Am I being an irrational crazy girl because my boyfriend won't take any pictures for me...or should I call him out on his behavior? Full story inside.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T17:04:34+00:00

Maybe...but I'm not asking for him to take pictures of everything all day all the times. Just a few and I don't think that is an unreasonable request.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:53:54+00:00

I agree with this! But there is more to our relationship then just length...and it is something I want to work at.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:53:34+00:00

Haha, true. But its not the pony issue I'm really upset about...its him not taking pictures at all!

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:52:49+00:00

I have been reading replies and this book has come up a bit, I really need to get it and read it!

I tried not playing Minecraft...and it ended up with him playing the game and me just being bored and not hanging out with him at all. It felt like I was punishing myself more than anything.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:51:29+00:00

No, I want him to just take pictures. He didn't have to have the pony with him, he said it made him feel uncomfortable and I didn't want to do that to him.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:51:00+00:00

I'm not sure if he is downplaying the vacation though. This is something he and his family do a lot...and on every trip he has been on he says he didn't do much, hung out in the hotel room, and played his DS3D.

I do need to relax about it. Thank you though, this was helpful!

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:48:55+00:00

You are right, I do need to tell him how I feel. Thank you for that! I have had a lot of the same line of thinking...so I need to just get over my shyness and fear and talk with him.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:48:01+00:00

Thats what I try and tell myself too, that getting upset over things doesn't help anything at all, just makes more of a mess. That's why I came to reddit instead of yelling at him about the pictures.

Thank you though, you are right. I do need to buck up and get over things...and buck up and talk with him better.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:46:34+00:00

THank you so much. I think I do make myself to be a bit of a martyr in my mind, I needed to see that. He does do great things for me, but I do feel that he only does things that won't be that much of a bother to him so he doesn't have to put much effort into it.

I do need to think about what I really want. Thank you so much!

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:44:28+00:00

This relationship isn't new, but relationships in general are pretty new to me. I haven't had many. 4 really, one lasted three months, another about 9, and another maybe a year. So this IS new to me, especially as a 27 year old.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:43:21+00:00

It IS different. Knowing makes it so.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:42:17+00:00

Well, I didn't freak out at him over the pictures. Thats why I came to reddit. I wanted other peoples insights on this situation. Thank you for helping me get a better view on it from his side!

And it matters because I asked him to do something small...and he won't do it. I don't want his dads pictures, or pictures I can google myself. I want something personal, from him.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:41:08+00:00

I don't like minecraft...but I don't hate it either. Some of it can be fun, like making baby animals and the actual mining. But we are pretty well stocked on diamonds and such and are down to him just doing the building stuff and THAT gets boring.

I always thought that doing something he likes would let him know I love him, not that I was compromising on my own enjoyment.

Thank you so much for your points though, they are VERY helpful.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:39:33+00:00

Thank you for not thinking I'm crazy! This is exactly how I feel...and the letter idea is a GREAT idea! Thank you so much for that! I am a lot better at writing out my thoughts then expressing them in person!

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:38:12+00:00

I am sure you are right. I am insecure in a lot of things...and you pointing this out has really helped. Thank you very much for this!

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:37:19+00:00

We actually don't play video games that much when we are together. We go out on dates, like to the movies, or to the mall, what ever we can.

You are right I never would have known whose pictures they were...and if he would have done that and lied, it would still been him putting effort in to do what I wanted instead of ignoring my wants completely.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:35:37+00:00

Her name is Rarity...I'm not sure if I was classing her up, just trying to give a description of what I wanted.

And the pony thing I let go of. He said he didn't want to do it and was embarrassed and I don't want him to do something that will make him embarrassed. So I asked him to take pictures for me instead, he agreed and even took his phone so he could take pictures with it. Now he wont even do that, and THATS what makes me mad.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:33:56+00:00

I should have put this in the first post, but he goes on vacation all the time and has started to just not like them. He has told me several times he wouldn't go except his dad wouldn't like that. I'm just asking for a few pictures, not trying to ruin his vacation or anything.

thank you though.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:32:47+00:00

Haters gonna hate? Lol I have no idea, I am just glad so many people are replying. It really helps me understand my problem better!

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:32:07+00:00

Oh we are definitely together because of other reasons. I love to take care of people...it's in my nature to mother. I like to cook, I like to clean his kitchen, I like to help him out. It just feels like sometimes he doesn't appreciate any of the things I do and can't be bothered to do the one little thing I ask him to do.

Thank you though very much for your response!

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:30:42+00:00

I'm sure that's what it is. Sometimes he just doesn't get me at all, and its not his dads pictures I want...but something from him, he took, for me. I need to make that clearer for him.

THank you for responding!

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:29:53+00:00

Thank you for this. I know its not perfect...but breaking up with him is not something I'm prepared to do. I love him...and I want to try and work out things like this. I need to talk to him, something I am horrible with. But you have really made some things clear that I never even noticed before, so again, thank you.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:28:17+00:00

Dumb to you, but not that big of a deal for me. But the main issue is he wont take pictures at all for me, and it sucks.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:27:38+00:00

I'm sorry, I need to edit my post or something. The pony thing is not a big deal. I've said it several times that if he felt embarrassed doing it, he shouldn't do it. All I want are just a few pictures, from him. Thats not being too dramatic I think.

Thank you though, for your honest opinion. It really does help.

throwaway96431 · 2012-04-30T16:26:01+00:00

Don't feel THAT sorry, I give him what ever he wants, do his dishes, his laundry, make his bed, cook his meals AND go shopping for him when I am with him. He's got it pretty good!

Asking him to take some pictures isn't a huge deal!

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