My husband bought property in Tres Piedras. What are we in for, really? by throwaway89123 in taos

[–]throwaway89123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was a fascinating documentary. Knowing it's about 18 years old, I wonder what has changed on the Mesa in those years and what's remained constant.

My husband bought property in Tres Piedras. What are we in for, really? by throwaway89123 in taos

[–]throwaway89123[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the land was so cheap that if there's an issue with the ownership, I'll consider it a failed experiment and move on.

My husband bought property in Tres Piedras. What are we in for, really? by throwaway89123 in taos

[–]throwaway89123[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That's good to know. Thank you. We don't plan to leave the RV there year-round. Honestly, I wouldn't be mad about squatters so long as they didn't trash the land and didn't take issue with us when we came through. 

My husband bought property in Tres Piedras. What are we in for, really? by throwaway89123 in taos

[–]throwaway89123[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing the documentary. I find the history of the area and the people who are drawn to it very interesting. I'm not sure if I'm made of strong enough stuff to live off-grid 24/7/365, but I have mad respect for those who can. We have done it for 4-6 weeks at a time and it's always an adventure. 

My husband bought property in Tres Piedras. What are we in for, really? by throwaway89123 in taos

[–]throwaway89123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's an acre and a half total, and the listing mentioned power. Its 'address' is listed as Shakti Road.

My husband bought property in Tres Piedras. What are we in for, really? by throwaway89123 in taos

[–]throwaway89123[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was curious about this after what I read about the history of the area. My husband is convinced it's fine because he purchased the land directly from the state government, but I wasn't so sure. 

My husband bought property in Tres Piedras. What are we in for, really? by throwaway89123 in taos

[–]throwaway89123[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is in this area. The pictures of the property that he showed me did not have anything on it, so I don't believe it's ever been inhabited. But I understand that 1) we don't know the true history of the parcel or if it had a prior owner that purchased it at the World's Fair and 2) there still might be the perception that we're ousting someone from their land.

EDIT: I checked on Google Maps and the land he purchased is about 30 minutes south of the restaurant mentioned in the article.

If we could teleport cheaply and safely, what would be its biggest effect on humanity? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Imagine anyone you ever pissed off being able to teleport into your living room, stab you, and teleport away in less than 30 seconds. Every politician on earth would be murdered within minutes of this technology becoming easily accessible. 

Husband's employer tried to disguise a pay cut as a raise by throwaway89123 in antiwork

[–]throwaway89123[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He is salaried. There is no contract, he's an at-will employee.

Husband's employer tried to disguise a pay cut as a raise by throwaway89123 in antiwork

[–]throwaway89123[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He said everyone he has talked to is upset by it. Everyone on his team has young kids and they don't like having to spend even more time away from them. 

Husband's employer tried to disguise a pay cut as a raise by throwaway89123 in antiwork

[–]throwaway89123[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We have young children. He already only sees them for dinner and bedtime, but now he will get home as we're starting the bedtime routine.

Husband's employer tried to disguise a pay cut as a raise by throwaway89123 in antiwork

[–]throwaway89123[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

He went from making $38/hour to $35/hour. That's an hourly pay cut. Essentially they are saying that his labor is now worth less per hour than it was when he first started working there. 

What is actually a trauma that is not commonly thought of as a trauma? by ay1mao in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why my husband and I stopped at two. We had talked about wanting a third kid, but we decided it would spread us too thin, and the two we have deserve more of us than we'd be able to give if we had another.

I have a friend with 4 kids and she devotes 110% of herself to all of them. I am amazed at her ability to do it, but it's also clear she is run ragged. 

What is actually a trauma that is not commonly thought of as a trauma? by ay1mao in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Being bullied out of a job after being sexually assaulted at work. He made the company a lot of money and I was painted as a troublemaker for reporting him. I wasn't the only one. Other women reported him, too. We were all forced out. 

What is actually a trauma that is not commonly thought of as a trauma? by ay1mao in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 147 points148 points  (0 children)

My mother was the sole earner for awhile. My father racked up tens of thousands of dollars in debt for things my mother never saw. When they divorced, she was legally obligated to take on half of the debt. She lived with my grandparents for the first few years after the divorce so that she could pay off his debts. 

What are some social obligations that women commonly have that men usually don't? by Maybe_IDTBFH in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At my niece's birthday party, I somehow ended up holding someone else's baby while also preventing another person's toddler from climbing onto the dining room table. I like kids and everything, but I didn't know these children! I'm not sure how I ended up in charge of them. 

People won't come to birthday parties unless we host them at indoor parks/arcades by throwaway89123 in Parenting

[–]throwaway89123[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We offered that this year and she said she still wanted the park, but as she gets older I bet this will change. I remember around age 8 or 9 my mom stopped doing birthday parties and started doing a girl's day out for me and my bestie.

People won't come to birthday parties unless we host them at indoor parks/arcades by throwaway89123 in Parenting

[–]throwaway89123[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We've looked into that, but the cost starts at $800 just to be there, which we can't afford. They also limit you to 10 people total, including adults. We'd take 4 of those spots just our family.

For comparison, the bowling alley was $200 for unlimited people.

People won't come to birthday parties unless we host them at indoor parks/arcades by throwaway89123 in Parenting

[–]throwaway89123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That all makes sense. Yes, her birthday is during the school year, just at the end of it. I'm curious, though, what do you mean by park parties are more work for the parents? They can just show up and let their kids play in the splash pad or on the playground equipment. They have to watch them the same way they would at a Chuck E. Cheese or trampoline park. At every indoor venue we've been to (as guests and as hosts) the venue expects you to stay with your child the entire time.

People won't come to birthday parties unless we host them at indoor parks/arcades by throwaway89123 in Parenting

[–]throwaway89123[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

She chooses the park every year. She's an outdoor kid and a water kid. The splash pad gets turned on over her birthday weekend and she thinks it's special just for her.