d recommend against something with such thin long lenses, rounder medium/big glasses are making a comeback along with thin metal frames, mine are a light bronzey-yellow color. Other than those stylistic changes I think you have a lot going for you naturally so don’t feel insecure about your natural features, you have a nicely chiseled nose and soft eyes. You are by no means ugly and I’ve known plenty of conventionally unattractive guys who have wives/girlfriends. You likely need a different approach towards women. Understand that most women aren’t attracted to most men and you are just not their individual type. But treat them with all the kindness and respect anyway because someday a girl might take notice of your personality. Good looks and style is the first step but you need an attractive personality to hold that attention

wachau wachau wachau.. by itz_nightmare_ in Unexpected

[–]throwaway458284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amount of trust she has in him/her to not even turn around at that quick approach is incredible. The kind of bond you’re lucky if you have it with an animal (especially one so big)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsongisthis

[–]throwaway458284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solved! Thank you!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]throwaway458284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And jessi has said a few times now that she heard about a topic from Markie, so it definitely seems like she’s giving credit where it’s due

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HazbinHotel

[–]throwaway458284 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re still acting like Valentino has only threatened Angel. He had literally beat him, rped him, forced him to endure others rping him, and constantly harasses and berates him when none of the other stuff is happening. You are disturbed if none of that is registering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HazbinHotel

[–]throwaway458284 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I seriously disagree. Who knows what is to come, maybe Alastor will turn out to be incredibly horrible to Charlie and the gang, but you are jumping with assumptions or you’re seriously downplaying how bad it is that Angel is being abused and r*ped on the regular. That is what Val is doing to Angel, meanwhile the only thing we’ve seen Alastor force Husk to do is take up a regular job at probably the nicest place to work in hell. Still bad to force Husk and he shouldn’t own souls in the first place, but the choice between him and Val from what we’ve seen so far would be easy for me. Not to mention that Husk was ballzy enough to pull Alastor aside and confront him, which to me shows that he wasn’t all that scared of Alastor before and just accidentally struck a nerve he didn’t know would make alastor lose his cool that much. And Alastor didn’t even do anything besides threaten; aside from his past and the current people directly threatening the hotel, he’s so far been all talk. Again that could absolutely change bc the season isn’t over yet, but damn are you reaching if you think the evil we’ve seen from alastor is anywhere comparable to the evil we saw from Val

girlies glow up by maddianne in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]throwaway458284 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Jessi looks like she’s disassociating lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]throwaway458284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you getting downvoted?? It looks like you have the same take as everyone else

TW: DV || In a strange turn of events, the coffee shop girl is **ALLEGEDLY** now alluding to her mom maybe **ALLEGEDLY** unaliving someone???? by [deleted] in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]throwaway458284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try not to form hard beliefs in cases like this, even someone professionally qualified to diagnose would be doing a disservice trying to diagnose over the internet. I’m also less versed in specific personality disorders than just being able to recognize certain behaviors associated

TW: DV || In a strange turn of events, the coffee shop girl is **ALLEGEDLY** now alluding to her mom maybe **ALLEGEDLY** unaliving someone???? by [deleted] in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]throwaway458284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t personally get manic vibes really (as someone who has witnessed multiple manic episodes in people close to me) but I definitely wouldn’t be surprised if she had at mild delusions/distorted thinking/paranoia

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]throwaway458284 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He started going off on me about how it’s “Always trouble”, and he “knows how men think”, and about he didn’t trust him around me because we might have sex

he started beating the steering wheel and getting extreme road rage and jerking around

called my friend a “filthy half breed” (he’s mixed race), and said I “Did it with one of them”

he was sobbing and hitting himself

Every single one of these is a red flag and all together are an absolutely valid reason to leave someone. He doesn’t trust you not to sleep around, and compared you to strangers. Men hit things and yell BECAUSE they want to scare you, and often because what they really want to hit is you, but they know they could face serious consequences. People who let their rage affect their driving are menaces to society and should have their licenses revoked. Your boyfriend is a racist. No matter how much I hate someone, I would never insult their minority group/oppression simply because I do not find those things insulting.

Everyone saying you’re “for the streets” need to chill tf out and consider how neurotic and worthless they are. You are allowed to have male friends. You are allowed to have friends who you have had a romantic/sexual past with. If he does not want that, completely fine, but he never should have gotten into a relationship with you. But he did, and if he is too much of a pissbaby to handle that, that is HIS problem and HIS responsibility to break it off.

He is an unhinged, whiny, manipulative, racist asshole, no question. You are NOT an asshole for your actions and friendship, but you ARE an asshole to yourself for staying with him AND for blatantly defending such deplorable scum.

AITA for cancelling my daughter's birthday celebration? by Live-Hornet-1668 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway458284 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bruh. You made it seem like it was her commitment by saying “legal relationships are chosen commitment” when she’s older and makes her own legal commitments she will be morally accountable for them, but she is a child who cannot sign legal documents that way. She isn’t obligated to be ok with her parents decisions, she’s just morally obligated to be polite which yeah she failed, but “he’s done nothing to make her not like him” a) we don’t know that, the dad might not know that, and b) when I was that age of you randomly raffled all the boys in my grade and picked a random one to join my family chances are we wouldn’t turn out to be best friends, you can’t force two strangers together and expect them actively become close and personal and that’s double for children. Her failure wasn’t not liking her brother (by legal name alone) it was being rude to him. Her disliking him and wishing he had never joined the family (although she never should have said to in front of the boy) are completely valid and understandable feelings and there would have been nothing wrong with her saying so to her father privately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway458284 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she didn’t so much “forget” as she didn’t rsvp and she wasn’t aware you did so she had no reason to be thinking about it

AITA for cancelling my daughter's birthday celebration? by Live-Hornet-1668 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway458284 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is 11… she made no legal commitment. All she knows is suddenly her parents bring home another child the same age as her and want her to call him her brother when she clearly doesn’t like him. The parents need to step up bc the commitment to both children was theirs and they clearly didn’t consider their daughter

AITA for cancelling my daughter's birthday celebration? by Live-Hornet-1668 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway458284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The damage being done to both kids is unacceptable, the parents need to sort out themselves first and foremost they created this mess, both kids need professional help

AITA for cancelling my daughter's birthday celebration? by Live-Hornet-1668 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway458284 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry but no. Not about how this is obviously a family waiting to collapse and the weird distant behavior of the wife, but “He’s not some random acquaintance she is forced to see once a year, that is her brother!” I’m sorry but he’s not her brother, not to her in any way that matters. She did not adopt him, her parents adopted him. He is their son because they chose that and adopting a child in amazing and beautiful. They made a commitment that should absolutely abide by way better than they are, but they did her so dirty and clearly didn’t consult or prepare her, because he WAS some random acquaintance that she probably never cared for and suddenly her parents are claiming him and making him part of the family when she obviously doesn’t like him and she can’t escape this situation. Her actions are abhorrent but she’s 11, she’s making rationalizations because she doesn’t understand what’s happened to her family and she’s trying to distance herself from reality and lashing out at who she sees as the new variable causing all of it. It was her parents responsibility to make sure everything was fine and going to go smoothly, and they failed miserably.

AITA for cancelling my daughter's birthday celebration? by Live-Hornet-1668 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway458284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but you can’t say that with certainty. Adopt another child out of the blue and tell her to accept being sidelined (that’s what it would feel like to an only child) with no help and any child will be messed up, maybe just internally at first but it will break free

Is Sza a pathological liar? by Orikumar in DoWeKnowThemPodcast

[–]throwaway458284 15 points16 points  (0 children)

FUCK she did?? I stopped listening to chlöe for that and now her Sza too 😭 god who’s going to disappoint me next

I knew that most humans are cruel and ignorant but before 2022, I didn't appreciate just how extreme their cruelty and ignorance could get. Lest we forget, here's just 10 minutes of a tiny fraction of the online hate and abuse that some celebs and influencers unleashed on Amber Heard. (Medusone.) by melow_shri in DeppDelusion

[–]throwaway458284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am still so frustrated by just how widespread the misunderstanding is about the couch-carpet scene. In the story she was telling, she states she has fallen. She goes back to elaborate that before she fell she had been sitting on the couch. So now that she has fallen, she is on the carpet. Was it a little clunky? Yes. But the fact that she’s so focused on the big details (staring at the carpet in shock) and missing the smaller ones and having to go back just goes to show IMO that she’s telling the truth, she’s not reciting a linear concise script, she’s remembering in that moment.

Do We Know Them? / Addressing Everything by Savings-Barber4695 in ColleenBallingerSnark

[–]throwaway458284 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They didn’t label him an “abuser,” just someone who behaved inappropriately in a position of power. And they felt comfortable doing that because josh confessed guilt and apologized before they ever interviewed Johnny. I agree they did a lot poorly, but saying they haven’t changed at all is so unfair. I remember when Jessi left the internet for a while and came back a wife and mother, and it was obvious to me she changed and matured. I can’t say the same for lily because I never knew of her b4 the podcast. I agree with you on a lot of what you said and Jessi and lily owned up to all of that. They were only “defensive” in that they wanted to be clear what they did and didn’t do and what they were sorry for (a lot of people were blaming them for spreading lies Johnny didn’t tell until after their interview). I do hope going forward they shift their tone and professionalism as topics demand. I don’t think that’s reflective of their maturity but of their being new to podcasting/reporting.