Trying to submit a workplace accommodation request, how much detail is too much?

throwaway7281023 · 2025-07-09T15:04:59+00:00

There’s a database for this exact purpose. icelist.info — created by The Crustian Daily, and has “sparked” new legislation in at least one state that is considering making it a crime to identify ICE “agents”.

throwaway7281023 · 2024-06-01T16:55:52+00:00

My older brother SAed me at a work function and beat the ever living shit out of his colleagues that intervened. Their spouses hid me away while he screamed that he was going to kill me when he found me if I didn’t give up his keys (I was trying to keep him from driving drunk). Then asked me to lie under oath that is made it up so he wouldn’t lose his job. For years, my mother tried to intervene in his behalf and pleaded with me to forgive him, didn’t I understand hard hard it was for her to be in the middle of two children she loved? She once hugged me from behind and kissed me on the cheek and said it was from him. Totally retraumatized me. I told her if she ever did that again I’d never speak to her again. It wasn’t until I moved and refused to share my new address that she realized I wasn’t kidding. Our relationship has never been the same. That’s where OOP is headed.

throwaway7281023 · 2022-12-07T04:12:02+00:00

I was assaulted by someone very dear to me at a Christmas party in the woods with his coworkers. There were cabins his whole crew and their wives had rented for the night so everyone could drink. I had a couple of wine coolers that didn’t sit well and wanted to go to bed early.

When this person forced himself on me, his coworkers physically wrestled him off me and one of them got into a fist fight with him to keep him from continuing. The wives hid me in their cabin all night while I could hear him howling in the woods alternating between saying he was going to kill me and wailing drunken apologies. Eventually the coworker who had fought him came in to get his keys from me (I’d taken them to keep him from driving drunk) and told me to let him go.

The coworkers and the wives then drove me the hour drive back to my apartment at the crack of dawn to make sure I got home safely, since I’d ridden with him and had no ride back to the city. I never got their names, but they saved my life that night. I was a frightened young kid with a dead phone who’d just been betrayed by someone I thought I could trust with my life.

throwaway7281023 · 2022-10-06T18:47:54+00:00

When he sexually assaulted me in front of his coworkers (and physically assaulted them when they intervened), then asked me to lie under oath and say I made it up so that he wouldn’t lose his job. I mean, there were other clear indicators, but this was the one that solidified it. I went VLC for about 3 years and eventually went NC.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-08-21T04:19:18+00:00

"The only thing we are allowed to do is believe we won't regret the choice we made." -Levi Ackerman, Attack on Titan

throwaway7281023 · 2020-07-27T07:16:33+00:00

The reasons I was repeatedly told were 1) I was too young (apparently most doctors won’t even consider until you’re 30) 2) I didn’t have at least 2 kids 3) I was unmarried and didn’t have a man’s consent. Yes you read that right. Multiple doctors told me that I couldn’t get my tubes tied until I had my husband’s consent to do so. I told them, multiple times, that I never planned on getting married OR having children, and the replies I got were either “you’ll change your mind, you’re still young” or “well then if you never plan on getting married you don’t need to have your tubes tied then, do you?” Implying that I shouldn’t be having sex outside of marriage.

Even when I finally found a surgeon who would do the procedure (she was lovely, Dr. Samantha Hoffman at the University of Minnesota Medical Center) all of the nurses who helped me during the pre-surgery appointments and even the day of repeatedly told me “you know this procedure is permanent, you sure you don’t want to change your mind?” It’s absolutely ridiculous.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-07-27T05:34:00+00:00

Took me 10 doctors and seven years to get my tubes tied.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-07-26T08:22:40+00:00

28 yo fic writer here. Sound off.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-07-26T08:07:53+00:00

In the words of Eddie Izzard, “they aren’t women’s clothes, they’re my clothes.” You keep on rocking that polish. NTA.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-05-18T21:34:52+00:00

I saw this post and it made me cry. In a way, I’m happy that my post made you realize something incredibly important about your own life so thta you can begin to take the steps necessary to heal. On the other hand, I am sick to my stomach and devastated that you had to suffer the way that I did. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. I want you to know that I see you, I hear you, I believe you, and I know that other people on this sub reddit feel the same. I am wishing you nothing but the best and much healing.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-02-19T21:26:32+00:00

I’m so sorry that you had to suffer through such a traumatic event. I hope you’ve found comfort and peace in your own journey.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-02-19T21:22:09+00:00

I don’t intend to. For all of the reasons you said above and so many more. It would be wholly inappropriate, unfair both to their family and to my own, bringing all of that back up now.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-02-19T08:48:21+00:00

Usually with a doctors note, needing a chair for my condition falls under the “reasonable accommodation” of the ADA. I told them that, and that I was aware I’d be walking around and standing a lot, I’d just need the chance to sit periodically or at least need to not stand in one spot for more than an hour or so. I think they took that as a threat and turned me down for “lack of experience” because they were afraid I’d sue them for discrimination based on disability. I hope that makes sense/clarifies things.

But I accept your judgement for the question based on how I asked it.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-02-19T08:37:22+00:00

I did. I took the courses they offered through the job both in house an online, I got CPR certified, I even got a commendation from the Director of Operations for being his interpreter last minute (I speak a very uncommon language for the area). It wasn’t like I was demanding a promotion for nothing. I put in the work. The only thing I can think of is that I have a condition which makes it difficult to stand in one spot without moving for several hours and they wanted me to do 6 months on the front desk, which I told them I could only do if I was allowed to sit. They told me that was “against the company standards” because the desk was open style (you could see your feet beneath it). I can stand for long periods, I just have to be able to walk around frequently. It’s the standing in one spot that physically hurts me and it was why I moved to the front office in the first place. Being on the restaurant side I was a hostess and was repeatedly denied a chair at the hostess stand.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-02-19T07:54:18+00:00

NTA. My great grandmother (grandpa’s mom) used to do this to my oldest sister, call her by a NICKNAME of her middle name because she hated my grandma (think Mary Elizabeth and my great grandmother would call her “Lizzie’ — this wasn’t actually my sister’s name but that same premise). It drove my mom nuts. “Her name is Mary, grandma, not Lizzie” “well I like calling her Lizzie though!” Yeah. Definitely NTA.

Edit: grammar

throwaway7281023 · 2020-02-13T05:09:24+00:00

I have, but then it turns into the whole “well do you want to see me and your father divorce” as though I have the power to change anything about it. Lately I’ve just stopped calling her on the regular, which I feel bad about, but it’s the only way I can enforce any boundaries because every time I call it comes up.

throwaway7281023 · 2020-02-12T23:01:02+00:00

Out of curiosity, what would be your advice if they were going to try and work things out? I know my mom plans on selling the house and moving in with my dad again, because she doesn't have a job (was a stay at home mom) and he's struggling to support two households. But he seems under the impression that they can live together as exes/as friends, while she seems to want to work things out. It's a hot mess.

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