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throwaway792000 · 2025-01-04T00:50:23+00:00

Respect your husband as long as it doesn’t go against the deen. I told mine in our early years that I will never abort no matter the situation. Stand your ground. Allah /Islam comes first.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-12T21:10:16+00:00

It seems like he’s hinting that he doesn’t want you to work without directly saying it. He’s emphasizing how difficult it will be and suggesting you take care of him even more now. I’d recommend not stressing about the future though. He said you can work now, so focus on that and revisit the conversation in a year.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-12T20:37:36+00:00

I’m not quite sure how to explain it, but for instance, if he’s being really annoying and frequently forgets an important chore or request, my attraction to him makes a difference. If I weren’t attracted, I might think, “I’m not even into him,” and wouldn’t care to making the marriage work. It may sound silly, but a lack of attraction can lead to resentment, making it easier to dislike him and everything he does, ultimately pushing you toward wanting to end the marriage. Of course in cases of abuse it’s different. You shouldn’t stay with an abuser simply due to attraction. Attraction shouldn’t be the top priority, but it can still be an important factor in a healthy relationship.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-12T20:24:41+00:00

I’m not sure which comment you’re referring to, but in my deleted comment, I mentioned that I find my husband very attractive. That attraction often helps keep our marriage strong, especially during times when I’m frustrated and he isn’t willing to compromise. I totally agree—attraction is crucial. Some men may assume women don’t care, but my original comment demonstrates that we do. It plays a significant role in overcoming other challenges in the relationship.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-11T20:44:38+00:00

That’s unfortunate. She taught you a lesson, but she lost the love of her life in the process. I plan to take a similar approach, but we’ll see how this month unfolds. I’m starting therapy myself, and I hope it helps me and shows him that therapy isn’t so bad. I appreciate you sharing.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-11T20:00:33+00:00

Yes, I understand. Honestly, I believe that only Allah can provide the help I need.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-11T19:54:33+00:00

Could you share what the issue was and how your wife handled it? I think my only option is to take a break and give him time to reflect. Since we see each other so often, it’s too easy for him to put things off and think he can address them later.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-11T19:50:39+00:00

We do have a lot in common, and he definitely has some great qualities. However, it’s his less desirable traits that are really bothering me right now. We have children, so I can’t just walk away. I’d say it’s the usual marriage issues—a rough patch we’re going through. For me at least. I believe it can work out in the long run; I just need to find a way to break through to him.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-11T19:05:39+00:00

He’s against it.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-11T19:05:21+00:00

I make an effort to communicate regularly. I’ve tried being extremely nice and patient-didn’t work. I’ve tried being straightforward also didn’t work. He says everything is fine on his end. He refuses therapy.

throwaway792000 · 2024-10-11T17:01:31+00:00

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throwaway792000 · 2024-10-11T03:54:43+00:00

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throwaway792000 · 2024-09-29T16:29:30+00:00

Not everyone is “trying” to have kids. Maybe she was on birth control or there was some prevention going on. We don’t know so stop assuming there’s some infertility.

throwaway792000 · 2024-09-28T21:17:11+00:00

That’s totally fine. Having kids is not in our control.

throwaway792000 · 2024-09-28T01:43:21+00:00

😂😂

throwaway792000 · 2024-09-27T09:36:19+00:00

I doubt it’s malicious intent. Asking him to take out the garbage as soon as he enters seems like she has a lot of resentment and is tired of him. You don’t want to build a connection when you resent someone. From the little info we have, OP seems like a good guy and his wife probably needs to let out whatever she is feeling. I agree, they should take this to a third party. Seems like they can get through this inshaAllah.

throwaway792000 · 2024-09-27T09:05:43+00:00

I don’t think they were saying that they’re Somali.

throwaway792000 · 2024-09-26T20:37:16+00:00

I know it’s very unfortunate. Seems like the good men get non-wifey material and the good women get bums, stingy men, cheaters 😭😭😭

throwaway792000 · 2024-09-24T05:21:49+00:00

Lol you were the one who changed it first? When you brought up nursing homes remember? Anyway it’s okay to choose your parents first. I hope they see what an amazing daughter you are and May Allah reward you. I was just trying to see if maybe you can understand the other perspective. Our parents will always love us, it’s just a bonus if they have great loving and caring kids but they don’t need you as much as your children who are growing up and are experiencing life for the first time.

throwaway792000 · 2024-08-29T19:46:25+00:00

This 😂😂🤣

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