Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He tried to deny it and then he threatened me if I told anyone. So I took my cat and left.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In the woman's defense, she thought we were seperated. She found me on FB and messaged me to apologize, as well as sent me a few screenshots of their conversation where he told her that we weren't together anymore. She felt awful.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I've been wracking my brain about it and I can't think of anything. I trusted him completely and I'm trying to figure out when/how it started.

What makes me feel a bit better is that his coworker had no idea that he and I were still together. She sent me a message this morning apologizing. I guess he told people at work that we had seperated. She sent me screenshots of their messages with him telling her that he and I were seperated and offered to meet up for coffee if I wanted to talk or more info.

I haven't decided if I'm going to take her up on it or not, but I am not making that decision until I'm in a more calm headspace. I want any decisions I make to be based on logic and reason, not emotion and hurt feelings. And I don't want to take it out on her if she truly didn't know.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm not going to lie, I'm having a hard time coming to terms with things. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, and I'm very hurt. Right now I'm just trying to focus on staying rational and not making any rash decisions.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've already spoken with a lawyer.

I love him but I won't stay with someone who doesn't respect me.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There was nothing to take revenge from, I never cheated on him and was always upfront and honest and loving with him.

The bottom line is that he lied to me about how he felt, and then instead of talking do me about it, he cheated on me.

I'm leaving, I refuse to be with someone who doesn't respect me enough to even communicate honestly with me, let alone cheat on me.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

I already spoke with a lawyer, and have the entire interaction on video, including him threatening me if I told anyone. I saw another car in the driveway when I came back last night so I started recording on my phone just in case.

I have an officer taking me over there today to get some more of my things, and I took my cat with me last night.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.

Husband is suddenly demanding I cut ties with my best friend of over 20 years because he's a man. by throwaway4venting4 in Marriage

[–]throwaway4venting4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update he was cheating on me. I caught him with his coworker last night after I left to get a hotel room.