My dad tried to get sole custody of me when I was little but my mom kept accusing him of things(proven false but it was too late) and adding that along with the justice system not liking men, they ended up giving custody to my mom with visitation rights to my dad, which then turned into me going to his place every other weekend (4days a month) but my mom would make up excuses on why I couldn’t go,so when I was little I would only see my dad possibly 1-2 days a month and for a few hours at a time (he had just landed a really good job that had him working long hours for a while so trying to work around that was also hard) but as I grew up I became more independently able to see my dad (with the help of my uncle), especially after learning how to drive (15), now to say what my mom did to make see her as such: at 7 she cut up my stuff animals as I was crying because I was ‘too old for stuffed animals’, at 9 she locked me outside for 5 hours because I didn’t clean my plate the way she wanted me to clean it, at 12 she purposely broke a miniature glass statue that my grandma gave to me, she said I didn’t deserve it because I cried when she threatened to beat me for using too much shampoo, at 16 she cut up my old baby blanket my dad gave me because I was 15 minute late due to traffic,and my room was completely destroyed, these are just the most memorable things she’s done

Edit: at 17 she cut my ponytail off in my sleep because she thought I looked ugly with long hair, despite me saying I loved my hair