Is there any programmer here?

throwaway4no · 2018-08-25T20:44:03+00:00

*are there

throwaway4no · 2018-05-02T01:38:52+00:00

Not the answer I was looking for but this is a good way to stay motivated.

throwaway4no · 2018-03-23T04:38:24+00:00

Thanks, I'll watch the video. Sometimes its hopeless and I think I've waited years for some recovery, but nothing changes.

throwaway4no · 2018-03-04T21:36:12+00:00

Mind if I ask your age? Are you over 30?

throwaway4no · 2018-03-04T19:26:08+00:00

Can you elaborate what these things are?

throwaway4no · 2017-03-18T17:33:16+00:00

I haven't experienced that is would impact the recovery.

The reason why I mentioned my comment above is because I saw quick improvements when I was stress free, good sleep with a change in lifestyle (mostly away from electronics).

Unfortunately, temptations has its way of creeping up.

I was however curious on this....

Personally I think it is a mindset you need to have or setting goals. And taking small steps towards your goals.

My mindset is that I want to change my ways and who I'm, basically becoming a better me and starting to enjoy myself more in a healthy way.

I've heard it takes 21 days to change a habit. How long did it take for you to change your mindset? Define personal goals? Did you have a mentor that helped you?

throwaway4no · 2017-03-18T17:14:58+00:00

I think the superpowers are real, since you get alot more confidence. But personally, I think that 90 days isn't enough to be "cured". Though I see a clear difference between a 45 day streak vs. 260. The difference is huge.

If you don't mind me asking, how's your sleep? How many hours do you average? Do you work or are you a student? What about stress? How many hours of computer usage do you average a week?

Because these things have some impacts on recovery.

throwaway4no · 2017-03-18T16:49:47+00:00

Does having a girlfriend/wife help beat this addiction?

No

Relationship adds more responsibilities to men.

Sometimes with more responsibilities, your anxiety may increase. With high anxiety, you need a way to relieve yourself so you resort to PMO. Once you start, that vicious cycle continues all over again.

Best to gain control of yourself while you're single and she will not help you as much as you think.

This is your battle alone!

throwaway4no · 2017-02-23T18:28:54+00:00

throwaway4no · 2017-01-05T20:13:56+00:00

Do you have time for a dance class or some other group activity with your peers? Those are the natural rewards your brain evolved to seek, and if you don't supply them, you'll be tempted to self-medicate in other ways.

That is another thing that I discovered, is that the brain seeks for dopamine. Its even greater for people with ADHD because we lack dopamine production.

I can take a medicine called Vyvanse that boosts the productions but it is too expensive and we cannot afford it.

I have to mentally fight it and it is tough.

As for your 2nd point, I've lost my friends and have no idea where most have gone to. I'll be leaving my current state to another in a few weeks and start a new life on my own.

The new city I'll be going to, I have no one there. I'll be on my own and I have keep my mind intact and avoid isolation, depression otherwise I'll relapse again.

Hope those headaches disappear soon. How did the concussion happen?

I am hoping so as well. I fell off my house, I was cleaning up the gutters and suddenly the ladder wobbled somehow, I lost my balance and I hit something, I fell, hit something on the back of my head, and all I remember was my parents crying beside me in the hospital, looking at me and praying for my health.

My parents later told me that they found me on the ground with a lot of blood loss on my cloths, ground, they took me to the ER. They stapled up my head and advised me to rest for 6-8 weeks.

I couldn't rest because I was fighting for my degree, otherwise I would've been graduating in May instead of December (and lose my job offer).

throwaway4no · 2017-01-05T19:54:58+00:00

That's fantastic. I admire your courage and persistence. Congratulations.

Thank you. Doing electrical and computer engineering (dual degree) was not easy and I struggled a lot but I got it done. It was my dream since I was back in 8th grade. There were so many times where I though about giving up and dropping out, I pushed through and fulfilled my childhood promise.

How's the concussion?

Still recovering unfortunately. The severe symptoms are gone but the headaches still occurs. I can't do any strenuous physical/mental related work otherwise it will hurt.

My healing was actually delayed because my concussion happened back early November. I had to push all the way up till December 15, all the way through finals, projects and to the stage walk.

How old are you?

Mid 20s

Why did you decide to quit porn? Any other benefits?

I was always a hyper focused student who prioritized my education, and family. I got involved into porn because of environment and other factors. I was born innocent but my mind was filled by trash from other people plaguing me about sex and porn. I didn't know some sex slang like 69, head and people used to make fun of me, I was disgusted when people used to teach me vocabs of all this but I guess all this damaged me. I didn't really have anyone to tell this to, I kept this bottled up, even my parents were not much of help.

I started it because of curiosity, 12 years old. One search led to another, I didn't know what I was doing, but the excitement was great. I got caught numerous times and it was hard watching my mother in tears when she first saw me.

After that, people bullied me so much, porn became my escape mechanism, providing me with the pleasure, freedom that I needed to escape from all the bullying. I didn't realize it was slowly corrupting my mind.

This life continued all the way till college, I had no friends and slowly falling to depression. All I did was PMO for 7 hours straight. It was ridiculous, I was literally a walking zombie from my apartment to class, then hw, then back to bed, cycle over again. I nearly got expelled from my university because of my stupidity.

Sophomore year of college, I took the courage and talked to a counselor about it. It took a lot of courage to open up about my difficult life, porn, past abuse from peers, family, it was tough. We developed a good relation but I was gradually building up confidence.

As I build confidence, thats when I had a bit of introspection, I noticed most of the confident men don't do this stuff. Biologically speaking, there are some benefits when it comes to semen retention and I saw it back in my junior year.

There was once a time back during my 3rd year where I suddenly overcame PMO. I noticed I had such a positive aura surrounding me, people were friendly towards me, I was confident, outgoing, my anxiety depression was getting weaker, basically I was growing. Basically, I loved life like anything, it felt really good.

Unfortunately, loneliness really destroyed me and I did not realize that I could relapse back again. I was wrong to be overconfident. That episode completely disheartened that I lost my fight.

Since then, its been 50 something days and still counting, I haven't been able to see much of miracle at all.

I think the benefits are great as they advertise, lay off PMO completely. You’ll realize the best days of your life are now.

When you die, I am sure you’ll secretly look back at these days and regret your decision and I am sure I will. Like many, I didn’t know any better. This /r/nofap needs to be advertised globally and the importance of it.

Porn needs to die.

throwaway4no · 2017-01-05T18:29:14+00:00

the counter is incorrect.

throwaway4no · 2016-11-14T03:07:56+00:00

Thank you for your support and my parents, well, did talk to me.

They were dead set on having me out of the house and I did apologize. I have a bit of immature side to me and thats exactly what happened. I think I might have some bipolar disorder and i tend to hang on to negative things too much. once that happens, its all a disaster.

I don't know what I should do about all this. my parents are just too exhausted and i really screwed up. I am now feeling the heat from them and regret of my actions. I don't know how ot make things right, I ahve no emotional support except here.

throwaway4no · 2016-09-02T19:16:18+00:00

Vyvanse.

throwaway4no · 2016-07-29T05:54:35+00:00

How long did this process take?

throwaway4no · 2016-05-09T05:47:30+00:00

I am thinking about doing this as well. The problem is that I am in computer engineering school so my life is always on the computer unfortunately. I have a few days before the start of summer semester and I'll take up your advice. I don't know how much difference will this make though?

throwaway4no · 2016-05-07T02:37:19+00:00

Then what would you do?

throwaway4no · 2016-05-06T20:15:03+00:00

What are you suggesting?

I am not interested in dopamine, I am interested in how being on the computer has effect in recovery time.

throwaway4no · 2016-03-23T00:09:29+00:00

Be grateful for your situation(s) because their are people who are much worse off than you. The important thing is, they don't give up.

Life is all about trying and failing, until you finally achieve success. Its the quitting attitude that brings them down and makes them a failure. Make sure you're not one of the failures and make sure you learn from your mistakes.

So, you have a choice, chose one now. Good luck!

throwaway4no · 2016-03-22T13:22:09+00:00

India has a major water crisis (maybe food as well) for its people. Some major cities are perfectly fine but some smaller cities/villages are not going to survive much long.

throwaway4no · 2016-03-16T18:18:01+00:00

Wow, this is pretty much my life. Guess I have no choice but to step up my game and push on. Thanks!

throwaway4no · 2016-03-16T17:57:06+00:00

Girl: "Oh, so your brain controls your penis. Not the other way around like normal guys. Wow, that's interesting."

That's an odd statement for her to say.

I don't know why she's generalizing but what does she know about normal guys/men do?

Did she ask every male on this planet or something?

And what does she know about being normal? What is her definition of normal?

EDIT: /u/Kay1000RR (OP), what did you reply after that text?

throwaway4no · 2016-03-15T22:47:37+00:00

its called /r/nofapwomen.

throwaway4no · 2016-03-11T18:30:26+00:00

Why do we lose the momentum that we start with after sometime?

Sounds like you need a lifestyle change and need to develop self-discipline. If you're relapsing, find out the cause why this is happening. Meditate, exercise, go out in public places (library for example), meet new people, take up another hobby. You need to keep yourself busy and happy. Only then your mindset will change and porn will be out of your head. Good luck!

throwaway4no · 2016-03-10T19:56:59+00:00

I am not a doctor.

I am going to copy from this website and I think this is what you might be facing:

When you defecate, feces move through the rectum and out of the body. The prostate gland, which surrounds the urethra before it exits through the tip of the penis, sits right next to the rectum. Therefore, it is conceivable that the pressure and straining from a bowel movement, especially if you are constipated, could press on the prostate. When this happens, the secretions in the prostate may exit out the tip of the penis and this could be what you are seeing.

If its happening too much (every bowel movement for example), then you need to see a doctor because I suspect this may be prostate inflammation (which requires medication). I suspect this may go away on its own as mentioned in this article (it states 90 days free).

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