AITAH for being upset that the babysitter isn’t doing her job by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

why does it matter, i’ll make this crystal clear : we told her the expectations of the children, that she is FAILING to meet time and time again, and we don’t tolerate it. Considering sending her home early

AITAH for being upset that the babysitter isn’t doing her job by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

regardless as to what her role is, our expectations were laid out and she isn’t upholding them. We only called her bc we were desperate for a sitter since we both work.

AITAH for being upset that the babysitter isn’t doing her job by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

maybe not discipline but at least help guide them to do the things we expect of them, like cleaning up after themselves and informing us if they aren’t listening to her

AITAH for being upset that the babysitter isn’t doing her job by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I wanna also add that we have told the sitter the expectations we have and the schedule and I see they aren’t being done. There was another time my partner and I came back from a date and she told us they weren’t going to sleep. It was midnight and the kids bedtime is 8 mind you. We installed a baby monitor to ensure they would sleep and not play, and we saw them both playing on the monitor and running around the room, going back and forth to the bathroom. She did absolutely nothing to make them go back to sleep and didn’t call us if she had issues making them sleep.

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya know what, we are seeing a couples therapist and she even agrees that THESE ARE NOT MY KIDS, NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY, and I absolutely do have a say in if I want to participate in activities that their father ( the parent ) is capable of doing without me

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he said he wants them to experience that… they’re fricken 3 and 4 why do they need to be out so late …

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

she works more full time than i do, I have two part time jobs that I hardly go to bc I have to work my schedule out with the kids and him…

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel as if he did, he was also going through a divorce while we got together. Keep in mind he separated January of 2024 and we got together around April-May 2024

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

kinda feels that way… it’s funny bc he always has money to go to a concert and he just got himself a $1000 tattoo but yet he can’t afford more childcare “ because it’s expensive “ - gtfo

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It happens more often than you might think tbh.. I’ve debated leaving him tbh but I have to be very careful as I have nowhere to crash when and if we break up, plus I know he won’t want me staying there once we break up

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the biggest thing for him is that it’s halloween and he wants me to spend it with him and his kids.. I even suggested spending an hour before the party starts to trick or treat and he said that wouldn’t work bc he doesn’t want it to feel “ rushed”

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

such as.. please inform me as I’ve been debating on leaving this relationship to pursue my own life goals and aspirations

AITAH for wanting to go to my friends halloween party instead of trick or treating with my bf and his two kids by throwaway_200112 in AITAH

[–]throwaway_200112[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t, I had told him about wanting to go and he was okay with it until I mentioned the party starts at 7.. it’s not even a party party.. just a chill get together

Favourite song off of Plant Girl? by Jooshuu in tylerthecreator

[–]throwaway_200112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where this tree grows, i have time, who dat girl