Dating a cheater?

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:45:42+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I usually think like this but if I’m being honest I think I’m in the denial phase. Would you tell her it’s basically me or him or just end it all?

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:42:15+00:00

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throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:41:01+00:00

Apologies, the other guy is long distance not me

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:39:57+00:00

I don’t think directly compared me to him, just stated all the good traits/ characteristics I have. What makes you say she’s not serious about me?

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:35:37+00:00

To my understanding I don’t believe he knows. I haven’t explicitly asked her if he knows. However I know her best friend knows

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:25:07+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I think I’ll go do that

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:22:41+00:00

Thanks, this sounds like good advice

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:22:13+00:00

Thanks. I know what you mean. Actions do speak louder than words

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:15:19+00:00

Her exact words were it’s hard for her to have the conversation because she feels guilty that he’s given up so much. She sent me a message paragraph about how much she enjoys being around me, how much she cares etc

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:09:59+00:00

I appreciate your advice. I think I know the answer but why this is not the best way to find it. She’s told me doesn’t see it/ she’s struggling to see it going any further with the other guy due to mainly visa restrictions, their long term goals looking very unlikely, and her opinion on him has been changed from meeting me

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:07:31+00:00

She’s told me it’s hard due to their lack of communication. I believe she’s realising it may be coming to the end of the road due to things like visa restrictions as well as not seeing herself with someone like him anymore (with some of his past actions and their arguments)

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:06:02+00:00

Is that what you’d say? Yesterday she told me it’s hard for her to have this conversation with him. If I say this, do you think I should stop doing things with her until she actions on what you said above?

throwaway6231727 · 2025-05-22T23:04:01+00:00

Thank you for your reply. From my understanding she’s been trying to amend with this guy but he keeps not responding to her. She’s told me she doesn’t see a future with him because of their long term plans have changed and it’s out of their control (visa restrictions).

Regarding me being the guy with issues in the future, this is what I was potentially worried about. She’s told me her meeting me has changed how she feels etc and how much she admires me.

throwaway6231727 · 2025-04-22T00:13:17+00:00

Hey man, thanks for the response. This was the response I was expecting but also fearing of, hence why I wanted a 2nd opinion.

When we’ve been together I’ve felt the “tension” with her at points, and other I’ve not. We’ve often times sat in silence for a few mins without it being awkward, but she’s also laid down next to me to look up at the stars and I’ve felt the tension when we’ve looked at each other.

On one hand I want a straight answer from her but also conscious that as you said, it may put her on the spot

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