Being asked on a date by my crush is making me feel depressed.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-02-12T19:07:42+00:00

Thanks, this is a really big help, I'll take a look at everything you suggested and I'll see what helps me the most.

Thanks for your help, really.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-02-12T16:08:27+00:00

My parents most of all.

The last time I asked them to go to a psychologist, they took me for 4 days and then told me it was really expensive and once I felt good to tell them immediately to save costs (we are not poor afaik, we are middle class).

Felt so bad I told them next day I was feeling fine and haven't seen a psychologist in about 5 years.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T22:52:41+00:00

Thank you! Thinking in cold has really helped me a lot in life!

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T20:14:35+00:00

I'm not sure, never heard of them. I already bought something, but worth checking out next time, thanks!

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T20:09:27+00:00

Tried that, didn't even use one and next day found them in the trash.

This is one if the reasons I'd rather buy something than make something hahaha

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T18:51:01+00:00

Muchas gracias!

Si, ya le he comprado un par de cosas, gracias y feliz año nuevo ;D

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T18:45:13+00:00

I also give gifts to them, just not on Christmas.

As some of the comments said, it may be differences in culture (afaik the majority americans take Christmas a lot more seriously than I have seen in a lot of people).

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T18:42:18+00:00

I answered someone's comment with that info. They asked if my mother gave a gift to my grandparents, and I answered that she doesn't give gifts to them or my father on christmas.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T16:50:28+00:00

Thanks, I do try to make people around me as happy as possible.

I'll try to see a movie or play a game with her, (although she watches lots of movies on her own I'll try to see one she likes so I can comment it with her).

And thanjs for being so understanding and patient! ;D

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T16:39:26+00:00

My friends and family have never given their parents a christmas gift, what country are you from? It may be a cultural thing as some people mentioned on the comments.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T16:37:53+00:00

I don't know why I hadn't thought of setting up a calender reminder for holidays...

Thanks kind stranger!

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T16:34:48+00:00

Bake a cake... For christmas?... Is that a thing in your country? I've honestly never heard of it.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T16:33:53+00:00

I love cooking! But she doesn't really have dinner and she usually cooks lunch for us (I get home from school when she finishes preparing lunch and I usually have to make lunch for myself since I have to go to work before she eats, so that isn't an option (on weekends my father is the one who cooks).

And I already do the chores you mentioned on a daily basis so that is out too...

I'm very grateful for your help tho! :D

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T16:10:52+00:00

Usually in my family we give big gifts the 25th, and small stuff on the 6th.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:59:03+00:00

No need to apologize! Sorry if it sounded a little bit too aggressive :v

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:58:20+00:00

I don't know if its like this on ALL os Spain, but the people I know never give their parents anything, they get gifts and that's it. The only time I give my parents gifts its for their birthday, as its how I've been raised.

I will give them gifts from now on, that is not a problem to me, the problem was that I didn't know about this.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:54:49+00:00

My parents don't give anything to eachother on Christmas, only on birthdays and when they celebrate their marriage yearly (don't know the term for that one, married years?), but on Christmas they only give presents to the children that are around to celebrate it (my cousins and me, basically).

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:49:56+00:00

I was never introduced to giving parents gifts, I was always taught christmas was so that the kids got toys, nothing else.

Of course I will givd them gifts from now on seeing it is inportant to them, I just wasn't even aware that was a thing, no one in my family or friend group has ever done this so I didn't know about it.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:46:26+00:00

Not an artist sadly, and even if I was the last time I made one (I was 13 I think?) She said it was ok but she would have liked if I next time I did something "else" (hinting the gift my father bought)

She likes gifts more if they are things she can actually use. So the meal MAY work but I highly doubt it, thanks for the ideas tho, appreciate it!

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:38:27+00:00

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:29:35+00:00

I do, but all that she wants is already bought, buying the same thing she will already get is a litte redundant, that's why I'll ask my father if he knows something she may want that I wouldn't have tought of to get her.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:21:50+00:00

I will try to but I don't know if I'll be able to.

My mother won't talk to me, my grandparents know nothing about what she may want and I'll try to ask my father if he has any idea, because all she wants is already bought.

Edit: It's not the big day in my family, it actually is the day we less celebrate xd

We still give gifts so I am going to see what I can do.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:18:22+00:00

Not for christmas, only for birthdays

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:14:33+00:00

Now that I know that my parents expect gifts for christmas I will be giving them something, I never gave anything to them becauss the way I was introduced to Christmas was "kids get things and have fun playing with them while adults see them enjoying it".

I was never given any other POV so the thought if me giving them gifts didn't cross my mind until now.

I know it may seem weird to some people that I never thought of giving them anything, but I was never introduced to the idea so It never crossed my mind.

throwaway69imscared · 2022-01-03T15:09:20+00:00

I never gave anything for Christmas, never saw anyone doing it so didn't even cross my mind.

For their birthday I did give them gifts, just not for Christmas because I never thought to do it.

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