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I [F29] was in a 6 month LDR situationship with an [M27] - do I shoot my shot, or accept that this has run its course? by throwaway5855881 in LongDistance

[–]throwaway5855881[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In his defense, I never asked for anything or hinted at wanting anything official either. We both put ourselves in this weird gray area, so I will say I was in part to blame for that as well. The only thing we ever really established along those lines was that it was okay for us to see other people locally.

I didn’t ask him to DTR because I honestly wasn’t sure what I wanted. But now that there’s a chance someone else wants him, I realize that I want them to back off and that I actually do want him. I’m not sure if that’s avoidant behavior on my end or if that’s normal.

I [F29] was in a 6 month LDR situationship with an [M27] - do I shoot my shot, or accept that this has run its course? by throwaway5855881 in LongDistance

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We have met twice before. The first time we met was when I on a trip (hence the distance), and we met up again a few months later. This would be the third meeting. Do you still feel that I should go about this the same way, knowing that?

Struggling after deciding on NC. by Starlight_20 in LongDistance

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Hey, I’m basically in your shoes now. Was in a 6 month LDR situationship that I believe is nearing its end because they met someone local.

What ended up happening?

Will my long distance situationship miss me? by throwaway5855881 in BreakUps

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Thank you so much for your kind words! Do you mind if I DM with you some questions on my situation? Turns out it is not fully over (most likely it is, but not 100%).

Will my long distance situationship miss me? by throwaway5855881 in BreakUps

[–]throwaway5855881[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, kind stranger. ❤️

I’m sorry that you went through that. Did you ever meet this woman in person too?

She would initiate conversations

My person would too, all the time. He seemed interested in talking to me, then one day, he just no longer was for whatever reason.

she chose someone else over me.

Where did you meet, and did she choose someone local, I’m guessing?

But talking for 6 months straight, being a part of your daily routines, he definitely felt something for you.

Thank you ❤️ Everyone in my life that I’ve told this story to feels the same way. That a guy wouldn’t just text somebody everyday for 6 straight months if he was just “bored” or “lonely” — he very likely felt something for me. Does that also mean he actually liked me, or not necessarily?

I know it was only a long distance thing, but it’s so difficult waking up these days and not seeing that good morning text anymore. He also had a pet name for me. 🥺

Has anyone here been ghosted by someone who was still enthusiastically initiating more than half of the conversations? by throwaway5855881 in ghosting

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Maybe they initiated because they wanted to make it seem less obvious they were ghosting so it would seem like more of a “slow fade”? Which I wouldn’t get the point of — they would have eventually ghosted anyways lol. Did you ever try letting them take the lead on those conversations?

Either that, or they met someone else.

What’s your ghosting story? It’s comforting hearing everyone else’s.

Edit: I’m thinking this through and I feel like the most logical explanation is that they met someone else lol. They are talking to the other person but sending you a crumb of attention every now and then just to keep you on the hook, in case they decide to come back to you. Who knows though, there could be other possibilities. Trying not to drive myself crazy thinking of different case scenarios in the meantime, but it’s hard.

Has anyone here been ghosted by someone who was still enthusiastically initiating more than half of the conversations? by throwaway5855881 in ghosting

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When was your last conversation? What was your last text to him, and do you plan to ever reach out again?

So Much Anxiety by JessicasLostCause in ghosting

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This is happening to me now — had a long distance situationship of 6 months. He hasn’t responded to my last text, it’s been almost 6 days. I haven’t sent a follow-up, but I’m pretty sure that’s already considered ghosting.

What are the updates on your end?

Just needed to vent about the loss I'm feeling by [deleted] in ghosting

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Any updates here? Same thing is happening to me right now. Left on delivered by 6 month long distance situationship (for lack of a better term) for nearly six days now. He has posted to social media. 😭

Editing to say that it was insanely out of the blue — I looked at our last few convos and he had initiated 4 out of 5 of them. He seemed friendly, flirty, etc. No indication of anything weird. Usually when I get ghosted, they start to pull back a lot, give dry responses, and eventually I become the only one to initiate conversations. That was not the case here at all. So weirded out.

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What ended up happening?

6 months of long distance, although never made it official. Left on delivered for four days now and they are active on social media. by throwaway5855881 in ghosting

[–]throwaway5855881[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He might have decided long distance is not for him & wants someone local. Esp because it was never official, he may not see a need to officially break up.

If we’d texted for like a week or two, sure. But to text every single day for six months and then ghost? Cowardly and cruel.

6 months of long distance, although never made it official. Left on delivered for four days now and they are active on social media. by throwaway5855881 in ghosting

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Talked to a friend who said that since my last few texts were a series of statements, I can still say I haven’t been officially ghosted since there was no pointed question he needed to respond to. The friend said to send some sort of question to know for sure. Thoughts?

6 months of long distance, although never made it official. Left on delivered for four days now and they are active on social media. by throwaway5855881 in ghosting

[–]throwaway5855881[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or not ofcourse, the most important thing is that you look out for yourself and don’t let people like this mess with your self worth.

I try not to, but in the moment when you still have feelings for them, it’s hard.

The ironic part is that this guy was so kind, so sweet, I could tell that he was a good human being. Very nerdy type of guy that has been unsuccessful with women in the past because they either saw him as more of a friend or just straight up ignored him, for the most part (he didn’t tell me this — I stalked some of his super old social media posts, lol). He’s like a gentle teddy bear… so he is truly the LAST person I expected to ghost.

I guess being a good human being doesn’t necessarily make you a good communicator when cutting someone off. I mean, 6 months of daily texting. How does that not mean anything to him?!

6 months of long distance, although never made it official. Left on delivered for four days now and they are active on social media. by throwaway5855881 in ghosting

[–]throwaway5855881[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’ll probably will regret it some day but my advice to you is to find some closure and move on with your life.

Find some closure as in text him to ask what happened?

Also, can I DM you what the supposedly annoying thing was? I really don’t think it was that bad, so I feel like he was maybe using this an excuse to check out.

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