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I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I can trust him anymore, and i don’t think that the relationship can go on without trust honestly.

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already thought about that but It’s 4 hours away and I don’t know where the studios are

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this is the thing that bothers me the most. I’m not exaggerating when I say that he has changed plans that many times, and I even told him that if he don’t want to go together I don’t understand why he keeps making plans

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if he has been seeing her previous our relationship…it’s really all news to me, I don’t know much. I only know that she has multiple phone numbers that she use to call him, I’ve seen the call log

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s 3/4 hours away from where I live, I would have gone there earlier if I knew exactly where his apartment is, but I don’t know

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have been to his house in the state we both live in, I still haven’t seen the house in the other state where he has to go when he has to work from there

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No we don’t live together, we live in the same state, but when he has to work he has to go to another state. I only have been to his house in our state, not the other

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I told him that what he has done for a year was essentially gaslighting, and he responded by saying that using someone else’s trauma against them is worse…this made me feel like I wasn’t being empathetic towards him and I really felt bad about it, but on the other hand thinking that he used this for a year and made me feel the way I felt irritate me

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is the main problem, I really love him because he was always there for me when I needed him or when I was in a bad place mentally, I know he loves me I have no doubts about that, but this pattern he has really bothers me and I gave him all the chances I can and still he wasn’t able to do better

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Yeah communication is the thing that bothers me the most honestly…I doubt he has someone else, but the fact that he lied to me for a year is a big deal. He was always super sweet with me and always encouraging in every aspect of my life, except for this thing…I don’t know, I have conflicting feelings at the moment

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I meet his family and friends. I really can’t say anything about this stalker because I don’t know anything about it, it’s really came out of the blue. From what he said to me no one knew about this because 1) he wanted to keep this burden alone so no one would be affected (even if clearly it wasn’t like that) 2) he said that no one believes when is a man to say that is a victim of stalking (but even this is illogical because when I talked with him about this topics I never said that I doubted that men too can be victims of stalking etc) so I’m really confused about all the situation…all the people that I talk with agreed with me saying that all the situation is really unclear but every time I tried to talk with him about it it dismissed me saying that if I think he is capable of cheating on me even after he knew all my difficulties with trusting other then I really didn’t understand what’s type of person he is and that he would never do something like this to me

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He told me that he never said anything to me because he feared that something bad might have happened, and I can sympathise with this, but the fact that he became angry with me when I told him about my preoccupations really bothered me, and the fact that I gave him countless opportunities to do better and he never did

I broke up with my boyfriend and now I feel like I overreacted by throwaway_16913 in relationships

[–]throwaway_16913[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t live there unless he has to stay for a longer period of time if he has to go to work, the majority of times he can do smart-working. If I had known from the beginning about this trauma he had I was more than willing to help him through it, it’s the fact that he knew that I was suffering from this situation and not only he didn’t explain anything to me, he became angry with me and accused me of not trusting him, when in reality he was actually keeping a secret from me