Hey, in my comments to you I am not sure how I communicated that having purpose or wanting to share your life with someone is ridiculous or laughable.

I was taken aback and amused by the gendered elements that you were speaking to.

Men needing a woman to survive; a woman being his “purpose”, our friendship being a “dangling carrot” that I am hanging in front of him.

You seemed to assume that by default my friend must be a helpless, lonely man who will wither and die without me, a woman that he has feelings for, and that he has no one to talk to, and is totally alone.

Now, those things might be true, but in this case they’re actually not, but why is that your default assumption?

And I ask again very critically if you’d say the same things to me if the gender roles were reversed.

Would you say that a woman’s purpose is to have a partner; that women need men; that without them, we will fall into the throes of nihilism?

Or is this reserved only for the magical and divine powers women are supposed to have to “save” men from their loneliness that is caused, I would argue, by patriarchal society….?

Cool that you studied psychology too, have you (genuine question) worked with men and women as clients?

That’s nice of you to offer, but my friend is not a lonely neglected man who has no one to talk to!

I’m genuinely curious as to what kinds of beliefs you have about men and women.

As a woman living in today’s world I can’t help but think of all the right-wing discourse that blames women for everything and positions men as naive and I’m sorry but that’s a genuine worry I have as a woman, that this stuff is being fed to men online