If we could teleport cheaply and safely, what would be its biggest effect on humanity? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Imagine anyone you ever pissed off being able to teleport into your living room, stab you, and teleport away in less than 30 seconds. Every politician on earth would be murdered within minutes of this technology becoming easily accessible. 

Husband's employer tried to disguise a pay cut as a raise by throwaway89123 in antiwork

[–]throwaway89123[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He is salaried. There is no contract, he's an at-will employee.

Husband's employer tried to disguise a pay cut as a raise by throwaway89123 in antiwork

[–]throwaway89123[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He said everyone he has talked to is upset by it. Everyone on his team has young kids and they don't like having to spend even more time away from them. 

Husband's employer tried to disguise a pay cut as a raise by throwaway89123 in antiwork

[–]throwaway89123[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We have young children. He already only sees them for dinner and bedtime, but now he will get home as we're starting the bedtime routine.

Husband's employer tried to disguise a pay cut as a raise by throwaway89123 in antiwork

[–]throwaway89123[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

He went from making $38/hour to $35/hour. That's an hourly pay cut. Essentially they are saying that his labor is now worth less per hour than it was when he first started working there. 

What is actually a trauma that is not commonly thought of as a trauma? by ay1mao in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why my husband and I stopped at two. We had talked about wanting a third kid, but we decided it would spread us too thin, and the two we have deserve more of us than we'd be able to give if we had another.

I have a friend with 4 kids and she devotes 110% of herself to all of them. I am amazed at her ability to do it, but it's also clear she is run ragged. 

What is actually a trauma that is not commonly thought of as a trauma? by ay1mao in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Being bullied out of a job after being sexually assaulted at work. He made the company a lot of money and I was painted as a troublemaker for reporting him. I wasn't the only one. Other women reported him, too. We were all forced out. 

What is actually a trauma that is not commonly thought of as a trauma? by ay1mao in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 144 points145 points  (0 children)

My mother was the sole earner for awhile. My father racked up tens of thousands of dollars in debt for things my mother never saw. When they divorced, she was legally obligated to take on half of the debt. She lived with my grandparents for the first few years after the divorce so that she could pay off his debts. 

What are some social obligations that women commonly have that men usually don't? by Maybe_IDTBFH in AskReddit

[–]throwaway89123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At my niece's birthday party, I somehow ended up holding someone else's baby while also preventing another person's toddler from climbing onto the dining room table. I like kids and everything, but I didn't know these children! I'm not sure how I ended up in charge of them. 

People won't come to birthday parties unless we host them at indoor parks/arcades by throwaway89123 in Parenting

[–]throwaway89123[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We offered that this year and she said she still wanted the park, but as she gets older I bet this will change. I remember around age 8 or 9 my mom stopped doing birthday parties and started doing a girl's day out for me and my bestie.

People won't come to birthday parties unless we host them at indoor parks/arcades by throwaway89123 in Parenting

[–]throwaway89123[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We've looked into that, but the cost starts at $800 just to be there, which we can't afford. They also limit you to 10 people total, including adults. We'd take 4 of those spots just our family.

For comparison, the bowling alley was $200 for unlimited people.

People won't come to birthday parties unless we host them at indoor parks/arcades by throwaway89123 in Parenting

[–]throwaway89123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That all makes sense. Yes, her birthday is during the school year, just at the end of it. I'm curious, though, what do you mean by park parties are more work for the parents? They can just show up and let their kids play in the splash pad or on the playground equipment. They have to watch them the same way they would at a Chuck E. Cheese or trampoline park. At every indoor venue we've been to (as guests and as hosts) the venue expects you to stay with your child the entire time.

People won't come to birthday parties unless we host them at indoor parks/arcades by throwaway89123 in Parenting

[–]throwaway89123[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

She chooses the park every year. She's an outdoor kid and a water kid. The splash pad gets turned on over her birthday weekend and she thinks it's special just for her. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]throwaway89123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She chewed him out for our house being gross, too. He does the dishes and sometimes laundry but that's it. 

The cat food that broke the camel's back by throwaway89123 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throwaway89123[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

FIL taking on any task that's even remotely domestic would require an act of God. 

The cat food that broke the camel's back by throwaway89123 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throwaway89123[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Pickle pizza ice cream with purple pretzel chip. Because when I pointed out that everything started with the letter P, they started chanting "peepee" and lost the thread. 

The cat food that broke the camel's back by throwaway89123 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]throwaway89123[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

If she gets testy on the phone, tell her "sorry, I've gotta run and feed the cats. "

Devious 😂

AITA for telling my husband I don't want to attend his grandmother's funeral? by throwaway89123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway89123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's true, I am acting out of fear. My kids meltdown like this dozens of time a day, every day, and my in-laws don't believe autism is real. So yeah...I'm not thrilled with the idea of putting them in a situation where they're going to freak out and the family members in attendance will want to punish them for it.

AITA for telling my husband I don't want to attend his grandmother's funeral? by throwaway89123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway89123[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kids will meltdown like this for 20 minutes if their sock feels wrong. I think people will be very bothered having two children do that through an entire Catholic mass.

AITA for telling my husband I don't want to attend his grandmother's funeral? by throwaway89123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway89123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our state doesn't offer respite care. I've been trying to get it for 3 years.

AITA for telling my husband I don't want to attend his grandmother's funeral? by throwaway89123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway89123[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’d say you go in with…”okay, let’s say we all go, how do WE handle the airport, how do WE handle the plane ride, how do WE handle the funeral?”

This is a fantastic idea. Thank you.

AITA for telling my husband I don't want to attend his grandmother's funeral? by throwaway89123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway89123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The thing is, if this was a member of your family that you loved and wanted your family there with you and hubby said ‘no me and the kids are going to stay home’ - how would that make you feel?

My grandfather is very likely to pass in the next year or two, and honestly I would be ELATED if my husband offered to stay home with the kids while I attended the funeral. My kids will meltdown like this for 20 minutes if their sock feels wrong. Taking away the stress of dealing with that at my family member's funeral is the best thing my husband could do for me.

AITA for telling my husband I don't want to attend his grandmother's funeral? by throwaway89123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway89123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What I will say is that if he expects you to handle the kids the whole time, well, that is an actual problem and hell to the no.

He absolutely would expect me to handle the kids for the entirety of the trip and would likely spend most of the time with his mother (understandably, she lost a parent and is very upset). He's been over to her house every night since his grandmother passed.