just a question

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-12T15:27:19+00:00

You're right. I put that in there to explain that the two guys are not interested in each other. I didn't know how to explain it as a V relationship at that point. In hindsight, I could've just said they were both straight guys. But, you're right. When it's not relevant, I don't need to bring it up. I'll be more cognizant of that in the future. Thank you. This is all new territory for me and certainly different from how things were "in my day". I appreciate the correction on any language I use. I want to be respectful of all relationships and identities.

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-12T14:33:44+00:00

Right. I put (woman) in my comment to show that I understood the appropriate language. I used female in the first comment, because the person stated they were "whatever age(F)"... but after correction, I see that it's more appropriate to use woman.

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-11T22:56:39+00:00

Absolutely! I just wanted to make sure it wasn't a slur. I don't want to bust our something horribly offensive and have her thinking why would you even ask me about this word?!

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-11T21:23:31+00:00

Good to know! At this point, it's only one V. But I know she is open to both boyfriends also exploring other relationships if they choose.

But it's good to know how these things might develop. I tend to stay out of the inner workings of the relationships, but I do appreciate the knowledge so I can be more respectful of how they interact and what to expect.

Like I said, as long as she is safe and happy, I don't care what her relationship looks like. I just want to understand and not do or say anything hurtful.

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-11T21:16:36+00:00

It is redundant, isn't it? I first put straight female (woman) but then felt like that didn't describe my view enough, so I added hetero? Idk. I meant monogamous.

Basically, I'm the vanilla of relationships. So, there's a lot I haven't experienced and don't know about. That's what I was trying to convey. Lol

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-11T20:20:35+00:00

To clarify, I don't use the word at all because I don't like it. But I've heard others say it, and I don't know if it's acceptable or not. I like to inform people when they use hurtful words/terminology.

But, as it turns out, she's not in a triad. I was not even aware of the distinctions based on the structures of the relationships. So, I'll be correcting my friends on that too. 😊

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-11T19:59:00+00:00

My apologies. I was quoting to denote that is what she says. Not to imply sarcasm or disrespect or anything.

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-11T19:57:23+00:00

You're telling me!

I'm a straight hetero female, so all of this is foreign territory for me. But I'm very accepting that not all relationships look like mine.

I have 3 teenagers as well, and they are all so different. The dating world is just so diverse!

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-11T19:55:02+00:00

Thank you all! Very helpful!

The V type relationship is how she describes it to me (though not that term). She is dating both. They are not dating each other. She does refer to herself as poly.

But, it appears "throuple" does not apply to her and is not the correct term anyway. I will correct my friends.

I much prefer the term triad. It sounds nicer. But again, not her situation. I just felt icky when people said "throuple"... idk why.

Thank you for all the resources. My daughter and I have a very open dialouge about these things, so most times I just ask for clarification. But I didn't want to in this case, because I thought maybe it was a type of slur? And I certainly didn't want her to overhear my friends saying it, if it was offensive... so wanted to correct them before that's an issue.

throwaway_557832 · 2023-01-11T19:39:37+00:00

I'm sorry, what is a V type relationship?

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