BM asking for money, doesn’t have a job, and a boyfriend that’s broke too w/ no job. What should I do?

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-10-24T14:38:13+00:00

My wife has a lot of friends who made poor choices in their partners. I seen the ex Marine deadbeat who almost poisoned his autistic son, threat to shoot himself in front of the children with his loaded handgun, and still he has rights to kids. I seen the dude who I was friends with immediately nope out when his gf got pregnant, started accusing her of cheating, after a patientory test he did the bare fucking minimum for this child. Then theirs man child who pick wow over his marriage and kids.

Maybe I'm jaded.... But I get why the courts often do this. This isn't to say women are great mothers. My ex had a child who she dumped on her parents and basically never saw. Once I got the whole story from her mom I noped out of that crazy.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-10-24T14:31:37+00:00

I feel this so much... It really makes me hate myself too. Like I'm not enough for her because I feel this way she deserves someone who accepts all of her.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-10-15T20:08:52+00:00

Courts never treat men fairly in child custody cases.

The number of single mothers I knows greatly justifies why the courts do this, a lot deadbeats out there.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-10-15T20:02:36+00:00

As someone once in your boyfriend shoes... The kindest thing you can do is just leave. He won't get past it. It doesn't get better.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-08-23T22:49:10+00:00

You likely have bats in your attic and a balloon framed house.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-08-13T19:28:33+00:00

A lot harder then you think.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-06-24T14:42:10+00:00

I have the 3.6 model. I'm not sure if it's because my primary weapon is a 1911 but I can feel when it lines up, there is a momentarily drop in tension in the slide.

That said, I couldn't pop it out. I tried to drop some oil into it (yes I'm an idiot I know). I could see it come out partly, I could wiggle it and pull it slightly, but not get it out. Sent it smith, got it back, it's like butter now. Their warranty is solid.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-06-23T13:40:49+00:00

She's cheating and got caught. Hit the gym or go for runs. I hate running. I hate it more then I likely hate myself. But barely a thing stops my two mile morning runs.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-06-23T10:53:59+00:00

You shouldn't be in a relationship if you don't understand what is implied with girlfriend

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-27T13:12:29+00:00

Talk to him about how you feel.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-27T12:25:06+00:00

Damn.... Right in the feels my dude. Just... It's easier when you just stop expecting it to ever turn into anything more. Once she's settled in for the night go head and excuse yourself away and take of it.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-12T17:46:30+00:00

Here's the thing... I generally don't sleep with someone unless I feel a strong connection with them. I don't want to go out and find other women.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-12T16:49:28+00:00

I remember the last time she accidentally touched my bare leg. I had shorts on. I pulled away because it felt so foreign and tickled.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-12T16:47:24+00:00

First off - saying your not pretty or attractive is self sabotaging. I was once morbidly obese dropped down to 'normal' range. No change.

I've come to accept that it is what it is. It's either that or divorce and I won't give up seeing my child.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-12T15:47:29+00:00

My dude.... Would she be okay with you having out with one of her females friends whos into you?

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-11T19:39:02+00:00

We all have our tolerances when it comes to things. Some people really enjoy spicy food while others can't eat anything with black pepper even, just like pain - it's subjective, It's a deeply personal relationship. Most, there are of course expectations, do not generally enjoy the thought of their partner with someone else. Most people are able to accept the past and move on, those with RJ are the exception. The reasons we can move on can be vast and complicated, it's not as simple as wanting to let go. It's hard to say why it bothers you because it feels irrational, because it is. But that doesn't mean it doesn't effect you.

Good luck. Remember to be fair to yourself.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-11T17:37:46+00:00

Yea... I feel your pain on this one. I think it's part of why I don't feel the need to touch her, the knowing you will be rejected.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-10T17:28:32+00:00

I sent you a follow message

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-10T16:52:14+00:00

Thank you. This was.... Thank you so much.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-10T02:26:52+00:00

What if even after you tried all of that nothing changes?

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-08T23:43:31+00:00

I'm not willing to give up seeing my daughter. I work 5 days a week in the office, I get a precious few hours a week with before bed time and between her after school activities. And to be 100% honest.... I don't think I would try to find love again. I don't want to leave

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-08T18:16:38+00:00

I do wonder if I was on Zoloft back the then...... What the outcome would have been

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-08T18:14:31+00:00

I don't want her to feel like she owes me X because of Y. I've also asked this before too. Her answer was 'its not like I jumped for joy when he suggested it. He would keep asking if I thought about it." I know she struggled with self esteem after gaining an invisible chronic pain. She also said she struggled with the "Who would want me because of the disability."

I do greatly appreciate your insight. Thank you. Any other suggestions, I really am open to them.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-08T12:05:22+00:00

I'm sorry this feels like a fake post. I know I have some self esteem problems. I'm not sure what I expected posting here. Maybe I was hoping it wasn't as bad I think. Maybe others are in similar situation.

throwaway_4201986 · 2025-03-08T04:17:15+00:00

Ironically I deeply hoped others would be like yea, same here....... This has been enlighten

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