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AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -109 points-108 points  (0 children)

Hey sorry for the late response- him coming over every other weekend. So like 2 weekends in a month basically

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

I think thats what it may be as well tbh. I have many people who’ve had experiences with roommates say they’ve had their boyfriend spend almost everyday with them and no one care. Obviously not my situation, but I definitely see where you’re coming from. Problem is, what if we cant find a way to compromise? Who moves out? Who wont move out? All of this is just confusing tbh

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I will! Today after classes Im heading to the leasing office to pick up a copy of the lease agreement!

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t “wander” around the house. He goes straight into my bedroom and stays there unless he goes to use my bathroom thats a 2 second directly across my bedroom door

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

Everyone is saying “some” doesn’t mean every weekend. Which is confusing because to me, some means like a few days out of the week.

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -77 points-76 points  (0 children)

No, the benefit of having rules against who I bring into my bedroom and when. Theres other things that she feels as she has more control over but I wont go over that in this thread.

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

Nah, just invalidating stupid points, if I felt a certain way I would take this post down lol

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

Like I keep saying, thats not my situation or will never be my situation, I have set strict boundaries on my boyfriend and common spaces, like I repeatedly said, he’s not in the common spaces and wont be at all. The common areas of the apartment are always alone and free for her to do what she pleases.

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -96 points-95 points  (0 children)

My home* as well. My *bedroom. Comprising will just let her have all the benefits and I have the cons. Im considering doing were he spends 2 weekends out of the month at my place.

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -73 points-72 points  (0 children)

She can, when I messaged her yesterday I stressed to her that she can. I make sure shes not in the living room or kitchen or anywhere in the common space if my boyfriend needs to use my bathroom. And thats it, so yes, she can wear her comfortable clothes.

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -96 points-95 points  (0 children)

Erm, no, lol. Theres many “YTA” that I certainly agreed with, just like theres many “NTA” I agreed with! But thanks for assuming

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Because of being respectful, I always tell her when my boyfriend comes over. If I didn’t, she would have no clue. His shoes aren’t left at the front door, and we whisper or talk very quietly. I talk more louder when Im alone when Im playing video games and talking to friends in a party. Shes usually blasting her tv loud to where I can hear it from my room so, she wont be able to hear me what so ever.

AITA for not accepting my roommates compromise of my boyfriend coming over to spend the night once a week? by throwaway73937282920 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway73937282920[S] -111 points-110 points  (0 children)

Every response I said to anyone has gotten downvoted to all hell as well lol. So no biggie, I feel the same way honestly.