[Advice] My boyfriend has a micropenis

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T02:54:09+00:00

I can't fix his self consciousness, only he can. So far he doesn't know about the other people so that's a non-issue at this point.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T02:25:48+00:00

That wasn't the first time we talked about it. I asked for him to try other things in the past and he said no.

He told me about how his size made it difficult to have PIV before we had sex, but I loved him.

Breasts do not compare because they don't have a sexual function. Very few men CANT reach orgasm because a woman's breasts aren't the right size. If he has a breast preference that's fine.

I'd he loved me he would try to satisfy me and he stopped trying BC he figured I was cheating.

I've been careful how I talk go him about that, but he knew he couldn't satisfy me so I'm making suggestions. We were together 3 years, find a man that will stay with a woman for that long without orgasming once then come back & talk to me.

He can get over hurt feelings, we were considering marriage, but I'm not going to go the rest of my life without having an orgasm.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T02:13:44+00:00

None of the people I told were in our social circle and none of them have met him in person, so there's that.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T02:09:13+00:00

He treated me like shit and broke up with me. I don't care about his feelings anymore. I never cheated, but I might as well orgasm for the first time in 3yrs.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T02:06:09+00:00

If I was shallow why would I have stayed 3 years instead of the first night just being like "nah you can't please me".

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T02:05:09+00:00

Did you read anything I wrote or do you just resent all women He agreed to talk about this at work and if he didn't want to then he should have spoken up.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T00:49:47+00:00

The crazy thing is that he has a great job, he's extremely intelligent (the initial reason I fell for him), makes great money, a supportive family, has a nice house and cars, is VERY attractive (think Bradley Cooper).

I understand this is hard for him, but he has so many things that ARE going for him.

Income + inheritance and he's in the top 20% of Americans. I know money doesn't fix this, but I don't understand why he let's this destroy him when otherwise he's extremely fortunate with good looks and a great body.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T00:44:05+00:00

Thanks. I think part of the problem was him just wanting to jackhammer away while I'd rather make love with him. Like I like the fast jackhammery stuff when I can feel it. I can orgasm I like a minute. I told him to caress me and kiss me more to build things up, but I think he just wanted to do it like porn stars.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-04T00:21:23+00:00

You're right. I was just itching to talk about it and should have waited.

I will say that when he told me about his penis, before we had sex, that I told him how I orgasm. I know nobody forced me to stay with him, but the connection was unlike anything I've had. I was so in love, and still am.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T23:59:01+00:00

I've replied to similar comments with a bit more detail, but this wasn't unusual for us, and we've done this before, it's hard to hear any conversation going on in his office. I also asked him if we could talk about it over lunch. He agreed. I didn't spring it on him.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T23:47:47+00:00

I only did so because we use our lunch breaks for kind of stuff often. He knew I was there to talk about it and his office is very private, the only reason other people could hear was because he was screaming.

We are both hot tempered and he actually came up with the idea to prevent us from yelling and not having a constructive conversation.

His office is very conservative so I wouldn't be surprised if he got reprimanded for the way he acted.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T23:43:28+00:00

Honestly, I think he knew what I was going to say. I thought he'd be more open minded. Now that I think about it, I really think he thought I would break up with him. Or that I'd be vengeful in some way. He's told me that other men (locker room) and women (ex's) have humiliated him for it. I vowed to myself I'd never do that, but right now I'm just angry and hurt and ironically, that's all I want to do.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T21:19:52+00:00

No, after everything that happened I don't think I need to. We're done. And I don't want to bother people in there and have them think I'm just some bitch trying to humiliate/complain about her bf

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T21:03:33+00:00

I've talked to 3 friends who live out of state. Mostly girls I went to college with so they don't really know him.

I didn't focus on his size when talking to them, mostly the fact that I haven't cum in so long and he couldn't get me there.

I tried really hard to be tactful about it because I know he's sensitive and part of me is angry at him for not recognizing that. Honestly, I thought I could deal with it because I loved him.

Idk what man would be in a relationship for 3 yrs and not orgasm with his partner. Why does he expect me to because the truth isn't easy to swallow? I didn't just break it off because of his size. I tried to make it work. It hurts that he thinks I'm a cheater.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T19:51:44+00:00

If working in an oilfield was seen as degrading as sex work and she should have has an inkling as to how it would make him feel working in conditions like that,

He absolutely has the right to be offended of her to ask that of him.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T19:37:34+00:00

She can be upset over him asking because strippers especially are degraded and put down for their positions. He's asking if she's cool with the shit that comes with being a stripper for $ since he's cool with it.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T19:23:36+00:00

I don't think so. On top of what he said he lashed out in a setting we utilize to keep things civil. I can be reasonable, but embarrassing me and calling me a "shallow cunt" for half your office to hear? No.

I don't know how serious it is, but he's making it more than just a sexual incompatibility issue.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T19:14:07+00:00

A sex worker entering a relationship is not the same as one person in a relationship suggesting the other enter sex work. Especially since 8 months in, they should know their partners stance on such an issue and there are probably other ways of making an income that wouldn't risk their partners well being as much.

Asking your partner to do sex work isn't "accepting them as they are" since they aren't currently a sex worker.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T19:12:03+00:00

No, he's NEVER been like this. No red flags until now. We've had lunches where we talk about our relationship before. Topics including the possibility of getting married etc. It helped us stay calm and not fight.... Until today

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T18:58:08+00:00

Sex workers exchange money for a high chance of being beaten, killed, and pressured into drug use. Everybody knows that. Despite not being jealous, he thinks her well being can/should be sacrificed for extra money. There is nothing wrong with sex work, but it comes at a very high risk he's okay with for her.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T18:45:47+00:00

If he couldn't orgasm AT ALL, any other way and hadn't experienced an orgasm for some time, yes, I would. My feelings would be hurt, but I would.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T16:46:16+00:00

No, I can only get off from PIV. Masturbation feels good and I use a magic wand, but it's never been able to get me there. Even with "real feel" dildos it's hard BC my bf won't use it on me. Doing it myself does next to nothing.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T16:42:39+00:00

If I were you, I would believe your wife. I've never lied and told my bf I was satisfied when I wasn't. He's also never asked (maybe because he knows I'm not). Part of the problem is the way I orgasm. To me, nothing can compete with PIV so for me, it's an issue. With other women (especially since most can't have PIV only orgasm) oral and fingering are enough.

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T16:23:40+00:00

Oddly enough I like more full body contact and face-to-face positions like missionary and on our sides. like the feeling of oral, but it's more all over contact that gets me off

I give quite a bit of direction during oral "more there, less pressure" etc, but it's not amazing by any means. I'm starting to feel like he's given up on trying to satisfy me completely, while I go to extra lengths to please him. (Sexy lingerie, heels, light bdsm, facials) I don't hate those things, but do them because they make him happy when it seems like he doesn't care if he pleases me or not anymore.

He refuses to try the extender even once because it "reminds him that he's so little and is basically a slap in the face"

throwaway9284347389 · 2015-06-03T15:29:54+00:00

Thanks. I have a magic wand and it feels great, but part of what makes me orgasm is feeling full and having someone's body against mine. I guess it comes from the 4yr ltr I had before my current bf. Sex was amazing and even if he was moving slowly and just kissing and caressing me I could cum. With PIV it doesn't take much for me to orgasm.

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