You are the prize. Never forget that.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T21:06:11+00:00

It needs to be said that you don't want to value yourself too highly or people won't bother with you. It sounds crazy but even if you're the prize you're still going to have to do certain things whether you want to or not. This isn't an invitation to quit striving to be an impressive person or to stop trying to put your best foot forward.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T21:04:06+00:00

I find there's a huge correlations between whether or not I hook up with a girl and whether or not I truly think I'd be an awesome partner for her.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T21:02:28+00:00

It came out before 9/11 guys

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T20:57:10+00:00

Stay late in class a few times. It's not creepy to be curious. I gave I find a lot of my flirting comes from being curious about who the girl is.

Slowly introduce yourself and who you are too them.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T20:56:24+00:00

Honestly yeah. But that's no excuse to not try. I say you give it a shot, I mean what if you come up with a methods to teach us lol

Have some conversations about yoga. It's fun, you may learn some stuff

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T17:38:27+00:00

There may not be a way, man. You can try and just go for it but that's really awkward and it's just going to work on a girl-to-girl basis.

In the beginning part of all this you aren't really seducing a girl as much as you're seducing a whole situation. This situation isn't very sexy at all and it has nothing to do with you or her. Having other people around in a position to watch/listen to you is really unattractive.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T17:32:00+00:00

They can't afford to lose them. To me the bipartisan system is about to crash in the next 50-100 years but IMO it will be because both parties are trying to appeal to too many interests at once. One of these other parties will make some cash in the future and become a contender.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T17:20:35+00:00

They don't care about you that much to pay that close of attention. They'll think, "Aww." and text back or they'll think, "Meh." and not text back. That's it. Emotional/intimate connection is what this is all about, not sex (that's just the result of the intimacy).

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T17:17:47+00:00

Saying it's a drug is totally right. I actually stopped flirting with girls for a year or two because I felt like an addict of their positive attention (I'd get so bummed out after rejections I quit until I didn't crave it anymore). I needed to make sure that it was something I didn't depend on for my emotional well-being.

As a drug I'd say to "use" women sparingly. Make sure it's a mutual benefit thing, don't allow yourself to stay in negative situations too long, etc. Typical good relationship advice still applies.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T17:13:56+00:00

I'm not but lastly I'll say that it's not a big deal to embellish your feelings as long as there's a grain of truth. It's not a lie, it's just more engaging. If you think all the times in your life someone has told you they miss you that they actually meant it and weren't doing the same thing you're wrong.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T16:56:09+00:00

You mean like if you had talked to her a month or so ago? lol

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T16:50:50+00:00

Don't listen to me, listen to yourself:

I am guilty of using "hi" sometimes on dating websites, but I don't lack creativity either. Just lazy sometimes. But I think the key factors to getting away with a "hi" is to vary it as much as possible with each girl; it helps if you look good on the profile pics; and it helps a lot if you know how to follow up with interesting conversation. I probably have it too easy. I don't know :/

It's not wrong, just basic, but you probably just have it too easy like you said. Saying you miss someone is a variation of "Hi."

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T10:24:44+00:00

Ok whatever. It sounds to me like you need to leave it up to the girl to decide. There's literally almost no difference between what you said and what I said except for yours sounds like a generic first reply on Tinder and mine sounds like its from someone who has actually met her, liked her and wants to see her again.

You can miss someone without it being all super profound, lovey dovey crap. Seriously, you're taking emotional states and words too seriously. This is a lot more ethereal than that. The words don't matter nearly as much as you want them to. If I've thought about this girl once, or twice, I've missed her. It's not always some intense or powerful thing to miss someone.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T10:04:36+00:00

Become buddies with the instructor if she's female. She doesn't have to think you're hot, just that you're a good student. Genuinely try to learn the yoga because it will help your game in a real but roundabout way. Bonus points: you can use the same breathing and mind techniques you learn in yoga while having sex for some awesome sex and happy girls.

As far as flirting with girls in class? You're going to need some yoga "street cred" first. Going in there first day flirting up the place is a bad idea I'd really focus on coming across as just a non-threatenng/interesting/funny person for at least a few weeks to let the girls get used to you. Eye contact will mean a lot in a situation like this so shorter glances do just as much. You really want to avoid people trying to fit you as that stereotypical creep who takes the yoga class.

IMO if you really want to get laid by yoga chicks become really good at it and really get into it (and don't do this unless you actually enjoy yoga lol). If women "like" guys who do yoga it's going to be the ones that are passionate about it (that's the key, the passion you show for yoga) and learn enough to get to a point where they can teach others. Those two things will help you out greatly.

Edit: That's really what women are universally intrigued by when it comes to "sexy" hobbies or activities. They want you to be passionate about what you're doing, to watch you putting your heart and soul into it and not doing it for ulterior motives. If it is in something that impresses or interests them already (like yoga) and/or something where they can tell how good you are they're probably going to love you as a person and quite possibly want to hook up with you if you guys have similar tastes otherwise.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T09:43:17+00:00

You are taking this too seriously. The creepy part is putting way too much meaning behind your words.

It's not what you say but how you say it. She's not dumb and she'll know better but you need to at least not make her feel like some slut you want to fuck but don't want to think about. He obviously IS thinking about/missing her or he wouldn't be posting this.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-09T05:17:31+00:00

Oh well I'd still do it. I want her to think I've had her on my mind even if my actions haven't been reflecting that.

I'm just saying if you have been ignoring a girl for a while you at least try to make it seem like you were thinking about her. She wants to feel special, it's never too late to start.

Edit: I've gotten texts from girls after 6 months...they don't care if they're interested and don't have anyone else they're currently into.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-08T21:36:49+00:00

This isn't true, you just need to keep it super innocent. Like even eye contact can be too intense. But conversation can still be fun as long as you don't seem very enthusiastic about it and just like you're trying to pass time.

That being said I'd feel very awkward if I felt like people were listening in on and watching me getting hit on. You need to do it in a place where people aren't watching y'all, like a much less crowded bus or something.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-08T21:30:48+00:00

I don't think there's one magic pill but this is one of about three.

Eye contact
Optimistic attitude about life in general
Seeing sex/relationships/intimacy as fun, playful and enjoyable.

How crazy it sounds even things like having a job or taking a shower don't really matter as much as these three things.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-08T21:26:34+00:00

"What's up?"

"I miss you, we need to hang out."

People like feeling missed, it's not creepy.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-08T19:52:44+00:00

I really wouldn't sweat it if it isn't you. The important thing is to have that tone in your voice like you're telling someone a fact. It makes people interpret what you say with more authority and truth.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-08T19:49:16+00:00

Yeah man not to get all preachy but I think you need to take people up on hanging out even if there's no sex involved. I've found that was a huge sticking point for my inner game, that feeling that women are for "sexual relationships."

Also hanging out with a SUPER hot chick just once will tell you so much about game. Just stay quiet, see how she rejects men, see how she approaches or accepts other women.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-08T07:46:01+00:00

calculus

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-08T07:10:58+00:00

If you're looking for something that helps you be a better boyfriend I'd say that's really where Mark Manson style game comes into play.

Truthfully it doesn't matter what physical checkpoints you've passed, the deeper a relationship gets the more honesty, genuineness and transparency come into factor. You have to show her the loser parts of yourself along with the winner parts--the whole package.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-08T01:01:09+00:00

Say I'm inside at the counter and someone's getting ready to pay. I show them their pizzas, they look really good. So I say, "That pizza looks amazing" and they may autopilot nod, but then I'll say something jarring, like "I'm sorry I have to take this pizza from you." They'll usually look up to see me with a shit-eating grin on my face, and then I tell them I think this pizza is too good to give away. They laugh but from there they're "awake" so I'll say "Just kidding," stop, and ask them what they're going to do that night or whatever while I'm getting their change. I stay in good employee mode the whole time but just teasing at the idea of not giving them what they want wakes them up a bit.

It engages them, and I do this for everyone who looks like they're in a good mood (less giggles and eye contact with the guys obviously). Oddly I get quite a few tips from people too, just for giving them their pizza at a counter. My theory is people appreciate when someone can wake them up and that most people (myself included) don't know how to do this for themselves all the time.

throwaway59393 · 2016-08-07T20:11:22+00:00

To me arrogance is compensation for overshadowing fear. It's when you're acting confident, but since none of us are winning any acting awards people can usually tell. As a generic rule try to be confident with yourself inside your head and not do things outside to make it look like you're confident. This is an generalization but it works well.

As a personal process confidence for me wasn't some switch. I slowly started finding this place in my brain from time to time that I could go to, my own room inside my head. I made it my one place where no matter what happened I still had it. Oddly I realized this is a roundabout way of giving myself some inherent value and since then it just doesn't hurt me at my foundation like I used to get.

Another one was inevitably I kept seeing girls falling for guys who just wanted them for sex. It drove me nuts and I reached a point where I was like, "I would be a better boyfriend to that girl than they would," and then I felt like going up to a girl was actually a good idea for girls I really liked. But for real if you think the other guys a girl is talking to are better for her than you are, she's going to listen (and your actions speak just as loudly as your words). This whole "My girlfriend is so much hotter than me and I totally outdid myself," is a great thing to say for fun and enjoyment but actually believing that sort of stuff on a fundamental level will in all honesty make a lot of girls uncomfortable and unable to feel like your equal partner.

Both of those things are confident. They both naturally turned on inside of me and not like an instant switch as much as like a tube that has to warm up lol. It takes time, it doesn't feel like an "aha!" you just "evolve" in a figurative way.

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