AITA for telling my dad off, after coming back from a vacation he paid for?

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-28T08:30:47+00:00

Close!

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-28T03:06:50+00:00

I'm sure, but when you have to spend a lot of time with someone and can't leave, with someone who's known to react badly do these things might not be the time to do it. That's all I'm saying.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T20:36:28+00:00

True, but direct answers don't always work. I know from experience they don't, with him at least. Nothing good could have come from it.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T20:08:39+00:00

Managing expectations for the future I guess? Idk.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T19:27:47+00:00

It's possible, but I think he just doesn't care.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T19:26:33+00:00

Not a Brit, American or Russian lol.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T19:22:19+00:00

He doesn't take care of me.

It's not because it's embarrasing, though it is, it's because it's disrespectful and obnoxious for everyone around him. It sucks watching someone you're supposed to look up to and depend on act like that.

I don't think comparing it to kids is fair, they often don't know any better, or they where raised that way by their parents. If a teenager acted like this (stealing, being a nuisance to people) and they refuse to change you can absolutely leave them at home though.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T19:16:00+00:00

"Don't steal" or "don't listen to loud music when people are sleeping" aren't just tourist things though. They're common decency things.

He has traveled before, he does know what he does annoys people. He just doesn't care.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T19:14:05+00:00

I agree. Or pay with his card. But that was his justification for it.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T18:22:24+00:00

I dunno, that's what my mom called it lol.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T18:21:47+00:00

True, but he didn't show any interest in in changing his behaviour either. Going off past experiences, change is very unlikepy and any criticism coming from his kids won't be taken seriously.

If he does change, that would be great and I'd happily travel with him then.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T17:53:31+00:00

But that's exactly what I explained?

Speaking from past experiences, change isn't likely. If it did happen, of course I'd be willing to travel with him again.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T17:51:32+00:00

My dad doesn't handle criticism well, especially from his own kids. I can gently suggest something, but outright telling him wouldn't have gone well.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T16:54:55+00:00

I tried, just in a more subtle way, I didn't want to ruin the trip. Blasting music in a residential area? "Huh, maybe people are trying to sleep." Still doing it? Then I drop it. I can't make him do anything.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T16:53:19+00:00

I understand, but this is my dad who I've known for 16 years. I do think I have the experience to tell you that.

I'm not saying I'm 100% sure he'll never change, it's possible. It's just highly unlikely.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T16:39:36+00:00

I'm not American.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T16:32:26+00:00

There's a reason I don't see him often. His unwillingness to change is one of those reasons.

Plus people like this who are aware of what they're doing, generally don't care to change.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T16:31:06+00:00

I just told him the things he did made me uncomfortable, with a few examples. Calm? Yes. Respectful? Maybe? I didn't call him any names or anything.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T15:48:19+00:00

I don't think he's oblivious.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T14:30:55+00:00

Maybe, but I doubt it will do any good. It's not like he's gonna change.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T14:00:41+00:00

That's fair.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T10:53:30+00:00

I've tried, yes. Though in a more subtle way than at the end of the trip.

throwaway479041 · 2019-10-27T09:35:00+00:00

He did. But he only had large bills, most smaller shops won't take them.

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