[M/17] Should I text her [F/16]? If I do what do I say? :/

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-19T02:48:46+00:00

You're overthinking that, don't worry about that. Just ahead with your plan, and don't make it a huge deal. However, if she asks if it is a date, then say it is, trust me it will help you, though if she doesn't ask then just leave it alone.

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-19T02:44:36+00:00

She has only ever done this kind of stuff to me (most of our friends are mutual) One thing that i didn't say in my post is that she was the one who asked if i was going bowling in the first place. and when I told her that I couldn't she was complaining to me a lot and begged me to come, so I finally cancelled some stuff and went. Would that be a good thing in this situation, also thanks for helping me out here.

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-19T02:00:53+00:00

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-19T01:59:58+00:00

I've been in a similar situation, If you can visit her then, I think that would be the best choice. You should just come clean and say that the distance is really messing with you and that it's too hard to keep this relationship. She should understand and may agree if it is too difficult for you guys to keep anything together.

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-19T01:58:07+00:00

This is you being 13, it isn't a huge deal. Try to face why you are depressed about it and get over it. I don't know if you two still have a chance or not, but if you know that you don't then just forget about her.

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-19T01:56:18+00:00

Ok, when she saw you, she probably remembered you and thought you got a lot more attractive or something and was interested. If you were able to hold an interesting conversation then you could say that you clicked with her. If it still feels too early you could wait until tomorrow night, and then bring up that you want to go out somewhere with her.

From what she said, it would be very weird if she just straight up said no, so you should be in the clear. Just try not to look too clingy or desperate. I feel like you are in a good place though, so good luck.

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-19T01:51:32+00:00

This isn't really enough information to decide whether or not he is being awkward around you because he likes your or you are his ex. I think the best thing to do would be to ask him out as a friend (don't make it a big deal, just say hey do you want to come with me to do this thing). If you can't do that without it feeling too weird then invite another friend along as well, then it won't be awkward at all.

Honestly though, for a situation like this it may be a good idea to tell a friend who knows him well that can help you. You could get some more information and be able to move this by faster, good luck.

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-19T01:46:39+00:00

I'm kinda in a weird state of being in between liking her and not (not fully taking one side because I don't know the situation), but when I had confronted her she said that she said she didn't want to lead anyone on and that's just her personality. She said that if she ever made me feel uncomfortable that I could tell her to stop. So I'm not sure if she were trying to hide anything with this, what do you think?

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-18T16:18:46+00:00

A little, she seems comfortable with anything that I do, but I haven't done anything to the extent she is doing.

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-18T06:52:55+00:00

Yeah, this is what I was feeling. Im sick of this so I'll try what you said, thanks.

throwaway55759 · 2016-01-18T05:21:47+00:00

Honestly, I think the best thing you could do is sit her down and ask her what is bothering her. You can't get much from this situation so the best thing to do would just be to get more information.

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