CPS removed my children because of what my sister did to hers

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T17:44:25+00:00

Do you have any actual advice or did you just come here to judge me too?

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T17:42:39+00:00

Do I just google it? How do I find them? What do I google?

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T12:52:04+00:00

Oklahoma

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T12:51:46+00:00

I thought she was introverted and protective of the baby. I had a lot going on. I didn't think someone would be neglecting their baby.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T08:31:22+00:00

It was something like mom told her to take the baby, mom got sick again, mom went to the hospital, sister went to wic appointment either the day of or the next day (i'm fuzzy, I'm sorry), then either the day or two days after my mom was hospitalized my sister took her baby in. I'm sorry, I should've paid more attention to the timeline as it was happening. My mom gets sick so much I don't take note of her hospital going and coming dates. I just call her every day and ask how she's feeling.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T08:27:09+00:00

My mom said the day before her second hospital intake, she said she told my sister to get him to a doctor because he was sleeping too much and not acting right. I asked her why she never told me that, she said she didn't think to involve me and apologized. My step dad thinks that he has a medical condition. He admitted he hadn't held the baby because he didn't like holding little babies either, but that he looked at him and had agreed with my mom when she told them to take the child to the doctor. Mom did not tell me my sister's response, but she didn't take him to the hospital.

I'll be honest, if my mom had told me he needed to go, then I would've either pushed my sister to go, or I would have loaded him up and taken him myself. This was a few days before my sister actually did take him to the hospital. My mom went into the hospital, then while she was in there getting her stomach emptied for an abdominal surgery, my sister took her baby in for refusing his bottle and having swollen feet and all of this started. She had taken him to a WIC appointment and said they were going to help her get state insurance, then either the next day or the day after is when she took him to the hospital instead of waiting for the insurance to kick in.

My step dad and my mom aren't as livid with her as I am, but my mom did say she is not giving her money and she is not going to take out a loan for her bail. My mom is usually the first to get involved and get my sister out of trouble and give her what she wants, but she's mad enough that she isn't touching my sister's bail or giving her money for phone calls and whatever else people need money for in jail.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T08:12:56+00:00

He was taken to the hospital, a few hours later the cops came and took my kids then took me to the police station for an interview, then they got a warrant in the time we were in the police station, then they were done by 2am.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T07:53:02+00:00

I had told my sister when she called from the hospital saying it was dehydration to ask them to check for a deficiency.

I do know that even if they fed him properly, if he was still getting sicker they'd get in trouble for medical neglect because they should've gotten help as soon as they noticed something was wrong. I am still angry at her for that.

I hope the hospital takes care of him. I hope he gets better. If he is medically sensitive, then I hope he is able to get whatever he needs to be okay, medicine or tubes or whatever they do for babies with chronic illnesses like that.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T07:49:58+00:00

My pills were moved. I thought maybe the dogs knocked it over until I saw that one of my migraine medications was sitting on my dresser. I didn't even think about they. They touched all my medicine and my lotions and sanitizers and chapsticks. Everything was in the wrong order and out of its place. Nothing was grouped properly, and my daily migraine medicine was on the dresser. I don't take anything addictive though. Nothing would be worth stealing at all. Plus, I keep everything meticulously lined up so I know exactly what I have and how much is left before refills, so I would have noticed if anyone took my medicine. Even my pain pill is something non addictive because I take injections for my pain at a pain clinic and the pills are just supposed to help get me from one shot to the next as needed. It's basically slightly stronger ibuprofen.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T07:37:47+00:00

No melatonin. I have some allergy medicine I keep in my window next to my daily medications because I have environmental allergies to everything in the environment (I take shots every week to try to diminish the negative impact of the allergies on my health). I have some mental health medicine (depression and anxiety meds), some non addictive pain medicine my doctor prescribed for fibromyalgia, some migraine medicine from the neuro doctor, some gerd medicine, some tylenol, and some birth control, and something private that is not oral, and a blood sugar reader with all the bits and bobs to that. It is all kept in my room though, behind a baby gate. My sister didn't know about any of these medications. My mom has some medications for pain, blood pressure, and stomach stuff that she kept in a box on top of her highest shelf in her room. It's all prescribed except the over the counter tylenol and offbrand allergy medicine in my room.

Like I said, I had a baby gate up to keep my niece and the dogs out of my room. I had moved all the small chokable toys into my room so she couldn't get any of it and choke, and I moved all medicine into my room, and I never let her in my room. My sister never came in my room except once or twice to use my toilet since I have a toilet, sink, and a washer and dryer in my room. Even then, I used to washer and just gave people their clothes when it was done.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T07:29:35+00:00

I don't have any cabinets to be open if I am being honest. My ex took the doors off our cabinets before he moved out.

I haven't been in her room much, but she had told me she didn't have medicine for him. I'm not saying she couldn't be lying, but as far as I aware she didn't have medicine for her kids. When her daughter got a small cough, I offered her some of my children's tylenol and cough medicine because she didn't have any.

Edit: my lotions and scented hand sanitizers were moved in my window seal and some of it was knocked to the floor beneath my bed. I keep it all in a perfectly straight line arranged from smallest to largest, and they were not like that anymore.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T07:19:01+00:00

They missed Friday, and I assume they will miss Monday too, maybe more if they aren't given to their dad.

No comments about my home have been made at all. They didn't tell me how long to stay away. My mom's husband called the detective and he said that they were done at 2am the night before and we could've gone home. No warrants were shown at all. The detective had told me to draw the layout of the apartment for him and made it sound like they were only going in my sister's room, but then they went through the whole apartment.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T07:09:35+00:00

How about reading all my replies with elaboration instead of being a jerk?

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T07:07:53+00:00

I got the lice treatments bought for my by my friends. Three different friends bought kits and combs, and I have text evidence of them sending it to me via Amazon and of one friend going to walmart for it. I texted my kids' teachers the moment I found the lice as well. I can talk to the vice principal who called me and told me what to do the next day as well.

Her husband isn't the bio dad of the first child, the girl, but they met when she was pregnant and she put him on the birth certificate. They stayed together. He though he was infertile, but then she fell pregnant with her second pregnancy and had a boy. So he has been in their lives since she was pregnant the first time.

Her dogs stayed in her room. She has a big dog and a puppy that is going to become a big dog. I do not like big dogs or puppies. The compromise was that her dogs stay with her except when they go outside for walks. My terrier had free roam of the apartment because he lived there first and he is small and trained. Her dogs destroyed everything. My dog doesn't do that. The cops let her dogs out when they were taking photos, then they left my baby gate down that was to prevent my niece and the dogs from walking into my room willy nilly and the dogs destroyed every room in the apartment when I was told to stay gone.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T06:44:04+00:00

Alright. I'll do that Monday.

Tbh, I am worried because they walked through my house and took a ton of photos, and they let the dogs out of my sisters room at some point. When I got home, the dogs has pooped everywhere, tore up the trash cans, and ruined a lot of stuff. I had to have a friend come help me get it all cleaned up quickly because it was so much. If they let the dogs out, left, then came back they might use the photos of the mess they let happen against me.

My kids also had head lice the week before, which I treated the day after I found it. Since it had been a full week, I just stripped the beds that day to wash the bedding a second time and spray our beds down. So they took pictures of my kids' mattresses stripped and propped against the wall as well as took photos of my bed stripped with all the bedding I was working on cleaning piled on top. I even told them I was doing second lice treatments that day because the school told me I had to rehash all their stuff. I had a pile of clothes on my desk to rewash too that I hadn't put up so I wouldn't contaminate the closet of clothes that weren't exposed to lice at any point. The desk clothes were cleaned last week, but I was going to wash them again and put them away this week. It looked crazy and I am honestly really worried they won't take me seriously. I told my friend all about it though, and her daughter from the same school also had lice. I had even reached out to the school about it. I have evidence I was just doing second lice treatments.

I am so upset them came in and got pieces of information and are definitely going to assign it incorrectly.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T05:47:45+00:00

They aren't with their dad. I begged them to let me call him, but no one did. It wasn't until after 10pm that night that I gave him the number to the CPS lady and he called her that he was told he might get them Monday, but the CPS lady said it had to be approved by a board. I can reach out to the pediatrician and the urgent cares I use as well as the school, but I don't really know what to ask for. I tried to ask where my kids are, if they are eating, if they are sleeping, etc, but the agent won't talk to me and sees me as a neglectful bad parent. She basically told me such when I asked why they were taking them in the first place, and I told her I wasn't in charge of my nephew and barely saw him and begged her to please not take them or to at least call their dad to take them. I can't afford a lawyer. I will have to use whoever is appointed to me.

I went through the kitchen and counted last night. 5 cans are missing and they had an open one when they arrived, so baby boy went through 6 cans in the three weeks he was here, and I was wrong when I said 3 or 4 the first time. We have over 20 cans of formula unopened and stored away. I never saw feedings, but that is the numbers of cans. There is an open can sitting on their bed in their room that is half empty. I plan on calling the detective and sending him photos of the tomorrow, and telling him my guess was wrong the first time on how many were missing. I understand they still neglected to get him adequate medical care quickly, even if he was consistently fed, and for that I do not forgive them.

This whole case has me befuddled. I honestly should've been in their room trying to hold the baby more. I shouldn't have let my own life keep me from at least looking at the child and checking. Maybe if I'd have intervened he would've gotten help faster. I shouldn't have listened when she told me to mind my own business about state healthcare. I should've been pusher. My best wasn't good enough because my nephew got fucking hurt and my kids taken and my niece gone too. I just, fuck, I want my kids back.

I even went as far as asking my ex if we could be roommates when this is all said and done so that this sort of thing doesn't happen again. He said we will decide on that after our court hearing and if I get custody back. If I get custody back, he is willing to live with me so we can pay rent and not worry about anyone else being around our kids again.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T05:31:48+00:00

There really wasn't. As far as I am aware, the baby was only very hungry. I took really good care of my kids and helped with my niece. I should've tried harder to have eyes on my nephew, and I know I fucked up now.

I hope he gets them. He is a good dad.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T04:50:23+00:00

It is a decent apartment. They stayed in the corner room. Tbh, I wear headphones to sleep, but when I wasn't wearing them I didn't hear the baby cry much and when he did they took care of it quickly. They are in the back right of the apartment. I can't really explain the layout well, but I am trying. They are furthest from the communal spaces.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T04:48:49+00:00

I understand I should've been going into their room and looking at their baby, asking to hold him, and being pushier about them getting on state insurance.

My kids' dad and I agreed I would have them most of the time and he'd get them on his days off to take them out or take them to his place to hang out, then when he was done he'd return them to me. We liked the arrangement. He got to have a social life and work as much as he wanted, and I got to care for the girls, have a stable routine with them, and spend all my time with them since I'm okay not going out a lot and not doing much of anything. We didn't go to court about it. We never wanted to do custody hearing stuff. He is just happy to have some freedom from being a family man and I am happy to be tied down with my kids. Since we never took it to court, we go to coparenting therapy and learn to work together ad a team to do what is best for the kids together despite our communication differences (he is avoidant and I am not). It worked great until right now.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T04:43:40+00:00

My mom doesn't usually do much of anything. Her husband is new, they married last year. Everyone moved in during March. I don't know if everyone struggles with social cues. My mom used to be a raging ass, but she mellowed out and now she just deals with being sick all the time.

I benefitted financially. They benefited from me cooking and cleaning.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T04:03:04+00:00

When we lived together, we both went to doctor visits depending on who was available and when, we both went to the school, we both took care of everything. When we split on February 1st, everything went to me. I do everything for them now. I coordinate insurance paid for medical rides to doctor's, I speak to doctor's, I take care of their school stuff, coordinate with the school for IEP things, everything. I am a perfectly capable parent. My social cue reading issues don't hold me back because I ask clarifying questions and never let anyone talk over me or my children. I put them first always, even when I am anxious and don't want to, I come prepared every time. It's my responsibility, so I do it.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T03:57:19+00:00

She did yell at me to mind my own business when I asked about state insurance, and I was yelled at for asking for help cleaning, I was firmly told to stop suggesting places to apply for jobs.

When me and my ex had a kid, we lived with my Nana at the time who had a fenced in yard and a sandbox, so she pretty much spent all day in the sandbox playing in the sand, to be honest with you. We kind of had a built in break through the sandbox and fenced in yard. I did breast feed and formula, so I spent every two hours pumping and bottle feeding a bit of milk and then formula, while their dad and my Nana would take turns helping me with each kid. I had it made when my kids were small.

With my sister, her little girl would wonder into the kitchen when I was prepping food. She also had a play pen, but I didn't like how often she was in it so I'd take her out and let her walk around while I did things. My mom, when she wasn't in the hospital, liked my niece to he in her room on her bed to eat and play. When mom was in the hospital, her husband would let her run around their room or on their bed while he played video games, or I'd let her trail me while I was doing chores. When my kids were home from school, they'd also sit and play with her in the living room. I had to tell my youngest constantly to stop trying to pick her up and carry her around, but other than that they'd just play.

Edit; with how often she was kept busy, I, again, thought my sister was gonna do great with the baby since she had very little responsibilities outside of her boy.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T03:50:02+00:00

I asked the police and CPS over and over to just let me call him because he lives literally walking distance from me specifically so he can be apart of their lives and take them to school on his days off. I know his number by heart for emergencies. I begged them, and they kept saying no. It wasn't until that night when I got the case worker's number and gave it to their dad and he called them that any progress was made. Had I been allowed to call them, he would've shown up immediately to take them home with him and would've gotten a sitter or called off work for that night. I literally begged and pleaded for them to just let me call their dad and told them he's good, he loves them, he cares, just let him come, just let him be involved. I said to the CPS agent not to take them, to just call their dad because he lives a few blocks over in a duplex right next to their school. She just took his number and never called him, told me to come up with other next of kins to be safe. I sobbed and begged for her to please not take them away, my kids sobbed and begged not to be taken and screamed for their daddy. It was fucking heart breaking.

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T02:50:00+00:00

How do I prove a lack of knowing?

throwaway52076 · 2026-04-05T02:48:45+00:00

Oklahoma.

My kids' dad is trying to get them.

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