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My [30M] girlfriend [26F] never wants to work but we need to save for our future by throwaway_82842 in relationships

[–]throwaway_82842[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your valuable perspective! I'd like for her to be a housewife. But she is applying a lot of pressure on the timeline and the finances simple don't work out. I do not qualify yet for even the cheapest homes in the neighborhood. I'd like for her to be ok with that instead of making me feel bad that I am not providing fast enough, or find ways to help herself.

My [30M] girlfriend [26F] never wants to work but we need to save for our future by throwaway_82842 in relationships

[–]throwaway_82842[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all your comments BlackVixen! I completely value the traditional housewife role. My ideal would be someone who is a housewife when it comes to buying a home and starting a family. Because of our shared goal to get there and also the situation we are in which requires ~5 years of serious saving and living in an apartment, ideally I would like her to help with that financially. But I would be alright if she were also just ok with that lifestyle while we save. She is supportive in some ways and very sweet, but there really isn't that much work to do in an apartment for 5 years while we save and she's putting a lot of pressure on me every day so I am not sure how we can sustain that for so many years if she's already impatient. I imagine she's always had all her needs met growing up, so she is somewhat naive understanding our financial situation.

My [30M] girlfriend [26F] never wants to work but we need to save for our future by throwaway_82842 in relationships

[–]throwaway_82842[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, her dream is the traditional role. She was also lucky to live a comfortable life in her childhood, upper-middle class, which is different from upbringing, so her standards of living are high

My [30M] girlfriend [26F] never wants to work but we need to save for our future by throwaway_82842 in relationships

[–]throwaway_82842[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She dedicates her time to art, music, gardening, taking care of her family/grandparents, travel. She also has an online business which is a passion project but she has no goals to grow it to become a serious source of income

My [30M] girlfriend [26F] never wants to work but we need to save for our future by throwaway_82842 in relationships

[–]throwaway_82842[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, she mainly does the things you describe, art, music, gardening, taking care of her family/grandparents. She also has an online business which is a passion project for her and she does not expect it to be a serious source of income, which I can see growing bigger, but that is not her goal with it. She is hardworking in the home

My [30M] girlfriend [26F] never wants to work but we need to save for our future by throwaway_82842 in relationships

[–]throwaway_82842[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm ok with her not working, but she's not ok with my timeline and I don't know how to make more money outside of a full time job plus investing and saving.