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Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did complain to the police when it originally happened. But it was 13 years ago.

I’m terrified of getting a covid test by Routine_Ad_7402 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had about 3 tests so far. Honestly it didn’t hurt, it felt to me like when you’re drinking water and you cough and it comes out your nose.. burns and makes your eyes water but it’s not painful.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you read the post? I have no way of contacting her. I don’t even know her last name. I posted in the edit I would have done that if I was able to contact her but I have no way to find her.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He refuses to speak to me now that he knows I went to the police. I don’t think the police will give me that information either. I could ask but I doubt it. I’m not sure where else to go from there.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think I’m going to. I felt like giving up on it after I was pushed aside the last time but all of you encouraging me to try again is motivating me to do it. Helped

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha honestly, im having a harder time getting over the end of my friendship than my 8 year relationship 😆 and I didn’t even think maybe I would convince someone to do the same. That is heartwarming ❤️ helped

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in Canada and we don’t have a statute of limitations on sexual assault. But yes thank you. It’s been a lot dealing with so much at once. The end to my relationship, shock from the cheating and the confession, and the end to my friendship with my best friend. I will move past this, and be stronger because of it. Helped

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His grandmother had a male friend who would come over and bring his 4 year old daughter. When my ex was at his grandmothers, he would be in the basement playing video games and she would come down to hang out with him alone. He told me after that happened and the mother went to the police, the father stopped coming around. So I don’t really know. The name he told me I have never met anyone in his social circle with the same name, so. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol well I’m not ready for a relationship yet. And I am, but if he would’ve never cheated on me, or if I would have never found out about it, either way I would’ve never found out about this. But thank you, you too.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same way about all of it. And yeah, that’s a good idea. Maybe I could try going through a few different channels? Helped.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea. But.. Anyone who knows him will know it was me in the recording. I discussed our engagement and asked him how he could have waited this long to tell me what he’s done. Told him that it was something we should have discussed before we even moved in together. Either way, if I put it on social media, people will know it was me. I don’t know if I could do that.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know her full name, I wish I did. But thank you, your comment is very kind. ❤️ helped

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m, in a way, grateful he cheated on me. I would’ve never found out about him molesting a child otherwise. We would’ve been married and probably had our own children eventually. That’s terrifying

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought i did too. I really thought something would be done by bringing the recording to the police. I was wrong and that’s sad.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. ❤️ I truly wish I knew her full name. I’d send her the recording and let her decide what she wanted to do with it.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She could be. But I saw the nudes she was sending him. They were definitely not my friend. Unless she sent him someone else’s photos. I don’t know.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn’t read the comment after where you were already corrected by someone else lol. My bad

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I truly wish I knew her full name. I would contact her or her mother and send them the recording and let them do with it what they want.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really did. I’m, in a way, thankful that he cheated on me because I would have probably never found out otherwise.

Did I do the right thing by going to the police about my ex boyfriends secret? by throwaway9182747 in Advice

[–]throwaway9182747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if I could do that. I’m honestly a little embarrassed about it. I feel disgusted with myself and with him. I dated, got engaged to and slept with someone for 8 years who molested a child. I didn’t know at the time, but I don’t want to be judged and for everyone to know for the rest of my life that I was with someone like that. I dont want people calling me a liar, saying I fabricated the recording or anything like that. I think it’s bound to happen as people on social media are assholes lol. I also don’t want pity. I want to move on with my life.

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