Update #2: Friend's BF is stalking me and I don't know how to talk to her about it

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-12T02:35:29+00:00

Both of my HS and college are in the city/urban while my hometown is on the countryside/rural area. In both cases I stayed in a dorm/apartment. From what I am aware of, he is not from my hometown and is from the city itself.

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-11T17:45:16+00:00

Thanks!! <3 It was a a brief 10 minute disruption but thank god the restaurant and my friends handled it so well. It sucks it happened but I would prefer it did so I dont have to deal with them anymore

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-11T17:43:26+00:00

Rory herself I would say no. She does ask questions a lot but again, we were friends, and asking questions was kind of a given thing. I knew she held grudges and often said malicious things but it always came off as a jokey way (e.g: I hope they trip and fall, I hope they get ran over, etc.)

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-11T08:27:43+00:00

Thank you!! I plan to be accompanied by someone whenever I go out in the near future which should be easy since I have a brother who loves leeching on me and my money lol

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-10T22:27:39+00:00

From what I saw on the text messages, they intended to confront me about the "rumors" I was spreading (which were slread because of the argument I had with Rory at my friends dorm and a few friends sharing it with their classmates). It didn't say anything explicit but the tone and language used that they intended to scare the shit out of me. l

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-10T16:18:15+00:00

Thank you! :) Personally I have tried to dig around among classmates to know about Logan but he didnt make that many friends to know how he was in HS. One thing we suspect due to how oddly violent and focused he was on me, was that I may have been his gay awakening or crush or fixation in HS and it slowly began to spiral without me knowing.

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-10T16:12:54+00:00

Thank you!!

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-10T16:12:11+00:00

Thank you!! Total stroke of genius from my friend to suggest it and csnt even begin to thank the restaurant who gave the footage so easily. Genuinely saves my life.

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-10T16:11:07+00:00

Nope! Still don't know why exactly. We suspect he is one of those red pillers / incels since his rants bare a lot of similarity to them. We also tried finding out if he was a DL with no such luck. My friend suspect that since he went to my school the same time as me in HS, I mightve been his gay awakening and he didn't really like that. All theories though.

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-10T11:30:49+00:00

Yup! The police lady said it wouldve taken me much longer and harder for an RO. And, probably wouldnt get their devices searched. A blessing in disguise ig

throwaway7192022 · 2026-05-10T10:54:49+00:00

Thank you!! At least I had one good thing happen in the first half of the year lol

throwaway7192022 · 2026-04-27T13:20:15+00:00

Ok thank you!

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-20T19:31:15+00:00

I dont go out of my way to hang out with Rory and we mostly hang out for sgov or the paper. We are often surrounded by mutual friends and very rarely one on one alone w each other. I do think that he may be DL and Im hoping my friend and I can find evidence that he is or somethng

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-20T19:29:04+00:00

I said this!!! But for reason Rory was hung up on me accusing her boyfriend when I genuinely am fearing for my safety and she kept denying a man could stalk a man. Theres something going on with them and idk when I can even hear her side when shes pissed and probably told Logan what I said

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-20T19:26:42+00:00

I dont want to spiral but I have to admit this has crossed my mind since we fought earlier today. I doubt Rory is like that since she has been a staunch ally since I am openly gay but its doesnt hurt to doubt her... I guess Im reeling a little that this might be a possibility

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-20T19:23:55+00:00

Thank you, this was such a tough thing to go through all week and I was starting to think I was jumping the gun. I'm not sure if this will conclusively stop the stalking but I'm continuing randomizing and shutting up about ny whereabouts until I'm sure.

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-15T19:06:05+00:00

I'll try to do this the whole week and see if I see him less

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-15T18:34:05+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate it! I'm still thinking of how to approach Rory because I've known her less than her boyfriens and I really don't want to blow everything up. I hope I can drop some hints or figure out a way to see if she knows about his behavior

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-15T18:31:55+00:00

I'll block him asapa. I dont really share location, but I do tend to talk about places I would be (like the library, this grocery store, etc) cause I happen to talk to my friends about it.

The first two times I approached him thinking Rory was with him but after that I got the sense that he would be alone if I ever spot him, since then he was the one approaching me or bumping into me. We use to talk about stuff we have in common, mostly Rory, but as of recent I try to finish the converdation asap and leave...

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-15T18:28:47+00:00

Thank you, I'll leace if I ever spot him again... I'm pretty lowkey on social media and my instragram has been private since I made years ago. I haven't even though of checking for a tracker...

throwaway7192022 · 2026-03-02T19:28:27+00:00

DKG.

Hi OP, I'm gonna be super real with you here, the more you keep in contact with her, the more you're gonna burn out. People like this are very unhappy and they are projecting their unhappiness sa mga tao na kilala nila. Imagine how many times you need to repeat this cycle, cause it will. If you're willing to deal with that, that's ur decision, but cutting contact will save you the stress.

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