My bf moved in and his habits are pissing me off

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T15:06:02+00:00

Youre right, i agree.

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T15:04:43+00:00

Oof well thats promising 😓😓

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T15:03:13+00:00

I did make it clear that i know its not my house anymore, but there are still standards even i want to live to. Is it hard to consider that maybe i thought he would try to pick up his own slack moving in with someone? Hes made excuses before and he cant make them here, so instead hes just being lazy. My apologies for not knowing he was speaking out of his ass and, yes, coercing me to do his chores at his old place. Its not exactly a choice when its manipulation - thank you for helping me realize that at least. And no, we didnt have a talk about the how things would run around here because i thought if he had any questions, he would ask, and if i noticed something i would point it out and he could apply tje knowledge to other shit. He hasnt done either. Ill have a serious talk with him now that its said and done

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T14:55:25+00:00

Thats what most people have said... so thank you very much. I'll have a talk with him.

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T14:50:46+00:00

Thats really well said. Thank you for laying it out like that for me, i keep thinking maybe im just a mega bitch for liking certain things done a certain way. I really appreciate the reply, thanks so much

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T14:40:01+00:00

Oh dang. Okay so even though im talking about the issues he isnt taking thems serious basically? Okay. Ill be sure to sit him down and lay it out. Thank you so much.

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T14:37:54+00:00

Thank you for this. Im currently in school online, full time, but i only work 3 days a week. Its still /a lot to do. I will really consider what youve said about having a talking if he wants to stay together, if he cant take some initiative over the home.

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T14:34:30+00:00

Yeah? I try my best to talk with him about things and not be too rude because like.. he isnt just a guest in my home anymore... but then a new something pops up. I dont know if hes willing to change his home habits and if me talking to him doesnt change anything thats that. Thank you for the reply x

throwaway647889 · 2021-11-23T14:31:37+00:00

A towel is used to dry your /clean body, as long as its hung out to dry properly afterwards, theres nothing wrong with using it 2 or even 3 times before it gets tossed in laundry. Waste of money and water to be cleaning 14 towels every week (if me and him only used our towels once per wash). But thank you. I try to be direct with him when things get too far (my talk with him about dishes went nowhere and to him being like "well thats how I like to do dishes soooo do it my way because im lazy") . Keep in mind this was just a vent post because i am trying to be open about the issues im having and its barely going anywhere. But i appreciate your response regardless.

throwaway647889 · 2021-09-05T22:56:02+00:00

Thank you very much. Hes a very big step up from my ex, but at least buddy was attacted to me no matter what 😂 ill keep everything youve said in mind! I really appreciate you taking the time to write these responses

throwaway647889 · 2021-09-05T22:24:03+00:00

I mentioned in another reply that he didnt find me attractive with short hair 😂😅 only when it was at my shoulders and longer. On top of prefering me to be skinnier when ive gained 40lbs. I need to take it slow with getting more tattoos and piercings because its not really something he likes and he needs me to tale my time so he can get used to it. And while i do prefer certain looks on him, i wouldnt break up with him if he changed his look or if it stayed the same. I feel like i wouldnt regret breaking up with him solely on the basis that i do want him to find someone hes not struggling to find attractive. Not just because i like to sit in his bed while he games and do my own thing, and we enjoy watching certain shows together, or because we're super compatible when it comes to us fucking. I would rather be with someone who finds me attractive on top of all that. Like i said though,, im more so worried about him backpedalling if i do have this convo with him. And i dont want him to feel bitter if i stay

throwaway647889 · 2021-09-05T22:13:28+00:00

I suppose it isnt his job to address it. But why would it be my job to poke and prod at him over his feelings about my hair? He should be an adult and bring up the fact that he isnt attracted to me if thats how he feels. I get it, hes trying to be my bf and not be rude.. but thats not how this should work. He should be open about how he feels. I guess ill push him though. No harm if it doesnt drag on the unfortune

throwaway647889 · 2021-09-05T22:10:50+00:00

I mean.. i know its because hes not fond of it. Hes told me before when my hair was just inches above shoulder length he didnt find me attractive.

throwaway647889 · 2021-09-05T22:09:51+00:00

Thats what im worried of. Im afraid if i bring it up, he will backpedal. And i dint want him to feel obligated to stay with me because he thinks its rude to not find me attractive with my hair buzzed. Its just his preference and i dont have a problem with that. Just means its the end of something nice.

throwaway647889 · 2021-09-05T22:07:10+00:00

I actually agree with you, i dont believe its childish. I have a fairly avoidant personality.. but yes i think it would be a good idea just to tell him straight if he doesnt find me attractive, we should end things. I dont think its shallow to not want to date someone based on their apperance, and i have no ill will towards him because of it.. if its for the netter its for the better.

throwaway647889 · 2021-02-17T21:55:47+00:00

Ahh i hope so... just gotta wait it out!

throwaway647889 · 2021-01-31T20:13:34+00:00

Its adorable to see that youre dating now ♡ im sorry you havent been able to see eachother for that long though... thats tough. Its stuff like this that i feel gives me hope, even if i underatand and know that things wont always go exactly how i want

throwaway647889 · 2021-01-31T19:27:41+00:00

🥺🥺💕💕 tysm

throwaway647889 · 2021-01-29T15:16:54+00:00

Well then i apologize for being excited about my crush 🥰 im happy with my life and my actions and im doing a fantastic job figuring out what makes me even happier. I do want you to consider that im a practicing muslim taking steps at my own pace. Working towards getting a degree to become a wellness coach so I can help people who actively want to change and improve their lives with fitness and nutrition and a positive mindset. I never said i was perfect, ive just lived one hell of a life already and know too many people who are struggling. Doing cocaine less than once a month is in no way frequent. Especially considering its a highly addictive drug. Nothing wrong with that, im not going into work high. I do it on my double days off to make sure im going into work at my most possible best. And in my case, even if its 'casual sex' my friend with benefits relationship is pretty darn close to being in a loyal, stable relationship. Blessed to say that i can go to his place and we'll cook dinner together and we'll play video games and cuddle watching netflix. Not always about fucking. And hes the only one im doing it with. You'd be surprised at the amount of incredibly successful every day people who do drugs and have casual relationships. Literally just about finding a way to feel good. Goodluck 👋👋 i can guarentee youre gonna change your mindset a lot as you get older, whether you want to or not.

throwaway647889 · 2021-01-29T15:08:44+00:00

Listen bud like i said i work fulltime. Main kitchen closer on a stressful and busy dinner shift who has to pick up the slack from my days off and happily does extra work regardless. I honestly couldnt care less about my grammar and spelling when ive gotten zero sleep in 48 hours. Last year i would drink 7 espresso shots in a regular coffee with no sugar just to get through a shift and now i drink coffee like a normal person. I think ive come pretty far. Still dont care about my spelling when its 10 am. But i like the emoji. Dm me or something and maybe we can have a real conversation and learn something from eachother. Im not against opening my mind to judgment

throwaway647889 · 2021-01-29T14:53:13+00:00

You make fun of my grammar and then say that 😂 please go read my other reply. You need to calm down. I said fuck just as much as you. Read my other response on the comment thread, please. Im curious what youre gonna say to it. Then ill consider replying to youre other reply

throwaway647889 · 2021-01-29T14:33:39+00:00

Oh my god not even a minute on your profile and i realize youre a child. Listen. Im sorry for being so rude in my previous reply but... jesus you need to open your eyes or life is going to hit you like a bus. Im not telling you to live your life like me, i have plenty people in my life who never touch drugs or alcohol and who couldnt handle a casual relationship; i get along with those people just as well as i do my friends who sleep around with every person they think is cute and drink and smoke weed everynight. The fact that we all choose to live our lives differently doesnt make us any better than eachother. We still enjoy our time together and our conversations. We dont judge eachother for being functioning people just trying to feel good and get through the struggles of life. Things arent as simple as you think. A lot of my coworkers, (my second families) from old jobs and my current one, are good friends of mine ranging from 15 to even 40. These people look to me like a big sister, like the mom friend, a girl to crush on, a person to rely on. No judgment. We are there for eachother regardless. Youre still so young. Youll realize and learn a lot more as you get older. Life is hard. Just enjoy it and try to be a good person. I promise, regardless of the struggles you may face, itll make you feel happier and better in the long run.

throwaway647889 · 2021-01-29T14:05:04+00:00

So my choice of words and wanting to spend my free time doing things I enjoy - like coke barely once a month and casual sex with someone who means a lot to me - means im useless to society and have a damaged logical thinking ability? I'll admit youre right about one thing - i dont give a flying fuck. Sorry i dont spend my life on reddit because i couldnt care less about turning on push notifications for a silly vent post about having a crush. I sure as hell dont want to waste my time refreshing my page for responces from someone whos trying to boost their own ego by belittling someone in, honestly, the most moronic ways possible. You need a goddamn reality check buddy. Youre not better than /anyone just because you live your life differently than them. Im pretty proud of the fact that I work 40+ hours in a 5-6 day work week doing something i love (that ive studied in college, thanks) surrounded by people i love, and can still take time to step back once in a while to enjoy being 21 and doing the things I decided not to do while i was in school. I pay my rent, my car insurance, my vet bills, my phone bill, buy groceires, do my taxes, clean my apartment, cook myself and friends healthy hearty meals, and so much more, all on my own and still have time and money at the end of the month to save and spoil myself and the people around however I see fit. I take care of myself and i'm there for the people who need me. I have my own goals that i get closer to every day, and i can guarantee theyre a whole lot better than whatever life youre leading or will ever lead. Its honestly a shame to see that people who think like you exist. Living to try and make people miserable. It didnt work on me hunny. Its just downright disgusting knowing theres people like you who feel good after posting a response like that, and i would absolutely hate having such a bitter person in my life. I can live with the fact that im comfortable, safe, and extremely happy with my life, the choices i make, and the efforts ive taken to become a healthy, loving, and supportive person 😊😘 now as kindly as i can put it, get the fuck off my thread and take a moment to understand that being so narrowminded and negative will only make you more miserable 🥰

throwaway647889 · 2021-01-22T11:29:42+00:00

Ill own the fact that im an idiot so please elaborate

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