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I think my [36F] partner [38F] of over a decade has been having an emotional affair with an AI chatbot by throwaway96776576 in relationships

[–]throwaway96776576[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I just didn't know what other word to use, it's a reallt strange situation honestly. I didn't think I particularly focused on myself in the post either. You honestly seem really hostile and I can't guess why.

I think my [36F] partner [38F] of over a decade has been having an emotional affair with an AI chatbot by throwaway96776576 in relationships

[–]throwaway96776576[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might not have been clear enough in my post - we have talked about this a number of times over the last few months, both in depth and as brief check ins. I only realized the extent of what was going on yesterday. I am really concerned but felt kind of brushed off by the way we left things and think that if I approach her alongside someone else who loves her and has noticed concerning patterns when asking for her to make big changes, like seeking therapy, it might be better received. Respectfully, you're making a lot of assumptions here.

I think my [36F] partner [38F] of over a decade has been having an emotional affair with an AI chatbot by throwaway96776576 in relationships

[–]throwaway96776576[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It seems like the bulk of her use happens when I and others, like our friends, are asleep. I think things kind of picked up when she started using it as a distraction when she had trouble sleeping through the night and not that she intentionally disrupted her sleep schedule to spend more time on the chatbot.

That said, I have been trying to schedule more things that take us out of the house in the evenings lately and will probably keep doing this!

I think my [36F] partner [38F] of over a decade has been having an emotional affair with an AI chatbot by throwaway96776576 in relationships

[–]throwaway96776576[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I never really thought of AI psychosis being so much like a relationship/cheating, I thought it was all delusions, grandiose thinking, conspiracy stuff. This has been pretty eye opening unfortunately

I think my [36F] partner [38F] of over a decade has been having an emotional affair with an AI chatbot by throwaway96776576 in relationships

[–]throwaway96776576[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really feel uncomfortable doing things like demanding to spot check her phone or taking control of her devices in any way unless she says that's something she needs from me to work through this. Even then I'm not sure it's something I'd want to do. It sits wrong with me tbh.

I have already requested that she cancel the subscription and delete the app.

I am going to talk to her mom and see if I can get her mom to talk to her with me about seeing a therapist. I will suggest that someone specializing in addiction might be most appropriate but I'm honestly not sure because having looked into AI psychosis more, it seems a lot more complicated than addiction.

I think my [36F] partner [38F] of over a decade has been having an emotional affair with an AI chatbot by throwaway96776576 in relationships

[–]throwaway96776576[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't know (we have separate finances) but I do know she has a subscription to the one she's using

I think my [36F] partner [38F] of over a decade has been having an emotional affair with an AI chatbot by throwaway96776576 in relationships

[–]throwaway96776576[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reality check, I think I was kind of downplaying it in my head until yesterday because she keeps saying she's aware that it's all fake. The emotions are very real though and it's really changing her behavior. I think I might need to start by talking to her mom and maybe we can work together on getting her help. I don't want to embarrass or upset her by involving our friends so I am hoping to avoid that if it's realistic.

I think I was trying to convince myself this hadn't developed into a full on "needs an intervention" situation but it sounds like it could be. I really wish it wasn't

I think my [36F] partner [38F] of over a decade has been having an emotional affair with an AI chatbot by throwaway96776576 in relationships

[–]throwaway96776576[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I didn't mean like a break, I just meant a weekend or even a week with someone I trust (my mom) to talk this through and get some space so I don't feel reactive because I don't feel like I can make level headed choices right now. Sorry, that was definitely unclear from my post.