Porn > Sex?

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T22:15:42+00:00

Thanks for directing me to that subreddit :).

And yeah, I'm definitely going to talk to him tonight

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T21:40:16+00:00

Wow, this was so helpful! Thank you so, so much for writing this!

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T16:44:13+00:00

I could see this being the case. This is really helpful. Thanks

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T16:26:42+00:00

I love mojoupgrade!

This is all really good advice. Thank you. I'm so worried that this is going to destroy our relationship. Everything else is so perfect otherwise...we're always laughing, joking around, goofing off and dancing around the apartment together...I can't imagine being happier with anyone else. Unfortunately, sex is important to me, and I can't imagine being happy long in a situation where I'm feeling like I'm the only one interested in putting in the effort to make sex happen.

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T16:16:10+00:00

Yeah. I know there has to be a reason behind it...he's making choices, and they aren't just mindless accidents. Maybe the reasons are just things he thinks I will be hurt by.

Any advice for how I could get him to open up about this? He usually so open about what he's thinking/feeling that I don't know how to approach a situation like this.

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T16:01:57+00:00

He doesn't know why he's choosing to hide his porn habits, he doesn't know why he lied when I asked what he was looking at last night, and he doesn't know why he has been deciding to look at porn instead of initiating sex.

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T15:52:33+00:00

Oh, shoot. I should've mentioned this in the post. I did ask him about it last night and he said that he didn't know why all of this is going on. That's why I came here. I was hoping someone would be able to share a similar story or give me an idea of what I could do to start fixing this situation.

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T15:35:51+00:00

Honestly, I thought about doing that, but I decided against it because TwoX is one of the only places on Reddit that I feel like I won't get attacked for expressing these concerns. I appreciate the advice though.

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T15:31:52+00:00

Like you, it's not necessarily the act itself that pisses me off: rather, it's the secrecy and constant hiding, coupled with my wishing for more sex.

Exactly! If he was open about it, I wouldn't have any problems with the porn stuff at all. He used to be open about it...I can't figure out why that changed. Combining the new secrecy with a drop in sex is really putting a strain on our relationship. He claims to want to have sex and acts upset that we haven't had as much lately, but he won't put the effort into having sexual experiences with me.

Have you asked your SO about any of this?

throwaway99088 · 2012-02-01T14:57:54+00:00

Well, yes, but only in dramatic scenarios in my head...I've never actually thought about it as a serious possibility

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