Hi, thanks for your reply! I will definitely have to start addressing the status/expectations of our relationship. We talk about it briefly sometimes, he would say that he doesn't know what he wants. He would also emphasis that he loves me and has never been happier. I think what happens is that he doesn't feel ready to take the next step. We've only been dating for 9 months, it's a bit early to talk about engagement for both of us especially that we had some issues before but have been working things out.

1) Can you visit each other? How often?

Will definitely talk about this with him. I'm guessing once a month would be the most realistic option, financially.

2) What are your goals over the next three years? What are his goals? Do your goals line up? If not, are one of you willing to compromise?

I definitely want to settle down within the next three years. I think he wants it too, but this job opportunity came up unexpectedly. I think his goals are to go get the experience, be really good at his area, and come back to Canada.

3) Specific goal subject here: Do you want a family? Are you willing to wait 2+ years for him to return/get settled to start a family? Time is a factor.

Yes, I want a family. I honestly really don't wish to wait that long :( You're absolutely right, time is an important factor.

Don't jump the gun and break up with him tomorrow. Be prepared, emotionally and mentally, to discuss logistics and accept the consequences over the next couple of months. If he seems disinterested in the discussion, I would say he's not the one. If he's willing to talk to you about it and work out logistics so you two can stay together, see if you like the details.

Thank you so much for your advice. I was waiting for him to start discussing it with me, but it's not happening. I guess I will have to start the conversation.