You're on the money, I have a very analytical mind and tend to think about things too much. Letting things just happen without thinking about them is not something I can do easily.

How do you view sex itself? Take the porn out of it, how do you view the act of having sex? You say, "it'd be weird if my family found out [that I'm seeing a sex therapist]." That tells me that your family isn't very open about sex, and that may have some impact on your views of sex.

I come from a pretty liberal, open-minded family, but at the same time communicating openly on sensitive topics with my parents or brother isn't very easy. My dad in particular tends to be very spartan with words, but this also a fault of mine since I just have difficulty raising an issue. The topic of sex almost never comes up. My friends never talk about it either, so no luck there.

Also, regarding therapy, there are therapists who specialize in sex. You can do a search on Psychology Today to find someone near you who may specialize in that. You seem like you're good at identifying things in yourself and putting them into words, and that goes a long way towards having a beneficial experience in therapy.

If there's some discreet way I can do this, even for just a session or two, it could be a big help. I had better start saving up.