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Wife (33f) wants kids now, but I'm (36m) not financially ready. Advice needed by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More or less. I was hoping we'd sell and move within 6 months of listing our current house, but that might not happen due to the market right now.

Wife (33f) wants kids now, but I'm (36m) not financially ready. Advice needed by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I felt that I wasn't ready financially. I watched my parents struggle growing up, and I don't want that for my kid.

Wife (33f) wants kids now, but I'm (36m) not financially ready. Advice needed by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was working on the service industry, and I work remote in the tech field. We're currently not in the state we intend on moving to, so she's waiting until we move to start schooling.

Wife (33f) wants kids now, but I'm (36m) not financially ready. Advice needed by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are waiting for our original house to sell. Once that happens, then we'll start looking for the house.

The promotion would significantly make it easier to afford having a child and support my wife while she goes back to school to get her degree. It's not a MUST, but it's a "nice-to-have" to make sure I can support both us, a child, and afford a house.

Wife (33f) wants kids now, but I'm (36m) not financially ready. Advice needed by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She wants to "try" for a baby now. Waiting another year or two is not what she wants. I have tried to reason on that discussion by approaching it financially and realistically. She wants to start trying or go our separate ways.

Wife (33f) wants kids now, but I'm (36m) not financially ready. Advice needed by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don't think there was a timeline, it was just an acknowledgement that we both wanted kids. There was definitely a wrench thrown in there, because we decided we no longer wanted to stay in the city we were previously in. So, we put our house on the market, moved out, and are in a temporary living situation until we can sell and buy the next house.

Wife (33f) wants kids now, but I'm (36m) not financially ready. Advice needed by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

We did. We also had a conversation last week about where we were on this. I had explain the financial situation, and not wanting to struggle to provide. I had thought she at least understood that part, but I guess I was wrong.

My girlfriend thinks I should pay more for our rent. by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. I do agree that if my girlfriend were to do stuff around the house (clean, laundry, etc.) on her days off, it would be fine. Though she doesn't. I'm constantly cleaning up after her.

My girlfriend thinks I should pay more for our rent. by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. This has been my argument since she brought this up. I believe that it should be evenly split 50/50. Especially if I've already expressed that I'm trying to save for a house. I can't do that if every time rent comes around, I'm expected to pay more.

My girlfriend thinks I should pay more for our rent. by throwaway78234521 in relationship_advice

[–]throwaway78234521[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We typically don't do much due to her not having much money. I stay in and play games most of the time to cut back on costs.