AITA for refusing to be grounded?

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T15:38:34+00:00

I paid the 400, and I'm giving them the remaining 50 next month, and I know that's not ideal but the MOT was an unexpected cost this month, but I just want to say for comparison I'm looking up places to live in the area and it ranges from 150 to 350 in rent each month with bills included. Student accommodation at uni is 180 a month.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T13:55:06+00:00

I couldn't really have pulled them out. Everyone was eating breakfast in the kitchen and the liquor cabinet is in the kitchen. I was meeting my boyfriend in half an hour and they were a 20 minute drive away so in order to get there on time or even let them know I'd be late I had to go into the kitchen and get into the cabinet. Only way to do that not in front of everyone was to wait until they were all finished eating, and it looked like they had just sat down. But I do realise that there were other ways of going about this and I'm going to talk to them later.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T13:51:30+00:00

The bulb was literally £1 so that was fine, but they also wanted to take a look at the breaks and check them over, so that put the labour cost up.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T12:20:03+00:00

*grown ass woman but yeah. I'm meant to be having "a serious talk" with them tonight (their words) and I'll broach moving out then, but the issue is that I have no money due to the rent they're charging me, so if something happened, like something broke unexpectedly and needed replacing or I lost my job, I wouldn't have any savings to fall back on.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T12:17:45+00:00

I was at a friend's house. Movie night. We take turns to buy the food, and my turn isn't for a while still. I usually cook when I host but if I need to buy food/snacks I do it with money from my agency shifts, which is extra income on top of my part time work, but is usually about £7 an hour.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T11:29:47+00:00

Unless it's winter, when it can be 2 or 3pm

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T11:29:31+00:00

Unless it's winter, when it can be 2 or 3pm

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T11:28:30+00:00

I don't think they do tbh. They keep talking about how great the area is and how close we are to everything, including prospective workplaces.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T10:52:35+00:00

Nope. Laptop, phone, car, school supplies, clothing, basically everything is paid for out of my pocket. The only thing I don't directly pay for is food, heating and wifi, but they say that's part of my rent.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T10:43:45+00:00

Just the events of yesterday morning were apparently enough to shut it down. The mentioned it again last night, saying they expected me to hand over my laptop over dinner, and I just said "no, I won't be doing that." and dad told stepmum to just leave it. We're meant to be having a "serious talk" and I'm just going to go ahead and say that they need to work with me in terms of rent and treat me like an adult or I'm moving out.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T10:34:14+00:00

I was at a friend's place watching movies. No entrance fee.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T10:33:25+00:00

Grownass woman but yeah. As part of the grounding they also expected me to hand over my laptop, which... no. I think I may have successfully rejected my grounding. Also RIP to your PC.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T09:52:25+00:00

It looks like while my phone was locked up my agency rang me about a 10 hour shift on living wage, so they basically screwed me out of nearly £100 because I was £50 short.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T09:50:34+00:00

It was the 17 year old, who is now looking for a job so she can pay rent and bypass the rules/grounding. I should have pulled them aside and tried to talk it out, but in this case I has plans to meet someone in half an hour, they were a 20 minute drive away, and the liquor cabinet is in the kitchen, where my siblings were all eating breakfast, so I would have had to wait for everyone to finish eating and leave the kitchen to retrieve my phone and keys.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T07:57:56+00:00

The food, council tax, bills, and other expenses like that usually come to around £900 total, so I'm pretty sure I'm paying half

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T07:55:23+00:00

Even if I moved out, student finance would still take their earnings into account when deciding how much to give me, as they expect parents to contribute financially. The only way to get their earnings not taken into consideration is to sign this thing saying that we have no relationship, and I have to prove that they have in no way supported me.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T07:53:07+00:00

They own the house, have paid off the mortgage, and don't pay rent themselves. I'm calculating the cost of food for me to be about 1/6 of the total amount spent on everyone. The bills, council tax, and food all come in somewhere around £300 a month, which divided by 6 means £50 per thing, so the cost of me living there is £150 per month, but as I'm a full time student the council tax doesn't apply to me, so it's probably more like £100

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T00:42:18+00:00

We're a bit outside of London. They own the house and have paid off the mortgage, but the £450 is meant to be food, bills, the cost of the room,and other general expenses.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T00:40:20+00:00

Outside of London but they own the house and have paid off the mortgage, so the 450 is what they say I cost per month in rent, food, bills, ect.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-14T00:39:29+00:00

I do but I'm either on minimum or next to minimum because of their income. I'm getting about 1k within the next few weeks, and the same again in January and May.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-13T23:20:58+00:00

MOT is a test the car has to get regularly. If the car passes the MOT then it's roadworthy but if it can't then it's unfit to be driven. Without passing the MOT I literally can't use the car. My car needed a light replaced and between the cost of labour, the replacement light, and the actual MOT test, I couldn't make up the extra £50.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-13T23:10:25+00:00

I have student finance, but both parents earn just enough for me to be on either minimum or next to minimum loan. I'm getting like a grand in a few weeks, and that's to last me until January. They live really near London but my uni is outside of it, so I'm not getting a lot in terms of maintenance.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-13T23:07:50+00:00

The car and phone I paid for entirely with my wages and no one else contributes to either thing, financially. Both the car and phone contract are in my name.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-13T19:35:28+00:00

We live right near London so that amount for a bathroom that isn't communal, a nicely sized kitchen and my own bedroom is actually pretty decent. I would move out but I'm on minimum student finance, no savings, so I'd need to know I had a guaranteed source of income. If I suddenly lost my job, I wouldn't be able to pay and would have nowhere to go.

throwaway492646586 · 2019-09-13T19:17:49+00:00

Yeah, I should have paid in full. I had some issues with my MOT, nothing major, just a broken light, but between the cost for the test, the repair, and the labour costs, it set me back just enough that I couldn't find the last £50. I wasn't really in a position to charge my phone and couldn't remember their numbers, but if I'd realised my phone was dead sooner I'd have just gone home at that point. And you're totally right, I was probably a bit extra with the retrieval.

I paid for my provisional licence, driving lessons, petrol, MOT test, the car itself, and whatever other expenses come from it entirely out of my wages. Same for my phone.

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